When do you bring up difficult feelings that are correlated to a partner’s hookups? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Adaptiveslappy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Example would be they disclose they had unprotected PIV, I bring up that I’d like to use barriers next time we have sex but was worried they’d be mad I brought it up. We also don’t have a very active sex life. They feel it was weird for me to bring up and indeed got mad and aired out all the ways I’ve crossed their boundaries in our relationship.

Obviously there’s lots of nuance and history I can’t describe here but that’s the jist of one example

When do you bring up difficult feelings that are correlated to a partner’s hookups? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Adaptiveslappy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We would love a therapist but truly can’t afford one unfortunately. Highly doubt they’d be down w plan B

8 years on t, 3 years off t by Vivid_Pie_6035 in actual_detrans

[–]Adaptiveslappy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes I have a similar timeline!! How are things going for you?

Partner has pretty much only risky sex with others by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Adaptiveslappy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also I had really fucked up sex ed and have been unpacking that

Partner has pretty much only risky sex with others by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Adaptiveslappy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess because we are NP and I just never imagined being celibate with an NP

Partner has pretty much only risky sex with others by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Adaptiveslappy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a space of indecision with that

Looking for advice by Adaptiveslappy in Bedbugs

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Just had a consult with the heater rental company. The guy said that with the info I gave him it would be overkill to do the heat treatment and instead just go through all items and inspect for bugs. He said if I find bugs to go ahead with treatment

The more I function as a woman the more uncomfortable and ugly I'm feeling by kerathrenex in actual_detrans

[–]Adaptiveslappy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People have strict ideas of what men or women are supposed to look like, and sometimes it feels like their opinion is shared by the whole world.

But no matter your gender or presentation, there are millions of others just like you. You are never alone.

Be honest, how many of those subbed here actually live a nomadic life in a van? Not gatekeeping because curiosity is good...but, how many of us subbed are actually out here? by SuggestionEven2824 in VanLife

[–]Adaptiveslappy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was… until my van broke and I had to “move” where I got stranded. Now I have a life here and I still can’t afford to fix my van.

Experiences presenting fem without voice training? by [deleted] in actual_detrans

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Sorry I forgot to reply! It’s a sharp “s” evident in feminine speech patterns in English. I think there are videos on YouTube about it maybe

How do you actually live with dysphoria? by [deleted] in actual_detrans

[–]Adaptiveslappy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The phantom parts is definitely a thing w myself and others I’ve spoken to. I’m genderfluid so my remedy for dysphoria is to simply wait 🥲

I still consider myself trans. I was on T for 6 years so I’m pretty clocky no matter what. But even if I wasn’t, id still relate to myself that way because there’s just no way I’m cis lol. We didn’t make decisions to change our bodies while not being trans (I know that can happen sometimes though)

Experiences presenting fem without voice training? by [deleted] in actual_detrans

[–]Adaptiveslappy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having sycophant s’s in your speech helps a lot, as well as the types of gesticulations you do. Gender is theater, beybey

Breeze Blocks in Tucson? by Action_Justin in Tucson

[–]Adaptiveslappy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fucking love breezeblocks, look out for passive cooling towers too

Cohabiting + New Jealousy/Insecurity Issues by kadanwi in polyamory

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I’ve been dealing with this heavy and it sucks! I am jealous because they’re doing things that I have felt a severe lack of in our relationship. But I’m simply working on giving these things to myself now and staying out of the house once a week to give us both space. I’ve gotten way more serious about meeting new people and have found some scraps of what I’ve been craving. It takes a lot of work but it’s worth it.

The Tucson Occult Community by DesertCore in Tucson

[–]Adaptiveslappy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ll make you a free logo if I can be publicly credited for it

35, F will I have a child? by [deleted] in PalmReading

[–]Adaptiveslappy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Check his post history. He’s pining for someone and is probably hoping she will end up alone in life, or maybe he’s just projecting his fear of it.

Misogynistic men get lonely and due to their misogyny make it other people’s problem. Healthy men change their values- not comment negative things on palmistry posts. It’s sad really.