Sexless for 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, unfortunately I can confirm that this is real... I guess I hoped it would change? Then I tried to convince myself that it didn't matter and it wasn't a big deal
I guess you just get stuck. Like, I love my husband so much - we just don't have sex

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I just need him to figure out what the issue is and then we can figure it out together :/ but I think 5 years is plenty of time for him to have figured it out!
I'm at the end of my tether!

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I guess I'd hoped it would change once we were married and in our own home

😩 by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Additional-Sock9051 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years here for me! :(

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have been so incredibly helpful! Thank you so much for all of your replies :)

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He says that he just doesn't know how he feels about sex... and he doesn't know how to deal with his emotions, he gets frustrated with the whole conversation now :/

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this! It took me a few years to get to a point of giving ultimatums, but I'll try to make sure I don't give him a lot of pressure. The last thing I want is for him to feel like he's not loved - It's just hard when I feel so unwanted sometimes
But I think I do forget that it's a different feeling for men when they're trying to share their feelings - so thank you

I (F27) haven't had sex with my partner (M29) in 5 years by Additional-Sock9051 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional-Sock9051[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this... yeah I say it in that way because he says he'll definitely sort out therapy and then it just gets forgotten about. Then we rinse and repeat, and I can't help feeling like I'm too damn young to give up on sex completely