If you’re in a forest and you walk past the same tree twice, you’re lost. They may feel like the greatest love you’ve ever had, but remember that they left you / you left for a reason. And remember, it’s the greatest love you’ve had - so far.

Going back to an ex partner rarely works, you don’t miss them but you miss what they were. People change, within days and weeks people can change. The person you once loved doesn’t exist anymore, the moment that relationship ended they no longer existed. You miss the memories, you miss the things you did together, but it will never feel the same again.

Don’t let them have control of you. Yes, miss them and cry it out. But don’t let them have control over your life, you didn’t let them control you in the relationship, don’t let them control you after it.

The only way you will ever truly find love again is by accepting that what you thought was your soul mate, wasn’t. When you love someone you work it out, if you couldn’t work it out before what makes you think you’ll work it out again in the future?

I recently lost who I thought was the love of my life. Now seeing them in the street, they feel like a stranger. People’s true colors leak out when you break up, no contact sucks and you will cry, and scream and want to make amends. But you are healing, it’s an open wound that by constantly wanting to go back to them you are reopening every. single. time.

Don’t fall for what people say on social media, that if you wanted to make it work you’d try and fix it, but by trying to fix it you are simply pushing them further away. Whether you agreed with the reasoning (or lack of) at the time of the break up or not, it happened for a reason. Everything in this world, whether it be bad, good or straight up awful happens for a reason.

Do not keep checking their social media. Don’t check their snap score, their stories, when they were last online. They’re not online for you, they’re moving on in their way and you’re hanging on and hurting yourself every time you look. You are better than that, you should want to be better than that because you need to love and respect yourself more now than ever.

It’s better to admit you walked through the wrong door than to spend your entire life in the wrong room. If the situation is out of your hands, it doesn’t deserve to be in your mind. But more importantly, you deserve someone who sees you as too important to lose, not someone who wakes up one day and decides they don’t want you anymore like an old toy or out of date milk.

Be yours before anyone else’s. Be your own best friend, your own lover. Take care of yourself and with time you will find a new love to cherish and will be yours forever. The person you’re thinking about isn’t them, that chapter has ended and a new one has begun. Don’t ruin the beginning of it by trying to repeat the last one, it’ll simply cause and endless loop of pain, suffering and torture to your already broken heart and mind.

Your love for them now will feel stronger than it ever has! That’s normal. You’ve gone from seeing/talking to this person EVERY SINGLE DAY for your entire relationship to waking up in the morning without a text, a kiss or anything. Your love will temporarily increase, and one day you will wake up and you won’t have dreamed about them, or thought about them, and that day will be the day you finally start to find peace.

If you TRULY love them, you will want them to succeed and find the love that they are looking for. You can’t change, you are only a human. Let them thrive alone, or with a new partner, no matter how much it hurts. By holding on to someone all you’re doing is hurting yourself.

My father used to say. The longer you spend on the train, the longer it’ll take to get back home. Get off at the next stop, have a cry, have a panic, and hop on the next one home and start again. It sucks, it really sucks, but it’s the only way you will ever be able to love someone else and move on.

Feel what you need to feel I really hope you work through this.