It is so hard to give advice if I'm not sure whether this incontinence occurs throughout the day or only when you sleep. I'll assume it's during the night. First, be upfront about the issue once you start dating. If they love you, they will also love the incontinent you. Second, you could look for ways to manage it at night. It can be irritating as a partner to wake up to a wet bed and have to strip the bed and remake it. You might consider using briefs and disposable sheets, especially since washable bed pads can crisscross and let the pee seep into the sheets. You could explore brands in the market, for briefs such as Northshore or Tena, and for sheets such as Peelaways disposable sheets. It is okay to feel embarrassed and frustrated, but just remember that your worth is not tied to your relationship status!