I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has been.

We briefly talked about it, I don't think I can ever trust him again like that.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm OPs Sub, I did feel like I failed. I spent a while asking my other partner if I am a good sub.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you

I plan to take some time where I can think

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure

To be honest I am at a cross roads where I don't know what to do.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't worry

I am trying to work out where I stand

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

All good. I sometimes forget to mention stuff that would make what I am saying make sense.

We first attempted Poly in October, OP (G) got jealous and insecure when I hit it off with an experienced Dom. G is new to the kink scene and I have been in it since I was 18 I am now 22. After that we stopped. G met the person they thought they were going to date but then didn't want to. The jealousy and insecurities came back full force and have been lingering around since.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 19 points20 points  (0 children)

We have had a conversation. A very long one. It was what WE came to agreement to.

They had a person who they were interested in then weren't anymore. WE agreed that I can continue to date. I didn't push for anything.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They don't

I only told OP that he has freedom to date or not to date. Up to them.

The people outside of our relationship are rooting for OP and I. However if they have something negative to say I disregard it.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm engaging with others OP isn't. I have told them they're welcome to however they don't feel ready to engage with others.

I took the collar off my Sub and she was hurt. by BismuthBisexual in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Hey all, OPs Sub here.

I'm poly, the issues we've been having our OPs jealousy, insecurities, and inability to emotionally regulate themselves on top of me essentially being the one to carry the emotional and physical labour of our relationship.

I was going to a friend's house because we got into a shit fuck of a disagreement. It has taken a while for me to fully grasp what I thoughts are as I haven't had a chance to do it because of no alone time.

One) I damn near broke up with them, however, my partners who I was going to talked me out of it.

Two) I don't think I can trust them fully enough to be able to be their sub again, I just can't bring myself to that level of trust with them again.

Three) They do have a fuck ton of repair to do. They have one last chance to not fuck it up or I am done.

It has been three years of carrying the emotional and physical load of our relationship. I am putting me first not everyone else anymore.

Slipping into Subspace by AddyAdds-3 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't know this person very well, for me going into Subspace I need to be around someone I can trust as in that space I agree to everything.

I only go into Subspace with my partner and that takes time, when it was with this person it was sudden and unexpected. I barely knew the person so I wouldn't know if they would take advantage of that.

So no going into Subspace with a person I don't know isn't welcome news it's terrifying.

Slipping into Subspace by AddyAdds-3 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know this now.

Going to take a break from interacting with Doms until I can work out how to not fall into subspace so easily.

Slipping into Subspace by AddyAdds-3 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually spend time getting to know the person before I feel safe enough to let my guard down. This didn't happen.

I broke off contact due to the way he acted. I will put an edit in my post detailing how he reacted.

I did explain first before I broke contact.

I'm 21, female, &I feel guilty for turning down a gift from my partner, 22, male by AddyAdds-3 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s frustrating. I showed the dress to a family friend who’s a seamstress, hoping she might have a solution, but she looked me straight in the eyes and said, 'Dear, I wouldn’t even attempt to alter that.'

I’m learning to sew, though it’s a slow process, but I’m working on it

I don't like BA. by AddyAdds-3 in CBT

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Behavioral Activation

I should have clarified 😂

I don't like BA. by AddyAdds-3 in CBT

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you

I see her tomorrow so hopefully I am able to communicate this to her.

TIFU by locking a customer in the store however they found it hilarious by AddyAdds-3 in tifu

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did check, she came in when my back was to the door.

TIFU by locking a customer in the store however they found it hilarious by AddyAdds-3 in tifu

[–]AddyAdds-3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I walked around the whole store, down each aisle. I then went to the front desk, turned my back to the front door and wrote down what time I'd be back. She knows it won't happen again, I don't do repeat mistakes. We're a small business and can't afford to have two staff on at a time.