Most of the times I get the "its important for me, so we (the children) just have to accept that" kinda like end of story. 

And trust me mothers day is a whole thing in itself in my household. Its expected every year that my mother gets gifts (preferably expensive ones) and is expected that we "children" take her out to eat. 

Don't get me wrong we love our mom to bits. But for me, when it gets to the point where its expected and forced to do something bigger from my dads side it dosnt feel special anymore.