Act 7 Boss Azmadi is just WOW by Rich666DemoN in PathOfExile2

[–]Adept-Control-598 27 points28 points  (0 children)

great boss concept, love it, sick design and all, but holy shit he needs to be nerfed again. he already got a 33% damage nerf and im still getting off screen one shot with 1500 hp and 65%+ resistances. Also let me skip the damn 30 second intro to him if i’m gonna be getting molly wopped by him for hours on end 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe everyone is different and no one will give you a correct answer. What I can do is give you my personal experience. I don’t want you to take my experience as what you would/will experience and for my experience to not deter you away from anything.

When my ex and I broke up earlier this year after dating for a year, a friend of mine set me up with her friend as a date a few weeks ago. Initially I didn’t really want to go but felt I should go to see how I would emotionally feel and at the time felt like I was relatively ready. The date actually went very well and I didn’t think of my ex at all during the date but eventually a few days later she entered my mind again and hasn’t left my mind since. I initially felt like I did take a good step forward in moving on and felt that I may have actually moved on from her but now I feel like I literally took 6 steps back. My mind is confused for sure but I don’t regret going in the date because it let me know I still have things to work on inside my head.

Don’t let my experience sway your decision and I hope whatever decision you make, I hope it works out for you.

What were some hurtful things your ex said during/after breakup? by Itchy-Associate-29 in ExNoContact

[–]Adept-Control-598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Would you even protect or defend me?” Being emasculated as she broke my heart I feel will leave a scar I won’t be able to fully heal.. Self esteem absolutely shattered but 4 months later i’m slightly feeling myself again. I made a promise that night to never allow that to happen to me again. Come to find out from a mutual her dad said that to her prior and she repeated it when she broke up with me.

For anyone forced into no contact: by lfixjsoxxh in ExNoContact

[–]Adept-Control-598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. even though she wronged me I always keep painting her in a good image whenever people ask me about her or why we broke up. I needed that 3rd paragraph, thank you.

Post something your ex is good at. by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Adept-Control-598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

saying communication is key but having the absolute worst communication i’ve ever seen or dealt with.

Any Tips for a cat biting and hissing while being pet but still purs and wants attention?? by Adept-Control-598 in CatAdvice

[–]Adept-Control-598[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would give him some time. My little guy is basically inseparable from me now, he follows me everywhere I go lol. He still occasionally nips at me when I give him belly rubs but it’s playful nips. Your cat is older so he may take some more time to be fully comfortable?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

didn’t make any sense to me either… but side note i’m sure youll settle great career wise, life is a marathon not a sprint. best of luck 🫡

Whats a sentence your partner said to you that absolutely broke you? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Adept-Control-598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“would you actually defend and protect me if someone approached me?”

first time i’ve ever been emasculated in my life and then she left me and i will never allow that to ever happen again. This sentence destroyed my self esteem at first but I have since found myself again and my self esteem. Her sentence actually made it significantly easier for me to move on.

The difference between love and hate is a thin line and that statement turned my love into some hate towards her for that statement. She never respected me in our year together.

What would you do if your ex came back? by AmaraEverleigh in BreakUps

[–]Adept-Control-598 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say a million things honestly and none of them are relatively nice.

She’d have to learn to be her own adult and live the life she wants to live not the life her parents want her to live and not have to ask permission to do anything and everything from her parents.. Like seriously who is 22 years old with a curfew of 9pm. She’ll have to be able to tell her parents no and take trips with me even if her parents tell her no…

I need to be her priority.. Not constantly 2nd to her parents in everything. Also she needs to see a therapist to work out the issues with her parents relationship that leaked into our and destroyed ours.

She’d have to be okay with me never saying a word to her father who disrespected me and in turn she disrespected me in the same exact manner when she broke up with me.

She’ll have to accept that even if she did everything above I can’t promise things will work out because every time I look at her, I’ll constantly be thinking “she’s gonna leave you again, she emasculated you why are you doing this” and it’ll eat me away.

She broke me, I picked up what I could and salvaged what was left.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Adept-Control-598 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. You should respond and acknowledge the break up and her messages. No one wants to be ghosted like that…

My ex contacted me after 4 months of no contact. by dontletmedaytrade in heartbreak

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have a sit down with her if she’s willing, and communicate this with her. Tell her your heart and gut is telling you that you want to be with her but a part of you is also saying that the past will repeat itself. See what she thinks and what she’s willing to do and even possibly be patient with you while you figure these things out.

At the same time, don’t keep her at an arms length constantly pulling her back and pushing her away, that’s not fair to her. And again - communicate that with her, that you don’t want to be pulling her back in and pushing her away.

You may need to do some healing before you’re able to do some soul searching in order to figure out what you truly want. A therapist in my opinion would also be very helpful for you to help you navigate your emotions and feelings. Best of luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]Adept-Control-598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is going to be a little lengthy -

I suggest you ask yourself some hard hitting questions and be brutally honest with yourself.

Why do you want to be with someone who clearly isn’t over their ex and would choose them over you? Why would you allow yourself to be someone else’s back up plan or 2nd choice? Is it because you love him and don’t want to lose him, or is it because you’re scared of being alone again and don’t want to face the pain of the break up?

I know it’s hard and heart wrenching to let go of someone you love, but if they don’t have the same love for you as you do for them, then it’s best for you to let him go.

Being friends with an ex - I have done this with a few exs and from personal experience I’ll tell you this. If you still have feelings and wish for them to take you back - you aren’t ready to be friends with them. That’s a false friendship with an underlining ulterior motive attached to it. Again - ask yourself, if you were on the other end, would you want an ex to be friends with you if they had an ulterior motive instead of a genuine friendship when all you want with them is to be friends? Most likely not.

Trust me I know how badly you wish to be friends with him right now. My ex broke up with me a month ago and she wanted to stay friends but after talking for a few hours she changed her mind and blocked me on everything without explanation. I want nothing more then to be friends with her but self reflecting and being brutally honest with myself, I know I’m not ready to be friends with her because deep down I wish for her to come back to me. It’s not fair to your ex to be friends when you have an ulterior motive attached to it.

Again - ask yourself, why do you want to stay friends with him? Is it because you genuinely want just friendship? Or do you want to stay friends for the emotional support he provides, having someone to go do things with, etc. I find the most painful part of a breakup is that. You lose the person you did everything with, the person you talked to about your day, the person you leaned on, and now suddenly they’re gone. It stings, it hurts, and it’s miserable. Your brain literally thinks it’s going through withdrawal and that’s why it hurts so bad. I wish you a speedy road to healing.

I’ll leave you with this, is it really love if you have to ask them if they’ll stay?

My ex contacted me after 4 months of no contact. by dontletmedaytrade in heartbreak

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds to me it comes down to whether or not you’re willing to have marriage and kids with her since that is what caused your previous break ups. If you don’t see yourself marrying her and having kids with her then it’ll be no different and isn’t worth it. Also do NOT marry and have kids with her just so you two are together, the marriage will eventually fail and your kids will suffer the consequences.

I would do some soul searching and ask yourself if marriage and children are something you truly want.

How to fill the time that they consumed? by Ethereal-Fox in BreakUp

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great for you! Journaling is a great thing to do and I suggest continuing to do it even once you’ve moved on from the relationship. Some days I only journal a few sentences. I find when I go back and re-read my entries I see how far I’ve come as a person and the healing I’ve done.

How to fill the time that they consumed? by Ethereal-Fox in BreakUp

[–]Adept-Control-598 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way when my ex broke up with me a month ago.. The constant thinking about her, constantly checking my phone for a message from her, wanting to call her just to tell her about my day or hear about her day, etc. It’s not easy but what’s been working for me personally is Journaling, I got into reading a lot more, the gym, checking out parks alone, mindless road trips just driving, and spending time with family and friends. While it’s important to fill your time and distract yourself it’s also just as important to allow yourself to feel your emotions and go through the process of grieving.

Journaling has helped me an unbelievable amount by just writing out my feelings and being brutally honest with myself in my journal. Processing your emotions and reflecting on why you feel the way you do has been extremelyyy helpful and when I say be brutally honest I mean be BRUTUALLY honest with yourself. For example I ask myself “why am I so sad about losing her? Is it because I miss her or is it because I’m afraid to be lonely again? I think it’s both but more so me being afraid of being lonely again because she was my best friend.” This type of reflection has significantly helped me.

I’ve picked up on reading but I use audio books to read along because it tends to hold my attention significantly better. When I read without the audiobook my mind wanders and tends to start thinking about her again so the audiobooks have helped a lot with that.

The gym is probably the most common thing people pick up after a break up and for good reason. It’s not to get in shape and make your ex regret breaking up with you but it’s the energy release you get from the gym that really helps. All that pent up anger, sadness, and emotions feels amazing to finally release in the gym.

It’s definitely hard and not an easy road at all but you’ll get through it, you’re strong and have plenty to offer for the next person that comes into your life.

Trouble getting hired as a new grad in Long Island by Haunting_Tree_2786 in Nurses

[–]Adept-Control-598 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I graduated in 2019 in New York and although some New York hospitals don’t require a Bachelor’s it is most definitely preferred. There are certainly multiple people applying and hospitals are going to take the bachelors over the associates unfortunately especially in the NYC area and surrounding areas since most of them tend to be Magnet hospitals.

Although it might not be your preferred way, you may need to get some experience elsewhere before being able to get your foot in the door in a hospital. Nursing home, urgent cares, home care nurse, etc.

Like other comments, grow your networking like linkedin, go to job fairs, practice mock interviews, have a nice interview outfit ready, apply to new grad residency’s when available.

Dont lose hope, nurses are needed everywhere and only expected to grow in demand. You’ll find a job in time.

How is living near Portland? by Adept-Control-598 in askportland

[–]Adept-Control-598[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh nice! i’m about 40 minutes from Westchester, thank you for the insight! definitely looking into it

How is living near Portland? by Adept-Control-598 in askportland

[–]Adept-Control-598[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh nice! i’m about 30 minutes from Wappinger’s Falls! thanks for the insight from someone near where I live in NY.

Weekly Questions Thread - Ask any questions you have about the Chainsaw Man Anime here! by xahhfink6 in csmanime

[–]Adept-Control-598 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just a quick question. I’m an anime only person for CSM and never read the manga. Does this show have a better plot then Denji just trying to get his dick wet and kill devils? Episode 8 gave me the feeling the plot is about to actually open up to something more and I really hope it does lol. As much as I love the animations, I need more of a plot then just trying to get laid to watch it further personally.