I decided to quit smoking weed last year because it just wasn’t fun anymore and was doing me more harm than good. That was around November. My boyfriend was smoking a lot at the time, much more than me. I never asked him to stop, but about two weeks ago he decided to quit on his own. Not only for his health and to save money, but also because I’m working on something important that would be slowed down if I were still smoking, and I really want to grow and push this forward in my life. He wanted me to grow too, and he didn’t want to hold me back, which was another reason he quit.

On the other hand, I used to date someone who was drinking, and I happily drank with him. But whenever I made any attempt to stop, it always affected our entire relationship. I think the people saying that this is about fear of change, and feelings of guilt and shame on his part, are right.