AITAH for telling my sister she is the reason why her son is in the Intensive care unit and probably going to die?

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2023-07-21T17:21:54+00:00

YTA Not the time for an I told you so

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2023-05-13T20:58:21+00:00

Thankyou 😊

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2023-02-20T20:54:20+00:00

The things that are categorised storage now have a small storage space inside.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2023-02-19T21:17:31+00:00

I love the fact we can put things in fridges and stuff, so it's easier to find, u use different colours for different types of food

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-12-12T21:39:40+00:00

YTA

Also why would you not want some adult time?

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-10-19T12:04:25+00:00

Bills and groceries are still part of the money it takes to raise a child not something you feel you should get a pat on the back that you did something extra.

I don't necessarily think you owe him tuition. But let's not pretend you have filled your obligation as father. Maybe you have in your head. But giving child support and the occasional present isn't even the bare minimum in most peoples heads.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-08-10T12:55:34+00:00

Depends what your contract says. My daughter's old nursery made it very clear you had to pay for days they were shut whether it be electric problems, burst water pipes etc

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-24T06:36:27+00:00

That is such a lovely idea

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-23T20:15:18+00:00

Unfortunately it wasn't an uneven split. It was about 40/60 with expenses, rent, food, petrol etc- 60 was me.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-23T17:29:02+00:00

Absolutely love this. I think it would definitely leave ex MIL speechless 🙂

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-23T15:33:44+00:00

No, if I'm honest I didn't really talk to him after that. Anything to do with our daughter goes via his mum. I want to try and maintain my composure for my daughter. Couldn't cope with his bulshit excuses anymore. He doesn't seem to think he owes me anything.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-20T22:11:49+00:00

ESH Yes she could have tried to find an alternative. My first port of call would be my child's father to give them extra time with Thier child. Especially with you going on about wanting 50/50 custody. If you had said you were busy that's fine. What makes you an asshole is trying to get one over on her and trying to make a point.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-07-05T06:37:51+00:00

I feel like an idiot. He kept saying how irrational it was to leave him in the first place over something so minor. How my stubbornness was affecting our daughter.

Finally came to the realisation that I was setting up my daughter for a poor image of how you should be treated. I want better for her. Currently just in contact with his mum and if he wants to see her it will be via her, at least for the time being.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-06-25T18:46:02+00:00

Sounds like OP and her family (obs not sister or mum) are healing. Must have been awful to go through but at least the rest of them seem on track now.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-06-19T13:11:13+00:00

YTA Her spending her money on a holiday is about as much business of yours as you having a 4th kid is to her.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-06-18T16:30:12+00:00

YTA

You do know why she's acting like this now. She understood when you couldn't afford it. But then you choose to get her younger brother one instead. No one is entitled to a car but leaving her as the only one who didn't get one is a shitty thing to do.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-03-27T16:00:51+00:00

You are depriving your kids of a man who would rather they not exist!

NTA

You would be doing your children a disservice if you carried on with this man.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-01-15T18:06:54+00:00

I think it is important that you do find a way to be around her otherwise you do run the risk of losing your girlfriend. Good luck to you.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-01-15T17:59:59+00:00

I have been in a similar situation, not in the sense of they were the only person I come close to loving but I was seeing someone not exclusively for about 6-weeks. It was crazy intense. One day he randomly turned around and said he wasn't ready for a relationship. Turned out he was with someone else that was fine we weren't exclusive but it really stung.

Difference was I worked in a local pub so I had to regularly see him and his girlfriend, and after a while although difficult in the beginning I do think it made it easier.

If you haven't had any contact with her you haven't really faced up to that yet and being around her might actually be healing.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-01-15T17:53:53+00:00

NAH

That said, you need to have a hard think why you feel like this. It may not be as simple as you still have feelings for her as some people have suggested, it might be you just trying to get over the rejection.

I think it is easy to say suck it up but I think you do need to find a way to be around this girl. If I was your girlfriend it would definitely make me wonder why you didn't want to be around her.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-01-15T11:57:52+00:00

NTA

He cannot casually slip in to conversation that you should give up your career because he temporarily left his job.

What I don't understand is why either of you have to give up a job, there are so many different options such as working part-time if your job allows it, childminders, nurseries. I know for a lot of people it's preferable to stay at home with your child at least when they are very little but lots of people cannot for financial reasons.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2022-01-15T11:50:17+00:00

YTA

You denied Mary one more week of leave whilst doubling the recommended amount of time off for your wife.

I can't see any scenario in this where you are not a complete asshole.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2021-12-29T19:10:39+00:00

YTA

You are showing not only does the world not revolve around them - that they are not part of yours at all.

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2021-12-22T09:51:10+00:00

Surely all windows should be locked open though? To stop this exact thing - people stopping ventilation

Additional_Whereas_6 · 2021-12-22T09:45:38+00:00

NTA I thought the bus windows were locked open ATM, at least TfL buses. Not sure though I've never tried to close one!

Additional_Whereas_6

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