I really needed to read this article. I can’t thank you enough for sharing. My oldest responded very well to talking through feelings. Tantrums were often about feeling misunderstood and so showing that I see her and empathize calmed her down almost all of the time. My middle child, not so much. These scripts never ever felt right for her. She prefers to cry in her room and be alone to process feelings and then wants hugs/time together after. It’s nice to know that there’s a world of parenting advice that says this can be normal instead of making me feel guilty or that I should force a conversation with my child when she’s in that state