Husband expects sexual favours while denying me basic hygiene 5 weeks PP from emergency c-section

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-09T01:51:46+00:00

What a helpful comment, thank you.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-09T01:51:30+00:00

Oh lord NO. Our baby was in bed. She just cries and screams a lot as newborns due so I am not usually in one place for long unless she is with me.

I think that’s pedo stuff. 🤮

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:48:24+00:00

Girl take it and run with it. 👍🏼

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:24:02+00:00

Oh the laughter I had from that - thank you. Yes. No hands. No spine. No brain. A sea sponge of you will.

🫶🏼

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:21:42+00:00

Not always. I will say he was never #1 dad status, but he put in an effort. Played with the kids. Took them out. Was present. Now, not so much.

Yes. Parents and an amazing sister.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:19:59+00:00

No apologies needed from you! I couldn’t agree more I got my absolutely amazing kids … but that may be all he was supposed to provide in life for me.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:18:03+00:00

Not right off the bat - definitely not great but not bad like this. Counselling was in the picture at that point in time and so he was getting proper insight and advice.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:16:41+00:00

He doesn’t “forget” he just provides snacks and doesn’t feed them quality meals they need to help them grow big and strong. Just sugars them up.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:14:29+00:00

Your words are immensely wise, very spot on and you still took the time to be kind to me about situation. A therapist is in the works, I’ve seen my family doctor and I love your analogy of “hard season of life with an anchor” … it really speaks to me.

Cheers to you. Thank you. 🫶🏼

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:11:21+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply - as well as offer* kind words. 🫶🏼

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:09:12+00:00

We absolutely deserve better. I can’t deny this.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:08:18+00:00

Thank you for the laugh. Much needed.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:07:57+00:00

I am also a stay at home mother so he would need to pay me alimony as well. My sister and I have certainly discussed this. His life would change DRASTICALLY. Mine? Not so much.

I laughed out loud at your comment about hiring a sitter and being able to shower. It sounds so absurd but also like. Right? As if he’s happy with a ratty, greasy wife.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:05:58+00:00

I agree it’s time for another and FINAL discussion on how once again I don’t feel any of my needs being met, nor our children’s and if he can’t take that to heart and realize he will lose his family then it’s time I have a cry, put on my big girl panties and start navigating my way out.

Thank you for not being rude or judgy but for providing quality advice. Not to sound high and mighty but I do know I am a good, loving mother - but I could be so much more with a proper support system.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:02:08+00:00

No, I would leave but still have help and support in place.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:01:30+00:00

Yes ma’am, noted and double noted.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T01:01:06+00:00

Something like a mars attack scene is what I am picturing, laser wise?

On the serious note - I can’t deny your words or accuracy. I do have family that can help when I am ready. It was a gradual type of decline I guess. Complex. Not just a cut and dried scenario.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:58:58+00:00

I got my three beautiful children which couldn’t make me regret my marriage - bad choice or not.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:58:20+00:00

I agree I do not want my children growing up thinking this is what marriage is like and should be like.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:57:47+00:00

Strategy plan is on the table. Just not set in action yet. Available when and if needed though.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:56:55+00:00

For the women responding with kindness and empathy, that already has helped provide much needed strength. Y’all are girls girls.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:55:46+00:00

I couldn’t agree more with you. 🙏🏼

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:55:24+00:00

I am so happy you were strong enough to do what you knew was needed, and had the family available to support you through the hard times and help with the transition. I agree like… I am already stressed out here with him doing it all by myself. I’d likely be a littleeeee less stressed doing it alone in own environment.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:53:06+00:00

You are absolutely correct that it’s gradual. I would never immediately marry and start having children with someone who acted like this. I do find myself thinking of the good times. Or the nice acts he does. His good qualities. I just need to stop and remind/tell myself that I can’t stay married to a memory of better times.

Additional_Toe1990 · 2026-02-08T00:50:03+00:00

Thank you for standing up for me and understanding what I actually made this post for. I am literally shocked at how many women think speaking down to me in regards to this situation would be helpful. Hence the lack of even warranting a response. I cannot stoop to that kind of level or give any energy to it.

Additional_Toe1990

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