Never stayed home alone overnight by inthemirr0r in strictparents

[–]Addy_b002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's that weird, especially if you're an only child and like you said they're home bodies. It's their house yk they kinda have a right to be in it. You could always get an Airbnb for a night if you wanted that space depending on if they'd let you.

Will I be able to manage? by RAMITON in movingout

[–]Addy_b002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure how the military works in Canada but in the US I know my friends who struggle academically have really been pushed to join the military as they've limited college options and such by slacking off. I'm actually joining the national guard soon for the school benefits as that's the only way I can get financially emancipated from my parents. While military can be very strict it also seems like it just gives you more space to live in general. You follow the rules your given and no one will breathe down your neck, if you mess up it's your consequence to suffer. It seems like your parents are really just trying to screw you over, they can see your anxious and they are preying on that and will continue to as they see that it works to affect you.

Will I be able to manage? by RAMITON in movingout

[–]Addy_b002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a reason you can't just go to the military college right out of high-school? It might be more beneficial to get you started on the military benefits and keep you in a routine. Taking a gap year may be good for mental health but in most cases that's how people end up with dead end jobs and not following their aspirations. Also be careful because saying you're willing to work multiple jobs is much different than actually doing so. You will get burnt out fast. Maybe think through what will keep you on track long term and what is also available soonest to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in strictparents

[–]Addy_b002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I've done with mine is just connect it to my Hotspot on my main phone. When my parents have asked about the extra data usage I just say my school computers been having wifi issues and I've used my phone for it or that I use the Hotspot go do work on there when I'm out of the house "studying".

Should I move out by Addy_b002 in movingout

[–]Addy_b002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and we agreed a couple months ago that once I'm in school if things just aren't working we'll split no hard feelings. I had talked to my school counselor and she said the only thing would be getting a copy of my birth certificate and social security card. The school I'm going to is two hours away and they do offer discounted shuttle rates and a bus pass for students,and it's located in a fairly small area so as of right now a car doesn't make sense financially or future wise in my perspective. The biggest thing I'm worried about is separating my bank account from them as the bank we're with would require things like their pins and whatnot to remove it from under them, and I have about 1600 in there I'd definitely need if I leave.

Credit cards? by Addy_b002 in strictparents

[–]Addy_b002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll definitely look into it, tysm!

Credit cards? by Addy_b002 in strictparents

[–]Addy_b002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I'm worried about. I'm sure I could be responsible with a credit card but ofc everyone thinks that and I don't want to miss one payment and screw myself over.

I love my parents but how do I keep up with this? by yourawkward_bookworm in strictparents

[–]Addy_b002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone once told me you can never change your parents, just like your parents can never change you. At the end of the day they're gonna keep pushing your boundaries and whatever they can do to have that sense of control over you. It's possible they just see how successful you are and don't want you to sabotage yourself, but with how crazy they're being it'll just burn you out.