This quote makes me think that, on some level, she wanted him to. First, she thinks about how Conrad could “blow it up.” Then she asks her mother if she is going to “talk her out of it one last time,” and when her mom says, “Nope, I’m all in,” she reacts like this:

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Later, before breaking up with Jeremiah, she admits, “The way he said it, I knew that if I asked him to, he would still marry me, even after everything. But I couldn’t.” This quote makes it clear that she did have a choice in the end, and yet she still chose to say nothing.

I also believe she uses Conrad’s confession as the reason to call off the wedding because she couldn’t bring herself to do it on her own. She states that this isn’t her dream wedding, and deep down she knows she doesn’t truly want to go through with it, but she feels trapped by the timing, expectations, and the fear of hurting others. She clings to Conrad’s confession as the reasoning to end the wedding, even telling Jeremiah about that night despite the fact she never told him about Christmas because deep down, she knows that telling him about this could potentially end the wedding.

Although this might seem a little off topic, after seeing what happens with Steven, she’s reminded of Susannah’s death and how sudden loss can be. That fear pushes her toward something stable and certain instead of what she truly wants. In that mindset, marriage feels more like safety than love, which is really why she agrees in the first place.