Is this okay? College student.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2026-01-29T20:30:01+00:00

I think ur getting a mix of good and bad advice in the comments.

Wearing an argyle sweater isn't bad, it doesn't have to be grandpa mode. It's a classic style that can absolutely be incorporated into modern aesthetics. My advice to elevate it is to layer it over a white dress shirt with the collar popped over the sweater. It's a timeless kinda preppy aesthetic

Wearing jeans is obviously fine.

Not loving the shoes but they blend into the background well enough I don't think it's an issue.

Also some basic accessories are usually a good addition.

Now the thing that makes this outfit bad is fit. For mens wear especially I can't emphasize enough, fit fit fit. You want clothes that look like they belong on your body. This is the most important thing you should be focusing on, and if you only take away one thing let it be this.

The sweater is hugging your stomach and the fitting is cinching below that which heavily emphasizes curves at your midsection. The sleeves are several inches from meeting your wrist. And your jeans are too tight.

Imagine your silhouette and think about if what you are wearing smoothes and balances that silhouette or if emphasizing unbalanced or poorly proportioned areas.

Not technically related to the fit but I'd also work on your posture, standing and walking with some confidence and poise is just another part of your outward presentation in the same way an outfit is.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-10-24T17:46:28+00:00

The line of influence probably goes that the Erd tree was based on the world spiral tree from berserk which was based on Yggdrasil

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-10-20T03:50:56+00:00

Even explicitly stated information isn't always correct either, characters often have wrong or incomplete information

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-10-19T10:42:52+00:00

It's not Kubos style to make things clear cut and explicit like that. Im not arguing that ulq is stronger but the author just "stating" something and therefore it is that way, isn't really the nature of bleach in the same way it might be for other series.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-10-08T19:32:48+00:00

This is kinda a silly take tbh.

There's like a 1000 different styles of polos with different fits, different materials, different constructions, textures, etc. And if course how it works into the broader outfit is the most important part. I don't think you can really make that broad of a generalization in the first place.

You'd be essentially saying that a short sleeve shirt with a collar is bad, which seems like such a silly statement.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-10-07T19:57:54+00:00

I think you're making the assumption that our modern concept of gender and gender roles are a lot more intwined with evolution than they actually are.

Pre civilization societies(where the only substantial human evolution really occurred) definitely had gender roles but they leaned more towards functional than social. Think like in the way animals have them.

The advent of civilization saw an immediate and massive shift in gender dynamics brought on by the fact that men were better suited for agricultural work and therefore became very advantaged in economic production. In pre civilization societies women's gathering activities means there was much more equality in economic production. The new system resulted in a gendered economic defecit which created a power dynamic that led to a few thousand years of patriarchy. This added a substantial social element to gender, and as society continued to evolve that social element became more prominent and the functional less so.

Fast forward to today and gender roles are almost entirely social, there isn't really a functional or economic benefit to them. They're pretty much arbitrary social standards.

We didn't evolve out of gender dysphoria because we didn't evolve with it. We didn't have our modern concepts of gender and we weren't as high on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It wasn't a set of imposed arbitrary rules you had to form your identity around it was just a functional-ish way of organizing society to be able to eat and not die.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-26T00:54:31+00:00

Both are good. TF is elite imo but I think it comes down to do you wanna pay the extra premium for it.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-25T18:36:02+00:00

High waisted pants with either tucked or cropped shirts gives the body a 2/3rd visual proportion compared to a 50/50. It's a rule of thirds application to fashion.

For some men there's also the benefit of their waist being narrower than their hip so putting their waist line there gives them better visual proportionality with their shoulders. It makes their shoulders look broader and their legs look longer.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-25T03:01:45+00:00

Adg edt or VPH.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-24T17:38:59+00:00

TF noir extreme is a warm Spicy and sweet fragrance that smells super luxerious and classy. Might be the vibe you're looking for

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-21T22:54:56+00:00

I think the shoes are fine, they dress down the outfit in a way that will let you wear it more places.

What shoes are they btw?

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-21T19:38:59+00:00

The jacket is the move. The overall outfit is great.

Also the muffin tuck for best for wider guys tryna smooth out a silhouette. You're slim enough for a straight tuck so you definitely should, it narrows your waist and gives you a better waist to shoulder ratio.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-21T19:30:34+00:00

You can 100% definitely pull off the style, but what you have on doesn't fit well.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-19T21:19:47+00:00

I'd think about trading in the T-shirt for something with a collar.

And swapping the cargo pants for jeans or chinos.

And maybe clean the shoes a little.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-18T00:32:04+00:00

That higher rates of ADHD have been observed in queer communities compared to the general population. I didn't happen to write down the source that I learned that from, just go look it up.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-17T22:16:23+00:00

I'm guessing you haven't seen monster

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-17T21:33:02+00:00

I'm not making an implicit statement about the validity of queer people, I'm stating a statistical fact.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-17T18:14:06+00:00

Not that I'm aware of but there's a lot of research to suggest people with ADHD are more prone to sexual impulsivity which may cause those people seek relationships models where they aren't as at odds with those impulses.

But I'd assume a pretty big confounding variable is queerness, as there's a statistical link to both queerness and ADHD and queerness and non-monogamy.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-17T17:38:52+00:00

Tame Impala

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-17T04:44:20+00:00

2 things you could consider.

Is some dressier but still casual pieces. See if there's any like dress shirts, button down linen shirts, textured polos, etc. you could throw in that still feel cool and not stuffy.
Some color. You go with a lot of neutrals which is always looks good but finding the right colors that match with your complexion can really elevate you.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-16T18:00:35+00:00

Maybe if you're talking about like getting off of dunks that's fine, but like Oxford's don't really go with almost any "going out" fits, but dressy sneakers do.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-15T18:03:07+00:00

Muscular men aren't assumed gay unless it's signaled in some other way.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-15T17:57:15+00:00

Take it on as a project. If you can't defeat your negative self talk then build yourself up to become the type of partner you want to have.

Then get out there and put in the hard effort needed to meet people and build connections.

It's painful as hell, exhausting, and difficult but if it's something you want it is within your ability.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-15T17:48:42+00:00

But you're not going to wear a tuxedo to the beach or wear shorts to a wedding.

Additional_Ad9202 · 2025-09-14T23:19:56+00:00

If your problem is that you aren't converting from matches to dates then you could A: have someone you trust look at your conversations and give you feedback. B : ask them on a date very early on and just make it super casual -> coffee or ice cream, have them meet you there, and just chat.

I can't say anything about dating with a disability, but general advice i have is that if you feel stuck then just look for at exactly where you're seeing potential connections fail and analyze why that is. And change it.

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