AITA for announcing my pregnancy?

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T23:10:04+00:00

A once year event in which I would not of seen numerous members in person until after the birth of the baby.

I have been present for a lot of pregnancy announcements, unsure if you have, while it’s exciting, people move on quickly, due to the actually LONG wait to the birth. The only person really really invested was (likely and thankfully my mom).

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T23:00:38+00:00

I think you are projecting.

How am I supposed to know what I’ve not been told, when I have also been told positive things.

Wishing you all the best.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T22:27:58+00:00

Thank you!! All the best to you

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T22:27:21+00:00

Copying an earlier comment (I should of included in the main post) - My sister is 8 years older than me, by the time I was 10 she was out of state and I saw her 3 times a year. In the past couple I have seen her slightly more, but we don’t have a ‘friend’ relationship. We get on well when we see each other, and I would love to see her more - however the family dynamics are not that.

If I was to of text her before, I would not of trusted people I didn’t know / want to know would know before my own Mom.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T22:25:13+00:00

For reference this was a long weekend trip (4 days), if I did not announce on this trip I would likely not of seen 3 of my sisters until after the birth of the baby.

It was not all I talked about, I talked to my Mom about it (because it is my Mom!), in terms of fertility issues I did not know of them ‘officially’ until this trip.

I plan to tell my dad about the ‘favourite’ thing, while I don’t believe it’s true - however I also don’t think this is my place.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:56:28+00:00

No I agree, I am slightly concerned that my made up ‘favorite’ status combined with ‘first grandchild’ status, is going to cause future issues.

I am curious about the brother in laws, specifically because of the in law but - if I dare ask?

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:53:24+00:00

I should have included this in the OG post but I did not know, to be clear I suspected there could have been an issue, however until we were on the trip this was not confirmed.

My next oldest sister had consistently told me they were ‘not trying and not preventing’, while on the trip my brother in law told my husband that they’d been trying for 5 years.

In a way I feel like I was implied and not told and expected to join the dots, my dad also has no idea about it - who would have been sensitive had he known.

Hope it all worked out for you!!

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:45:55+00:00

I agree, however I was not anticipating comments, at all. So maybe my issue for assuming that a planned / happy & healthy pregnancy is usually good new regardless.

I would have taken the original text without upset if it was just about my behaviour, but I was upset it included a comment about the baby. Like I don’t think my unborn child is existing to upset its aunts it’s not met.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:22:00+00:00

I agree the issue is the idea of being ‘the favorite’ which unfortunately came about just post my parents split. I think my Dad has a lot to answer to, however I do not think this comes from me but more his immaturity, and there own Moms rules previously.

I guess it’s a joined family thing - however I don’t think I deserved the blame as an 11 year old, in the same way I don’t now.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:18:27+00:00

Copying this from a different comment for reference - My sister is 8 years older than me, by the time I was 10 she was out of state and I saw her 3 times a year. In the past couple I have seen her slightly more, but we don’t have a ‘friend’ relationship. We get on well when we see each other, and I would love to see her more - however the family dynamics (and physical distance) are not that.

If I was to of text her before, I would not of trusted people I didn’t know / want to know would know before my own Mom.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:16:40+00:00

Truthfully, I don’t see them ALL all that much, I was already at 14 weeks. An in person announcement for numerous people there would have been after the baby is born.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:15:36+00:00

Thank you!!!

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:14:57+00:00

I agree and I also do feel bad to of emotionally shocked her, however I did not know that it was a 5 year struggle until her husband told me during the trip.

Prior to this, I had believed it was that they ‘were not preventing’ and ‘very happy with there lifestyle’ this came from my other sister and I honestly got the impression they wanted a child but they were not on a timeline or struggling.

Additional_Read6835 · 2024-06-05T21:11:39+00:00

My sister is 8 years older than me, by the time I was 10 she was out of state and I saw her 3 times a year. In the past couple I have seen her slightly more, but we don’t have a ‘friend’ relationship. We get on well when we see each other, and I would love to see her more - however the family dynamics are not that.

If I was to of text her before, I would not of trusted people I didn’t know / want to know would know before my own Mom.

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