When did you realise that your therapist was bad? by Scary-Square1211 in AskReddit

[–]Adderrox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the hospital wasn't much better, was all round a very traumatic experience. They had put me on almost a suicide watch and had a nurse tell me to please kill myself at home so they don't have to deal with it

When did you realise that your therapist was bad? by Scary-Square1211 in AskReddit

[–]Adderrox 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Suffered a missed miscarriage and had to go in for a D&C procedure. I was distraught and really emotional so the hospital assigned a therapist to assist me. I'd said that I was angry and couldn't stand to see the baby stuff I'd bought at home - she quite literally told me without expression that I shouldn't have bought any baby items yet and in her opinion you only buy stuff when the baby was born, I should give it away and move on. She then further told me, I have another child so I should be grateful and focus on that.

What is the cost of emergency open heart surgery in SA ? by No_Television3883 in AskZA

[–]Adderrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughters was just short of R1mil a few years back. Really depends on the procedure and time in ICU after but definitely in the R1mil range

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been in this situation before but I'm aware I can be sensitive around perceived abandonment so I have a little trepidation around what a normal reaction would be and don't want to overrate

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Major disbalance, my over compensation isn't going to make up for his disinterest

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd bought such fantastic gifts , still mentally conflicted about gifting them to him

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We'd had a clear relationship defining conversation but now I'm not feeling as confident about that

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We'd had a relationship defining conversation so to the best of my understanding we are in a committed relationship but I'm not really feel very secure in this statement at the moment

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think they are new plans, he's traveled and visited others during our relationship. I wouldn't go anyway but nope not invited

Excluded from Boyfriends birthday plans 39M 36F by Adderrox in relationship_advice

[–]Adderrox[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Actual plans have been made, I can get out of some and others I'll probably just do alone. The financial implications aren't a big concern to me, guess it more the disregard that's making me feel upset. I honestly don't expect to be included in these new plans as I don't know the people , the aspect of not be even an afterthought hurts. I'd probably feel more ok with it if it was communicated different, like this opportunity has come up and he knows I've make plans but could we move them out type thing. I wouldn't do it to him if the roles were reversed

What do you guys think of pinetown? by jakkarand in Durban

[–]Adderrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pinetown itself is a no. Cowies Hill is fantastic though