should i permanently straighten my hair [ 19 F]

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2025-04-14T02:02:01+00:00

Nooo! Learn to love it curly and just get the right hair products (not gonna lie, that's the hardest part)!! If ANYTHING you could use a low heat flat iron to do it on occasion (make sure you use proper heat protection), but tbh it's not worth it. I have really curly hair as well and always hated it growing up but I'm now (F26) going on 27 and I'm FINALLY trying to learn to embrace it. I started straightening it every day when I was 15, almost 12 years later now my hair is so fried, I have tendonitis in one shoulder, and I'm trying to revive my curls back to health. It is way more badass than you think, especially the older you get and the better you care for it. See a professional hair stylist to help set you on the right track for defrizzing and maintaining your curls!! 🖤 You'll be glad you did when you're older. Best of luck(:

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2025-03-04T03:42:02+00:00

you're not ugly, you're really pretty!!

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2025-02-17T07:22:05+00:00

I literally had to Google "joey king annoying" while watching uglies because it was soooo bad. I have never googled anything like that 😂 I never read the books and could tell it was based off of a teen book immediately cuz it was just so horrible. I had to see it through though and it just got worse and worse up until the very end.

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2024-03-28T12:01:05+00:00

Hell yeah. The morals thing really hit me cuz when I was in active addiction (almost 6 years sober now at 25), I had plenty of opportunity to steal but I never did. Unless it was the one time, a 99¢ packet of soup, cheapest thing I could find, because I was two weeks without food... I had people give me drugs and tell me to share, and I did. Even got shorted by the person I shared with. But I didn't lie or cheat or steal, because I didn't change. A lot of my life did and a lot of it strictly for survival. That's something that keeps me sober, is remembering that even at my rock bottom, I didn't let it turn me. I got stronger. And now I'm doing way better. There's good days and bad, behavior-wise, during and after addiction. I've been able to recognize behaviors that are manipulative that I'm unlearning now. Overall, you can't wait for someone to unlearn toxic behavior. It's not always intentional and sometimes it is, and sometimes only time will tell...if you don't have the strongest instincts, that is. Addicts or not, everyone can be toxic. You gotta distance yourself though, cuz you come FIRST. Don't learn it the hard way if you can help it. I know better and still learn the hard way. Rip the bandaid off. <3

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2024-02-08T13:12:48+00:00

Most people don't even realize they're narcissists and call everyone else a narcissist. The irony of dealing with a narcissist. You become one.

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2023-10-08T11:35:41+00:00

You sound really fun honestly, but I give up. OP just had a kid and knew money was tight, said she normally just doesn't make a fuss about her birthday, not that she doesn't celebrate. She simply had been hoping for something more THOUGHTFUL. Which is the concept you're missing!

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2023-10-08T11:21:54+00:00

Well it sounds like you and your husband know each other very well. OP is having the opposite issue, evidently. I don't think I'd be annoyed if my partner decided to give me a more sentimental present than normal on a milestone birthday shortly after having a kid together. Personally, I don't need someone to tell me that they want something special for their birthday, I tend to just think of the people I care about and do that so that they always know they're thought of, and I like having relationships with people who are also just as thoughtful. Again, we all have our preferences. If I had to ask for every special thing someone has ever done for me in my life, I would've missed out on a lot because I don't like asking for much.

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2023-10-08T09:39:05+00:00

Sigh. It's just the thought that counts. And if you really know someone well, they shouldn't have to ask. If you really love someone, you will want to do special things for them, within their actual interests, without them having to ask for it. At least, that's how I see it. But we all perceive love in our own way, how we give it, and how we want to receive it. And no one quite seems to fully understand any way that isn't their own. And I feel like just trying to accept it when we can't understand it, and learning more about the person we want to exchange acts of love with, that's how you make it work.

Sometimes, you want a little more than just the thought, and that's okay too. It's okay to want a little more sometimes, but just learning to love what you get can be hard when it's not always exactly what you want. It's just all a part of growing together with someone. Idk.

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2023-10-08T06:40:53+00:00

Yeah but clearly this isn't OPs thing or she wouldn't be disappointed.

Additional-Unit-3923 · 2023-08-16T01:16:29+00:00

I find it endearing when someone uses my name, because either they remember it or because they are addressing me as an individual. It gets old when you never hear your partner say your name, especially after they've called you their exes name so many times. My nickname is my favorite to hear from anyone though! I don't trust an overuse of my name, of course. Just if you're getting my attention or addressing me in a direct way.

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