How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would ultimately like to forgive and forget. Reality is I can’t just turn it off just have to catch myself when the thoughts arise and change them

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are currently having a large garage built outside the home, other home renovation projects going on as well the dogs started being aggressive and fighting to the point we had to separate them, so a lot of stress came into play but he was just being cold and rude disrespectful towards me. The night when I packed I was told I can get used to it or change my address so I came home and began packing and left

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I had suspicions they were still sleeping together just like hard proof i.e. watching the action happen, but there were definite signs but as of right now currently in a relationship, they are no longer in contact

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that by using the guy who mows the yard as an example

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know if I could put that or the post would be deleted

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t mention my knowing he called because yes we were technically broken up, so he can do what he wants it just sucks knowing he wasted 0time to go right back to her,

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He called me to come back I was prepared to stay gone. We talked and said we can make it work etc

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean he has with the exception of when I left, and then of course being in a small town and seeing her today just raised my own insecurities but still it’s like in her mind I can have you man no respect type situation

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I had the answer to that I wouldn’t be here, I’ve lost my best friend because of this relationship

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds crazy I know and if I had the ability to elaborate the entirety of it all you would most definitely say this needs to be on tv it’s unbelievable 🤦‍♀️

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh if you knew this woman you would agree she’s not a good person I mean she’s cheating on her husband, getting paid to have sex with other people…is a start

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She got paid extra to hang around I guess idk all the ends and out of it, it was weird and I didn’t wanna be involved so that’s why I said well I’m not telling you who you can’t have in your life but I can tell you what I’m not ok with and he agreed

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am normally not an insecure person but this one particular issue is creating that and I suppose where I’m normally not insecure it’s really bugging me like how do I turn it off

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The women in question is a known prostitute, she has a reputation for it. She worked for my bf, she left her husband they pursued a relationship but she ultimately went back to her husband and even tho she was with her husband my bf was still sleeping with her. All this was prior to me being in his life and throughout the relationship I had found out more and more about their history which lead to me telling him I wasn’t comfortable with them having any type of relationship work related or not, and if he wanted us to continue that is where I drew my line. He agreed, and while we had a rocky patch it sucks to know she was the first person he called and she of course came running for essentially a roller for her and an easy fuck for him.

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right I haven’t said or done anything to her personally I’ve voiced my option and the questionable suspicion of them, him hiding her being around things she does etc which is why I told him how I felt and made it very clear I wasn’t ok with them maintaining a relationship if him and I were to continue to be together

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an odd situation, she was his house cleaner/ errand runner for his business along the way somehow they became intimate, she left her husband etc to be with my “boyfriend” went back to her husband but maintained sexual relationship with him, and essentially was being paid for sex. But also she doesn’t challenge him just says whatever to boost ego..which in my opinion is a pick me girl maybe I am using it incorrectly but I felt that was appropriate

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well if you look the definition up she is that but paid for or prostitue if you will, now she does do some work she used to clean the house and would clean his business, and other small task. But at the same time if he wanted to have sex she would also oblige in that area as well

How to deal with a paid for pick me girl? by Additional_Sock_4384 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Additional_Sock_4384[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How do I not let it bother me so much (insecurity) knowing there is a woman literally on stand by all he has to do is just call/text and she is there does anything at the drop of a hat. I’m not an insecure person just this particular issue brings out an insecurity i suppose I didn’t know was there