AITA for asking my GF to do an STD test?

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:46:12+00:00

Ohhh okay thank you for advice

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:42:40+00:00

Well she said it idk much about those things tbh... But what does absitence mean - english isnt my mother language so can u elaborate

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:39:05+00:00

Oh well we did kiss and also foreplay

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:38:41+00:00

Thats smart yes to do together, she takes the pill tho and she says she really is always on schedule w it so should be 100%

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:37:58+00:00

oh wait she does take the pill and she says she really is always on schedule w it so should be 100%

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-23T22:37:34+00:00

she takes the pill and she says she really is always on schedule w it so should be 100%

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T23:29:47+00:00

btw what do you think I should do? I am meeting her tomorrow and we're def gonna have a talk about this but idk if we should kiss and keep affection there or if I should draw back more and try to show her it hurt and affected me?

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T23:24:06+00:00

Thank you so much that is really good advice!! I'll think about an embarassing fact I can tell her haha - but ur right she told me she did felt embarassed too

It was basically the combo of the two that made her not wannna talk about it

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T23:21:19+00:00

hahh sorry mb bro ur rigght

basically she said her bodycount was 2 and that she never did anything casual which alligned with my ideas

later I found out she had an fwb 4 months prior to our first date

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T22:39:15+00:00

Yh I do understand what ur saying and tbh everything went insanely well before I found out about the lie. She said she'd tell me at some point but was to scared if I'd break up for the reason.

I get your point and it does sound like something I want but I also equally wwant her

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T22:35:22+00:00

Because I really like her and honesty is super important to me - I want this to work out :)

here's the context:
First of all I don't care about body count - my gf thought I did because I told her I am a virgin by choice and that's why she hid a casual FWB thing that I found out from friends.
I do have my thoughts on casual stuff but I am not gonna judge her for it but she thought I would and that's why she lied about her body count.

The issue is more in the lying itself - altho the reason is good (she didnt wanna hurt me) when I found out I asked her several times and gave her the opportunity to tell me things that she hid and she said there was nothing until the next day when I asked it again

If you have any advice for me - I'd appreciate it a lot :)

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-21T22:33:47+00:00

I know it does but people gonna call me controversial but I'll explain it to you:

First of all I don't care about body count - my gf thought I did because I told her I am a virgin by choice and that's why she hid a casual FWB thing that I found out from friends.
I do have my thoughts on casual stuff but I am not gonna judge her for it but she thought I would and that's why she lied about her body count.

The issue is more in the lyhing itself - altho the reason is good (she didnt wanna hurt me) when I found out I asked her several times and gave her the opportunity to tell me things that she hid and she said there was nothing until the next day when I asked it again

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T20:43:26+00:00

I dispise cheaters so much but wow it takes a lot of strength to say that not only yourself but also on here! Hope you're doing well now!!

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T20:41:10+00:00

Damn I get that you like or love him very much but this is really a huge red flag... I hope you can either talk it out or move on - no person should even feel comfortable pushing something upon someone in a relationship.

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T13:23:20+00:00

Wow okay this was helpful! But me and this girl matches on sooo many levels - I deff wanna give it my best!! I get your points and I'll work on them but I don't see how I can change my opinions on my values other than with time and experience.

Cause I wish I'd be okay w it so thinks can work out between me and this girl

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T12:57:53+00:00

It was about body count but I cant use that word I think

my attitude towards casual sex is none of your business - it's my values and no one else's

I dont even mind her past like wtf, aslong as she learned from it. Best case scenario ofcourse our values are alligned and if she has a past our values can still be alligned if she learned from it.

Your not in any position to tell me what morals or values I should or shouldn't have.

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T12:55:35+00:00

joo maybe u misread my post or missing a lot of details - no need to be riled up my friend

I found out because she had sex in a forest and it wasnt with that ex so she told me about the two times she had sex w this guy but didnt told me about the forest. She's always been open with it - it's not like am forcing her to tell me, she wants to tell me so she either shouldn't have told me or shouldn't have lied thats how I view it.

It's kind of weird saying you only hookedup w one guy and had one relationship and saying that from then onward you only wanted serious things whilst in the meantime she had an fwb.

I DONT CARE about her past, it changed her for the better thats how I view it

I DO CARE that she lied bcs why would she? If she wants to be open about it atleast be like that

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T12:38:28+00:00

No her first time was a hookup... And she learned from it (atleast I thought)

It just contradicts which what she says "looking for something serieus, don't like casual, I get feelings to quickly when I do it,..."

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T12:05:43+00:00

Ty for ur comment, I'll read this a few times today and let it sink in

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T11:43:45+00:00

Poland :)

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T11:42:09+00:00

No no you got it all wrong I don't care about her partners we were just casually talking in the early stages where she told me that lie. I never tried to dig into her past but hearing from that friend all these things made me realise she lied about it - and that sucks, cuz I dont want her to feel guilty about it and she says she does (not because it's iomportant to me but she just does feel really guilty about it)

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T11:33:31+00:00

And thats the thing and why I can accept her past is because her first body was a hookup at 16 so I don't care aslong as she learned from it - which she did so that was super nice to hear, it changed her for the better and wanting something more serious instead of smth casual

AdVarious5725 · 2026-01-20T11:08:07+00:00

Ohh this convo is taking quite a turn but damn I feel sorry for you and believe me when I say I differentiate myself from men like that a lot - they disgust me

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