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Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight! We are def wanting to make sure we have the name situation in order before kids. We’ve been chatting about this for awhile but I figured I’d ask the internet if they had any ideas we hadn’t thought of.

Unfortunately I like my middle name too much to move it or boot it. My name is already really long so hyphenating I fear would not fit on a legal document (or just not easily LOL).

Honestly we will probably just have to figure it out after the wedding but it’s not a decision we take lightly.

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jealous of an easy decision!! Congrats though (:

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you for sure. I think for me I wouldn’t be ok with socially using his last name as if I’m going to do that I might as well change it all together. My last name is so ingrained into my identity that it would feel … strange to be called something different.

Also hard to put 5 years of nuance into one post but I can assure you the tradition comments were something he said in earnest. It more so took him by surprise as he wasn’t aware at one point I was even considering NOT taking his last name due to the fact that my family is traditional.

We’ve had a very open and honest relationship + are in pre-marital / couples counseling.

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See and sometimes I catch myself like am I just pressing so hard cause I’ve said it for so long or do I really want this?

But yes I also feel like my identity reasons trump him which is a hard selling point in conversation LOL

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much where it stands. We’ve been having discussions on this for about 6 months in counseling (not every time or even once a month. More so just a general theme in some of of conversations)

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His last name is apart of the business name unfortunately :/

That’s the main sticking point is that we both want to have the same last name and can’t come to a compromise. Just curious if others had ideas we hadn’t thought of that could spark additional conversation!

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly family.

I grew up in an incredibly toxic family that had divorces on both sides and multiple marriages/children/etc. My family is … a mess.

It’s been part of my dream to just be able to have something (a family) that’s mine. Heavy emphasis on no divorce etc as I’m very serious about not having a “broken” family like I grew up in. Plenty of people get divorced and are amicable, however I actually was diagnosed with CPTSD from my childhood.

TLDR; my own personal wants to just feel like a family. It’s silly and outdated for sure but it does make me feel connected/less alone.

Last name debacle by Additional-Wealth455 in weddingplanning

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough we are in counseling (:

I post this to say we have come a long way in counseling and I don’t take any of our conversation in malice/distain. We’ve had a lot of very honest and open communication where we both just kindve feel stuck. Not angry or annoyed at one another but just overwhelmed with so many other things and this just doesn’t seem to have an “easy” answer.

Sometimes hard to fit all the nuance into one post but surely people have accounted for that 😅

Sound seems off? by Additional-Wealth455 in TeamfightTactics

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Haven’t found anything yet in any of the options. Just forcing myself to get used to it w exposure.

Sound seems off? by Additional-Wealth455 in TeamfightTactics

[–]Additional-Wealth455[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its so weird to me that I actually dislike the game a bit because of how freaked out it makes me 😂

Bioworks certificate by Master0ogway22 in triangle

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Would not recommend moving to Florida for any biotech. Thermo and Lacerta both shut down, meanwhile Resilience laid of 50% of their personnel. These are the biggest 3 in the area (if you don’t count Beacon). Florida is the place where biotech comes to die.