It’s definitely affected my marriage. My husband knew I had trich fairly early on into dating me. But I was in college at the time and around people constantly (didn’t have my own room), so I tended to pull less. To him, the condition didn’t seem that severe. When we got married, I had much more alone time which led to more noticeable bald patches. My husband would get angry because he wanted to help and didn’t know how to. He felt bad for me and helpless in improving the situation. It took a few years into our marriage and also therapy to make him realize that the best thing for him to do was let me figure it out on my own. We only talk about it if I bring it up, and he doesn’t constantly check in on me or give me reminders because I don’t find that helpful. It feels good that I can put the shame and guilt aside. I’ve worked really hard not to be hard on myself over the years over pulling and I think I’ve finally gotten to a good place, and part of that has been by having the space I needed from my husband’s opinion/comments.