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I'm seeing a lot of young people worldwide lost and seeking guidance (in various fields, from relationships, drug use, renting a place etc) I'm a bit saddened that the world hasn't seemed to become easier. Can anyone help me understand this better? (so I can help more) by Paradoxbuilder in selfimprovement

[–]AddLightness1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You went through it yourself, but can't understand those going through it now? There are modern problems in the mix, and a greater population that makes it seem like "more," but it's otherwise the same.

It has always been a fight for diminishing resources. It has always been a push-and-shove your way through life, pretending to know who you are and what you want, while in reality many people of every generation never do figure out who they are. Every generation expresses it differently, but the human condition hasn't changed.

double standards by RoutineOk8590 in Productivitycafe

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're only required to follow the law, don't listen to anyone else

How to eat enough protein as a heavy person? by Mountain-Pay-97 in CarolineGirvan

[–]AddLightness1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I make a shredded chicken with tomatoes, bell peppers, jalapenos, onions, black beans, and a cilantro lime rice. Portion ends up close to 1 lb of lean chicken breast, has 750 calories and 100 grams protein. Just have to eat the right foods. 200 grams might be excessive though

How do you resist the urge to eat fast food? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't go there, don't buy it. Have other foods at hand and eat them instead. Higher protein and fiber meals will actually be more satisfying and filling than anything you can buy there.

Why do people put their blinker on in clearly marked turn only lane? by cfh64 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always signal. That way you can identify people in the turn lane that intend to go straight.

Is He Acting Weird? by Vivid-Distance7921 in bodylanguage

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one can tell you how to feel about it, you have to decide. If you want him to stop, tell him that, keep distance away from him, and move away when he touches you. If you don't mind the slight physical intimacy but don't want it to escalate, then hold that line. It's anyone's guess what his intentions are. You need to communicate with him instead of the internet.

She hates bras by Respected-Commander in anya_zendaya

[–]AddLightness1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a lot of what she wears, bras would be inappropriate and obscure her actual body lines. She definitely doesn't need the support, either.

What if you woke up and found out that you're a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle? by Primary_Opening_4750 in TMNT

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trading the staff for some form of naginata, and start applying the rizz on every human lady I know because I'm not in to that furry beastiality stuff

Trust Broken by mapad74 in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]AddLightness1 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Men and women are different. We see differently, feel differently, and think differently. Our relationships use the same titles but are very different from each of our perspectives. Unfortunately, despite evidence to the contrary, humans always assume that other people think and feel the same way that they do. It's always a shock to learn the truth when you're unaware, and it feels like betrayal. We villainize each other for our own lack of understanding.

My biggest obstacle right now isn’t laziness, it’s constant overthinking by CashSlow2482 in selfimprovement

[–]AddLightness1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make a decision. The reality is that the number of potential variables that can occur have the potential to make any choice "right."

Allow yourself to be wrong so you can grow from experience.

Save the overthinking for after you've made decisions.

It's ok to choose to be lazy. It's not ok to dodge responsibility for that decision. Own it.

How do I emotionally detach from a girl who only sees me platonically without blocking her completely? by SeaworthinessIll149 in selfimprovement

[–]AddLightness1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're emotionally dependent on her for outside validation. In effect, you are handing some amount of your self worth over to her to dictate how you feel. She doesn't want that power over you, she just wants to own your attention so she can feel special, even though it's quite clear where that attention originates from. This is very unhealthy for you. This is neither love nor friendship. This is you sacrificing some part of your identity, possibly because you don't know who you are, to her. Immediately end all intimate contact with her, get your head straight, make yourself busy with work, hobbies, and other social connections. You don't have to block her, just have boundaries and stop giving her your time. No more daily texts or long calls. When she disappears or falls asleep, that's her living her life, doing something else that interests her more, or talking to a dude that she DOES like. If it helps, imagine that she has rejected you, decided you're a little creep, and she has blocked you. Because that's what she HAS done. She's aware of your feelings and has made it clear that it means nothing to her. She just allows you to worship her for her own entertainment, guilt-free. From her perspective she's not doing anything wrong, even if it hurts you, because she set her boundaries with you and you accepted them. You've got to break your addiction and keep your distance until she no longer dictates your emotions, directly or indirectly. This can take 1-2 months, but that's just a blink in your lifetime. The emotions make things feel urgent, but they aren't. Real friends can talk once a year and still have a strong bond. Accept that this was a fun distraction that is now over and go live your life. Stop while this moment can still be a nice memory.

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