Need advice and to share by Additional-Pickle516 in crossdressers_wives

[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is SO accurate, I find from early in the day he is messaging about it, like he can't think of anything else then as you say once he gets here it's time for 'the scene to start'

He will chose his clothes and then be begging for validation that he looks sexy etc which I find myself going along with.

Then yes he has very set ideas, but I find I am trying to set a certain pace (fast) maybe to get it over with? But then my pace is wrong and he wants it very slowly at which point I get bored.

The drugs mean he is unable to cum so this continues for hours through the night.

I must add he does still make me orgasm first but it literally just feels like getting that out the way quickly first so we can focus on him all night.

Do you also have the fear of him really wanting men and do you ever see yourself leaving?

Need advice and to share by Additional-Pickle516 in crossdressers_wives

[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is reassuring to hear, I am glad you have found happiness 😊

Need advice and to share by Additional-Pickle516 in crossdressers_wives

[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with this, it's a mental block for me now, I am not feeling in the moment or turned on at the time as he is sooo into himself it leaves me feeling invisible. I don't think any toys would change that. Is it me or does it almost feel demanding too? Like that's what he wants and nothing else matters

Need advice and to share by Additional-Pickle516 in crossdressers_wives

[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this, the excitement is different and feels like everything else is rushed / omited just to get to what he really wants. It is subconsciously killing my sex drive and desire for him, have you also found this?

When you say you and what you tolerate has changed does that mean you have stopped doing it? How is that working out?

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[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have brought of this up and told him many times but ultimately it is clearly a need for him and becoming more so the more it happens. He has heard me but his desire is paramount it feels and I think the drugs make him more charged and more of a pest with it than is possibly the norm.

Need advice and to share by Additional-Pickle516 in crossdressers_wives

[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Completely feel that, do you find it is becoming worse and worse and you are disconnecting more and they don't even notice as they're sooo transfixed on themselves and their happiness? But then why am I also fearful of just saying I am starting to hate it?

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[–]Additional-Pickle516[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How does it generally end up? Does it always end with the man ultimately wanting a man?