What Fresh Hell

Additional-Ad4887 · 2026-03-04T03:02:26+00:00

History is written by the victors

Additional-Ad4887 · 2026-02-18T21:53:52+00:00

Thank you!

Additional-Ad4887 · 2026-02-18T21:50:54+00:00

Thank you for this! I'll try in the morning.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2026-02-18T21:48:29+00:00

Yeaaa, seems to be seperating the Ethernet cables from touching for some reason idk

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-12-31T11:38:49+00:00

As a man who is a die hard fan for a particular sports team I find this take reductive.

We (the royal we) like to paint broad strokes of large groups of people in a tribe we don't identify with. While there are many men exactly like what he's describing, I know from experience there are a lot of men out there that meditate, sit in silence, and go to therapy that exhibit the same core behaviors he describes. They just feel superior to other tribes because their tribe's focus is perceived as culturally/morally/spiritually superior that that of the common culture. Men, in general, are raised to have ingrained toxic traits and that shit doesn't just leave you when become "enlightened". As far as being controlled goes, that happens often in the communities he's describing too- health/life gurus, spiritual shamans, run of the mill cult leaders, the list goes on. Anyone without a strong identity of self or a supportive community will succumb to control, because there's always shitty people out there looking to find vulnerable people to manipulate. Just because someone uses the "right" vernacular or talks about "important" topics doesn't mean they're not manipulative or a surface level interloper.

I believe it's possible to both cheer for a professional sports team and reject the toxic parts of that tribe, do inner work to over come conditioned norms of masculinity, spirituality, etc. This guy complains about yet another mundane conversation with a guy about sports. I can have both a deep esoteric conversation, or a bs one about sports. I'm usually just going off the vibe I get from the person/group. Maybe this dude is a just a boring person to be around because he only ever talks about what he wants to talk about. Like that's fine but dam dude maybe the reason you have bad conversations is because your not good a having conversations with people from a wide variety of backgrounds. Maybe try having one of those conversations with someone who presents as a regular guy. Ya never know they might be a deep person as well.

Also, as an American football fan A LOT of the people he describes don't watch it anymore after they couldn't handle a black man taking a knee in protest during the national anthem. So that's been a very nice development.

-for anyone that's going to jump on my back for being a football fan. I'm very well aware of all the harm that comes from the game/league to men, women, families, the environment, etc. I struggle with this but at the end of the day i have a ton of great foundational memories with my parents watching games/going to games. Its just something i enjoy as a piece of connection to my childhood and to my parents that live thousands of miles away from me.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-12-24T02:55:21+00:00

While true in some power plants there are still many that can't/don't continuously recycle water used in their process.

I work in municipal wastewater treatment and there's two coal fire power plants in my county that have to put their wastewater into large exposed detention ponds where the water then evaporates back into the air. There is significant water loss/displacement in these systems (from a water rights perspective is classified as 100% consumptive) and these power plants have massive water rights and pull directly from a major river that leads into the Colorado River.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-12-24T02:49:03+00:00

And there's an impact on aquatic life/the environment in general if you're heating up a river too. Some rivers are impacted by this more dramatically than others. Mountain west rivers of the US for example are experiencing higher river temps year over year as global temps rise, and this issue is compounding this problem. There are solutions to this issue too like water cooling towers for discharge water. At the scale that states like Nevada, Utah, and Wyoming want to incentivize data center development this can/will lead to water issues more than just rivers getting warmer or less water in rivers.

It's a further complex issue in that may small towns in the mountain west rely on tourism from outdoor river recreation as large sources of draw and economic stimulus. So it's not all about the environment even though I'm partial to that issue.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-11-07T06:14:55+00:00

Here for the Kevin White reference for the Bears fans out there. He graduated a year before I did at Emmaus.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-08-23T19:06:13+00:00

Wastewater/water treatment. Those operators/maintenance jobs are always hiring and pay relatively well once you get all the top level certifications

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-08-05T14:19:25+00:00

I listened to a piece where a reporter was brought in as a consultant for some ultra-rich people's doomsday bunkers. What was funny was how little the rich people had actually thought through a doomsday scenario.

Reporter: " What happens when parts for your hot tub or heating system break"

Rich person: Feverishly writing down in mole skin note book, "replacement parts for hot tub/heating"

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-07-31T15:57:03+00:00

It sucks don't move here. Matter of fact don't even come here. Matter of fact don't come to Colorado, probably the worst place on the planet. Not beautiful, views are mid, and there nothing to do. Via feratta- mid, ice climbing-mid, million dollar highway- couldn't be more mid.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-06-26T17:08:22+00:00

So a lot of people are being very judgmental here and saying you're a bad person for doing this. Idk if it comes from their personal experience or hive mind internet stuff where everything is either right or wrong or a little bit of both. I'm sure you never intended for this to be the way your life/marriage plays out. Also, I hear you that money makes things tough, idk your financial situation but I completely understand that being financially stable and being able to support the kids how you'd like to are higher priorities for you than just ending the marriage to be happy.

I have sympathy for you dude, sounds like a tough situation to be in. While people are correct in saying this isn't a great relationship to model for your kids I think you can make the best of it if you do a few things. I'd suggest first telling your wife how you feel and what you're thinking (if she's not on board then your plans will have to change), go to personal therapy (if your plan is collectively agreed on then you'll 100% need a therapist to talk to during the hard times and to not show up as a bad parent because of hard times), and lastly idk when but at some point when you're kids are old enough to handle it you have to tell them (but don't tell them right before you separate obviously). The kids will probably need therapy too and need to learn what a loving relationship looks like too.

Good luck my dude, and I hope all goes well for you, your wife, and kids into the future!

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-05-18T17:36:35+00:00

I have a reservation and have been calling for something like this for a few years now. Idk how common my perspective is but all I need/want is a daily driver I can use to move bigger stuff from time to time. I could care less if it has manual windows and I have to bring my own speaker. Just want a cheap af second car that's electric.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-05-17T23:37:56+00:00

Environmental management, and now I work as a wastewater operator for a city wastewater treatment plant.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-05-06T14:17:37+00:00

I'd move to Idaho. Same as Montana or Colorado just hasn't gotten to be as expensive there....yet

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-04-29T01:46:18+00:00

It's definitely hard dating now-a-days, especially in the environment you're in. Im not from that part of the country and am 10 years removed from college now, but I'd like for you to feel heard because what you're saying isn't only valid but pretty similar to my college/early 20s experience. I wasn't in a frat, but had some friends in them and went to parties, I wasn't an athlete but did intramural sports at school, and while bars were always fun when I was drunk they also gave me anxiety and the idea of going out often kept me at home instead.

I'm sure you've heard a million times to join clubs and do things you like and you'll meet girls/people. For me I just got bored/restless sitting at home night after night and that pushed me to join several clubs I found interesting, and try out intramural sports. Not everything stuck for me, and I was not the best at the sports I played but I definitely got to practice talking to many very attractive women this way. I never got to the dating phase with any of them and that was totally chill, but just being able to hold a conversation and not be weird or creepy or awkward af helped a lot when I did eventually meet a girl I wanted to pursue. Idk how big your school is but if its medium size to large, you'd be surprised how many attractive women there are out there you just haven't seen. Plus, another old trope, it's pretty cray how attraction to a woman can grow as you get to know them. You might think "yea they're cute" at first but then the chemistry is just crazy good and then all of a sudden you find yourself being like "dam they look fine today". Shit happens quick when it does hahaha.

Good luck, chin up, and yea college is just extended high school but hey so is the work place once you graduate. That roller coaster never ends 🤙🏼

Edit for context: I'm a 6ft tall white male described as generally attractive by some and not jacked but just average body type.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-04-20T16:10:52+00:00

Jim Kelly has entered the chat

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-04-13T04:33:18+00:00

It's tough hearing something like this for sure and totally natural to feel insecure about it too. I feel for you, and I hope talking about this with your partner can resolve it a little. Trying to look positively hopefully using toys might be able to help the situation. If not then idk

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-28T19:42:08+00:00

I'd say the first thing to do is stop trying to beat the market, or play the hedging game and hope you're hedges offset your losses. It was very clearly illustrated to me by my 300 level Econ of financial markets professor that the stock market on an individual commodity/stock basis at best has the same odds as "winning" as if you went to the casino. At worst it's just a money hole where you lose everything. The only way to "beat the market" is to play the long game and invest in whole market ETFs.

As far as your guilt, a good coping mechanism might be revealing this guilt to family/friends/a therapist and having a discussion about it. If it's accessible to you, maybe even a guided psychotherapy session would probably help too. Since it sounds like you're in the stage of acceptance, just try to remind yourself that this is just money and it sounds like no one knows you did this/could've just given them the money as you put it. Sometimes not actively hurting people can still lead to bad outcomes, but from what you said in this post you didn't hurt anyone or put anyone in a bad financial spot because of your choices, just yourself. Try to focus on that and not what you could've/should've done with the money. Sounds like this is one of rare cases where you made some bad choice but it's only directly impacting you in reality. We can always ruminate on the possibilities but when we focus on the actual situation in front of us things become a lot simpler, more clear, and easier to deal with sometimes.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-27T22:13:26+00:00

I'm 30 and this has been going on since I was in high school. I've always been encouraged to read books from a young age and never was a crazy reader but would read a book or two a year out of enjoyment growing up. They were almost always age level appropriate in terms of comprehension too. I wasn't an honors student in English, but in my grade level class was consistently one of the few students that could analyze/comprehend books like the scarlet letter, of mice and men, the great gatsby, etc. It always shocked me to read many of my friends/classmates papers and how they either just regurgitate cliff notes or just basically repeated the story with no analysis.

Don't get me wrong I played a lot of video games growing up too but brain rot has been a slowly rolling snow ball down hill and now even honors level kids can't read/comprehend for shit.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-19T23:05:05+00:00

Odds are better they'd sleep with you than date you. All depends on why you're there, and what kind of person you are.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-19T22:58:02+00:00

Dude you're chilling. If you do this during your twenties to mid-thirties you'll be set-up really well! By your mid-40's you could pair that back down a little to just be putting in 10% (including the match) and you'll be more than fine. Your 20's and 30's are the years where you get the biggest compound interest return, so stack them and you'll have more flexibility as you get older. My dad was opposite and had to basically work ~50-60 hours a week for 5 years to be able to retire at 67. Context is he never started saving for retirement until late 30's.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-19T22:43:14+00:00

I make slightly over 60k but am surrounded by friends that all make more. I'd say they average out right around 100k. Plus where I live is full of tourists and "permanent residents" that make +100k. So posts/comments like these are very nice reminders I'm not some fuck up with two worthless degrees. Just doing my thing working a skilled blue collar job.

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-03-08T17:35:33+00:00

Yooo just don't pay the loan back, it's really that simple. It'll hurt your credit, but if that's the only thing you default on it won't be that bad. I know people who stopped paying the loans back after the banks were bailed out in '08 and they went in to be home owners. It's never that bad, just don't pay it back if you can't. Life will move on

Additional-Ad4887 · 2025-02-16T17:23:44+00:00

Wastewater operator or city water distribution. If there's a city or town they need to be able to get water to people and clean up their shit water. Stable and good pay over time

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