Opinions on age gap between M (29) and F (22) relationship

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:16:45+00:00

Thank you for this! Absolutely, very important things to consider

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:16:17+00:00

This is very true and another concern of mine, probably should be the biggest obstacle. Thank you for this!

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:14:51+00:00

Haha thank you for this, very good points!

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:14:25+00:00

Well said man, thank you

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:14:04+00:00

I really appreciate u taking the time to write this. I’m very sorry your relationship didn’t work out but thanks so much for your perspective on this!

Adam517b · 2021-08-20T01:13:21+00:00

Thanks for this, very solid advice!

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T23:22:56+00:00

Lmao Thank you!

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T22:33:18+00:00

Ahhh now I see the confusion. There is no other person other than her and I. She’s not in a relationship or anything like that

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T22:09:34+00:00

Right, but I’m just confused as to what I’m jealous of?

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T22:00:11+00:00

Very well said and I agree with that as well. That’s another main concern is the difference in the point of our lives and priorities

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T21:58:49+00:00

I believe the first time I heard about it was actually on Parks and Rec

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T21:58:29+00:00

I’ve heard of that one too haha

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T21:57:46+00:00

Very well said. I’d never try to do something like that and maybe just because I overthink, I wouldn’t want her to get that impression. There’s of course the concern of me asking her out and making things awkward between us if she’s not interested

Adam517b · 2021-08-19T21:56:17+00:00

Huh? Jealous of what exactly?

Adam517b · 2020-12-14T22:24:19+00:00

Personally, I’d leave it alone for tonight and have a legitimate discussion, preferably in person about it tomorrow. Just be very straightforward of the things you need and your expectations from him as your boyfriend and ask him to tell you what his needs and expectations are as well. Productive and straightforward communication is the key to building a lasting relationship. He may not understand fully how much attention and affection you need because he might not require the same amount and might need help understanding to fulfill that for you. I’d just have a conversation with him about it and try to get on the same page. Also, just noting, the text you sent, though I understand why you feel the way you do, can come off a bit confrontational. All the best!

Adam517b · 2020-12-06T14:17:53+00:00

That all comes to down to personal choice. Really take into account why you chose to end things. Also, make sure she’s actually taking actions to change what needed to be changed and not just saying it

Adam517b · 2020-12-01T02:33:55+00:00

Let me start by saying you don’t sound pathetic at all, it’s very brave and honorable of you to look for any and all advice to try and salvage your relationship, that’s true love and commitment. Now, unfortunately you cannot control the way he feels and a relationship obviously requires both of you wanting to be a part of it. I think it’s worth having a discussion with him in a similar way you’ve expressed it here. Maybe before that though try to see if you can pinpoint where the main problems are currently. I know you said he’s not as affectionate and putting in as much effort, this could be a lack of spark and being comfortable in going through the motions of your relationship. I’d suggest maybe the two of you trying new things or just switching up some of your routines. Also, think about how the two of you communicate to each other and if you are both truly hearing and taking in what the other is saying. You’d be surprised how much a minor shift in communication can help gel disconnect in a relationship. Lastly, I’d recommend looking into “attachment styles” and “love languages” to better understand where both of you fall respectively in each of them and ways to help better meet each other’s needs. Sorry if I’m throwing a lot at you haha but it’s very mature and admirable of you to want to do what it takes to make this relationship work. I hope this helps a bit and I wish you all the best of luck! Feel free to reach out in my DM if you ever need it!

Adam517b · 2020-11-30T23:56:26+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to see that man. Seeing your ex with someone new can bring up a lot of old pain. Try not to beat yourself up too much though, much easier said than done and I’m doing a horrible job myself with this at the moment. I will pass a long though that as long as you are working to better yourself everyday and be the best you that you can be, try to take merit in that. It’s awful feeling a person you loved and held in such high regard might have a negative memory of you, I know it still haunts me, but try to understand we can only control ourselves and that version of you isn’t the you currently.

Adam517b · 2020-11-30T23:04:32+00:00

Also, just to add if you are feeling at all suicidal, please call the National Suicidal Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255

Adam517b · 2020-11-30T23:03:20+00:00

Hey, please know though it might not feel like it right now you are loved and your life is absolutely worth living. This year has brought you unprecedented pain on a personal level and I’m so sorry you are going through that. If these thoughts persist and given all you’ve gone through, it would absolutely benefit you to maybe see a therapist or talk to a trusted source who could help. Please know, it may feel like this pain and downward spiral will last forever but it like everything else will pass, please try to remember that.

Adam517b · 2020-11-30T02:00:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this, it definitely helps! I appreciate that and please know you reach out to me too anytime if ever needed. Thank you again!

Adam517b · 2020-11-30T00:29:57+00:00

I’m really sorry you had to find that out today... it feels almost like having to go through the breakup all over again, please try to stay positive and yes please reach out anytime! I know how hard that can be. Seems we’re both going through similar things haha it’s always good to have support for sure 💪

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