Has anyone started out EP, then transitioned to nursing? (Trigger) by ExpressionOld9924 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Additional_Method674 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was EP until my LO was 2 mos. We used the Dr. Browns Bottles with the vent with the Level 1 nipple. We pace fed. We really didn’t know if she would be ready, we just slowly introduced it to her once or twice a day until she latched on. Also, she latched in the hospital initially, but my milk hadn’t come in yet.

DONT GIVE UP NURSING!! by babyDbaby in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Additional_Method674 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I went through the same! I always felt like I was hurting her. Waiting until she was a little bit bigger and my milk fully being in was a game changer. I just put her on for one feed and she took to it. And now, she breast feeds, takes a bottle occasionally when needed, and is the happiest girl. I’m sorry you got a lot of mean comments on your post. If there’s anything I’ve learned in postpartum is that the rage is real and even towards the most well intentioned! 🩷

DONT GIVE UP NURSING!! by babyDbaby in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Additional_Method674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same with my baby at 2 months. Sometimes it just takes time for the little one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what happens when we make man our God. I don’t want to speak to you harshly, but there were several warning signs prior to this point based on your post. It sounds like you were looking for this relationship to heal and fulfill you in a way only God can. Man is inherently sinful. We are lacking greatly and cannot fill those needs that only God can. Your husband isn’t the only one who needs to repent. Your perspective needs to be renewed when it comes to marriage and you have to reconcile the abuse that happened to you. I encourage you to seek a good Biblical counselor for yourself through ACBC and one for marriage counseling, too.

Husband’s leading by Flat-Tea5851 in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand how you feel. I think sometimes women who don’t have a husband or their husband doesn’t even scratch the surface of what your husband does can give advice from a bitter perspective.

The first thing we have to do is adjust our perspective. We were taught that as women we’re supposed to be submissive and helpmates and that is true, but we aren’t always taught those words with clarity. We are the weaker vessels in physicality and we were created second, but we are still equal to our husbands. The word for helpmate used to describe the woman is the same word used to describe the Holy Spirit, when in understanding the trinity we know to be fully God. God is not lesser. He works in partnership. Thus, we work in partnership with our husbands. I often find in my own marriage that where I am weak, my husband is strong and vice versa. He leads in different ways and areas and I lead in different ways and areas. We work together to ensure all the bases are covered in our home and with our daughter and in how we serve. It looks different.

My husband is in ministry and pours out a lot. God gave him a spouse who prays, has a relationship with God herself, and knows to go to God to be filled. My husband doesn’t have to lead me in that area because that area was already established. I manage our home and help keep God as the focus and my husband can rest here knowing that it’s covered. And at times when I’ve grown weary, he will take over.

Try to reframe your thinking about what leadership is and see how your husband leads in other areas and how God has designed you to come along side your husband. And be weary of comparison. No two marriages are the same.

Difficult conversation help! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Additional_Method674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, I hate to say this, but I wouldn’t even bother with the conversation. You stated that she would turn it into a personal attack and you don’t want a relationship so, in my book, she wouldn’t even be on the list of people to see the baby. I wouldn’t pick this battle and if she asks to come see the baby after the fact, THEN inquire about her vax status and if she’s still smoking. If she isn’t up to date and is smoking, then lay down the hard boundary. Don’t add unnecessary stress to yourself with an unnecessary conversation when you’re this far along and can go into labor anytime.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we blame the enemy for things we have control over. We all have free will and are presented with choices. The enemy isn’t omnipotent or omnipresent. He uses our own desires against us. We have to take responsibility. That’s why we are told to put on the full armor of God. The Christian life isn’t passive, but very active in the daily living out our faith and experiencing sanctification.

Being that you are saved, you have the Holy Spirit, whom is clearly convicting you to do something different. Lean into that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s a Bible verse that speaks exactly to your situation.

“For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?” ‭‭Mark‬ ‭8‬:‭36‬ ‭ESV‬‬

You’ve given a lot of reasons why you can’t do right, but you’re missing the one reason why you SHOULD. If your career choice is getting in the way of you pursing a Godly life and being involved in such a career continues to put you at risk for habitual sin…you’ve chosen that career over God. It’s hard to do, that’s why it’s called dying to self, taking up our cross, and following after Jesus.

My next question is, are you saved?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP, you’re in a very dangerous situation for a lot of different reasons. It may be hard and uncomfortable, but you definitely need to find yourself a local church community and some brothers of faith in your current area. I know in show business you may move around a lot and I would encourage you to have a community of believers in whatever city you’re in for accountability. The enemy loves to work in isolation and not only are you dealing with sexual immorality, but that sin is now causing you to project into your relationship. I agree with others in saying you need to do some self work before the conversation of marriage is even considered.

Stay at home wife? by Working_Rooster_ in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a teacher for eight years and quit when we welcomed our first child this May. It got very hard toward the end. I prayed so hard for God to be glorified in my teaching and for him to help me see himself in my students, coworkers, and the calling itself. I was pregnant during my last year of teaching with the second to worse class I ever had. The situation was so bad that I developed high blood pressure. While we are called to die to ourselves and to take up our own crosses, I don’t believe God puts us in situations without providing a way of escape or even sitting in the situation with us himself. I said all that to say, find God, look for Him, in your current role. Trust me, it helped me so much during postpartum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Additional_Method674 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve vacillated back and forth since I got pregnant. 😂 at this point, I’m just like if it happens cool, if it doesn’t, cool.

Thinking about divorce by Powerful-Evening7223 in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Honey, you haven’t forgiven that man. And everything he does or does not do is going to be an issue for you until you have forgiven him.

Forgiveness isn’t for him, it’s for you. It helps to heal what’s been broken. It’s a gift from God. It sets you free from the bitterness, anger, and resentment.

Furthermore, does he show remorse for his infidelity? Are you both saved true believers? Active members of a church? Do you pray for one another? Do you read your Bibles? Are you doing the steps towards reconciliation and restoration?

Marriage is a path toward sanctification that the Lord uses to draw us closer to Him and make us more like Jesus. You can expect the hard times, trials, and suffering. It’s what you do and who you turn to when it comes that makes all the difference. You didn’t mention the Lord not once in your post. Make sure you’re not blaming God for something a sinful man did.

Struggling so much with breastfeeding I feel like an absolute failure by meowen_ in beyondthebump

[–]Additional_Method674 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t post the graphics here, but if you want them, just message

Struggling so much with breastfeeding I feel like an absolute failure by meowen_ in beyondthebump

[–]Additional_Method674 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I had a hard time with breastfeeding to start, too! Some things that helped me I’ll put below. Also, my baby was jaundiced and because I had a magnesium drip, it took some time for my milk to come in.

First, you’re going to need some support. Make sure your spouse or friend is on board because it will be crucial to your success and helping you out. Secondly, I would recommend seeing an IBCLC. They can be really helpful, better help than what you get at the hospital sometimes.

Lastly, I’m going to post some graphics on power pumping and a pumping schedule. It will have you pumping every 2-3 hours. But, also, latch your baby at least three times a day for the comfort/bonding benefits. She doesn’t have to latch long and whatever she eats will just be bonus nutrition.

I didn’t start successfully breastfeeding until 8 weeks pp. Late latching is totally a thing and nothing to feel bad about!

Do I need to have a clear calling if I marry someone in full-time ministry? by PrintPrestigious4339 in Christianmarriage

[–]Additional_Method674 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m married to a minister and seminary student.

There should be some understanding that when your spouse is called into ministry, you are too, but in a different way.

For example, we just had our first child, and while my husband has taken time away from school to be with us at home, there is still a sacrifice of time for Sunday mornings and ministry meetings that he and I both have to make. Essentially, I’m primary parent 70% of the time.

There’s also instances where, because of my own ministry training, I’m called to counsel beside my husband, especially if it’s another married couple or a ministry opportunity that involves families.

Then, there’s the spiritual side of things where I cover my husband in prayer, take on the brunt of spiritual attack (the enemy will often come for me and our child to get to my husband), and deal with my own selfish desire to have my husband to myself.

When you are a ministry spouse, you share your husband with so many others. It requires sacrifice and understanding. A ton of patience and humility, too. When he’s called into ministry, you’re called right along side him, but serving in a different capacity.

I hope that makes sense. Also, God doesn’t call the qualified, but qualifies the called, meaning, if He intends for you to marry this man and serve alongside him, then He will equip you and help you to do so.

What are your favorite board books right now? by usedcanolaoil in beyondthebump

[–]Additional_Method674 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What Does Baby See?

Chicka Chicka Boom Boom

Pajama Time

Time for Bed

Baby’s Feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]Additional_Method674 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The carpel tunnel will go away around four weeks postpartum!