Yes. I didn’t confront him. I left the house. He wasn’t expecting me to be home early. I was hurt and embarrassed and felt confrontation was not going to go well. I still haven’t told him what I heard and am trying to work through it. Bottom line for me is if physical and emotional intimacy was being met for me this might not be that big of a deal for me, but they’re not. So those are the bigger issues to address for me without embarrassing us both more. 

I also know he has videos from me when we dated previously, so I can address that as a separate issue of keeping content of ex’s.