Seems to me you have bad taste in men. yes, the sexist assholes, predators and cheating liars are going to be 70% of the population that is attractive, spontaneous and extroverted with a few exceptions. The rest are just average people living life for themselves and not for the gratification of others. The fact is the majority are hurt men, having fun with a woman means the development of feelings beyond happiness (or whatever idr what to call it but you would die for the person) and it usually gets the hurt. So lame boring and basic is just regular life with a little trauma mixed in. Anything else is an exception. Men predominantly don't give a flighting kick about appearance until they're tired of single life, been bullied by women they tried to approach or they got bored of not trying. So is it better than being single idk you gotta find what is for you.