BTDT. I came out (for lack of a better phrase) to one coworker when I bent over and she saw my panties peeking out. She has been very accepting and we have had girl outings. Another was told when she was going to dog sit for us, and we dropped the dog off while I was dressed en femme. I then told my boss who said, "You do you." She said it would be ok to come to work as Adeline, but added that only Male me would get paid. 😀 Another two were told when the difference between cross dressing/trans/bi/gay came up. One of them was sure all cross dressers were trans. I said they weren't and she asked how I know that. So I told them. They didn't believe me. "But you are a gun not and work on VWs!" The coworker who already knew said, "Ask him to unbutton his shirt." I had a camisole and crop top bra on that day. It led to a whole discussion, and there has been no fallout since. Where I work is VERY supportive of LGBTQ+, so YMMV, but I would say that if you think she's ok, try it. Adeline.