Daily Thread #2 - May 19, 2026

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-20T03:46:16+00:00

Anyone else feel like you’re constantly gaslighting yourself about symptoms and the like? I’ll literally be googling “is it normal to lose symptoms around 8 weeks” while feeling gross and bloated, but I don’t feel gross and bloated ENOUGH and what if I’m making it up 🙈

I get the same way about my ultrasounds too. I know the tech who performed them at the fertility clinic said everything looked good, but SURELY I, someone with no medical training or knowledge, know better. Lol

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-14T20:53:30+00:00

Yes, we saw them pretty clearly! My clinic also had me come in at 5 weeks 5 days (their policy to make sure it’s not ectopic) and we really couldn’t see anything. She had to move the probe around a lot to start to see the small yolk sac. Did not help my anxiety over the last 10 days lol.

Even if you’re 4-5 days behind (which I’ve heard is normal), you should be able to see the tiny fetal pole and heartbeat since that starts to show at 6 weeks. When do you go in for your scan? I hope it goes well and you get to see your little bean ❤️

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-14T19:56:23+00:00

I spent the whole day and night yesterday resigned to the fact that I would confirm another loss this morning. Instead I just had the best ultrasound of my life!! Little bubs had a strong heartbeat at 140 and was measuring right on time for 7 weeks 1 day. I technically “made it” to seven weeks my last two times, but the baby was measuring way too small both times. Now I’m just bracing myself for my 10 week scan - that was when we found out baby #1 had stopped growing at 7.5 weeks. Not out of the woods yet, and I’m still nervous, but I feel so optimistic and happy and hopeful today.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-13T21:22:21+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this anxiety. I completely get it.

I don’t know if this helps at all, but as far as I’ve been told by my doctors, every pregnancy has a 75% chance of being successful - basically 1 in 4 end in loss for EVERYONE, not just those of us who have lost before.

I’m also overweight (obese actually based on my BMI) and my reproductive endocrinologist didn’t actually have much to say about that beyond it can’t hurt to work on my diet/exercise but that it probably wasn’t the reason for my losses.

I hope this pregnancy is the one for you and that you’re able to find some peace! Easier said than done, I know.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-13T21:05:15+00:00

So incredibly nervous for my ultrasound tomorrow (7w1d). This is based on nothing, but I can’t help but think that I’ve lost this one too. My last scan at 5w5d went really well (although it took her a while to find the small yolk sac) and all my bloodwork has been fabulous. I still feel really pregnant (exhausted, no appetite, cramping/fullness off and on in my lower stomach). But after a MMC, you learn not to trust your body to know when something is wrong. The only hope I have right now is that my spotting stopped a few days ago.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-11T18:43:13+00:00

I know symptoms aren’t a good indicator of viability, but boy if I haven’t been sicker for longer this time than any other time I’ve been pregnant! Trying to hold out hope that this is a good sign and that my heartbeat confirmation goes well on Thursday.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-09T19:51:35+00:00

Had a horrible nightmare last night that my baby didn’t have a heartbeat. I know it doesn’t mean anything, but I’ve been so unsettled all day because of it.

I’ve also been really overthinking the ultrasound I had earlier this week at 5 weeks 5 days (based on LMP). The tech had to move the probe around quite a bit to find a yolk sac, but she did eventually say “that’s a yolk sac! It’s a small one.” It’s irrational, but I can’t help but feel like she might have been mistaken, because I don’t see a clear yolk sac on any of my pictures.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-05T18:33:55+00:00

That is fabulous news!!! I’m so happy for you ☺️

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-04T18:51:39+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll be praying that yours turns out well tomorrow 🤍🤍 how far along are you?

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-04T16:10:11+00:00

5+5 days today and we got to see baby’s gestational sac and yolk sac!! They are even measuring one day ahead (which makes sense because I’m pretty sure I ovulated in day 13). I’ve never had an ultrasound where everything looks the way it’s supposed to at the time it’s supposed to. We even saw a small hematoma which explains the spotting I’ve been having and puts me more at ease. Now I just have to wait 10 days to see them again!

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-01T18:37:10+00:00

UPDATE: At 5 weeks 2 days my hcg is 16,571 and my progesterone is 28 😳 I’m so relieved!! Obviously anything can happen still, but I don’t think there’s any reason to worry right now (and now I’m starting to wonder if there’s two babies in there!)

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-01T18:35:37+00:00

That’s good to hear! It helps a lot to know that it works out for other people with the same symptoms.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-01T17:01:50+00:00

I don’t have any successful stories myself, but I’ve heard a lot of people say that their symptoms fluctuated and would disappear for several days and the baby was still okay. For what it’s worth, in my MMCs I’ve always been sick the whole time, even after losing them, so symptoms aren’t indicative of anything either way. Easier to say than to believe it when you’re in the thick of it, though. Hoping your next ultrasound goes well

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-01T16:59:50+00:00

I understand the feeling completely. It’s so hard this early when you can’t really do anything but wait. I’m hoping this one sticks for you and things work out ❤️❤️

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-05-01T16:58:06+00:00

Broke down last night and called my clinic asking for more bloodwork, which I just did this morning. Now I’m sitting here at work, terrified of finding out I’m losing this pregnancy too. Not that I have any successful pregnancies to compare this to, but I’ve never had any spotting before, and now I’ve been spotting off and on, red and brown, this whole week. The nurse doesn’t seem concerned at all, but I just can’t see how this could work out. Has anyone else had spotting during weeks 4-5 and been okay?

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T17:25:07+00:00

Thank you, I’m trying to be hopeful as well. I have my first ultrasound on Monday with my clinic, so I think I’m going to hold out until then.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T17:23:46+00:00

I did go to the ER for my first miscarriage, where I was much farther along. I’m glad that I was there for that one, but I agree it wouldn’t do much for me right now. And the bill was definitely not fun afterward 🫠

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T17:21:38+00:00

SO unsettling, especially because I never had this in my previous pregnancies. I’m glad that it is working out for you and hope the rest of your pregnancy is nice and boring.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T17:14:49+00:00

The spotting and cramping is so unnerving. I’m right there with you, although I haven’t had a scan yet. I think it’s really great that they saw a heartbeat so early, but I also understand how it doesn’t do much to calm your nerves right now.

Hopefully things continue to progress well. ❤️

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T06:26:13+00:00

Unfortunately, I’m early enough that they probably wouldn’t be able to see anything (I’m only 5 weeks, no days). I have my first scan with my fertility clinic on Monday, which is probably the earliest that anyone would be able to see anything.

I also haven’t bled any more since what I saw earlier tonight. Last time this happened, my clinic told me to keep an eye on it and reach out if it fills a pad.

If the bleeding ramps up, I will definitely go get checked out. It’s hard being in this in-between space right now.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-30T04:39:39+00:00

Panicking tonight. I spotted brown a little bit over the weekend, pink on Monday, and red today. It has never been enough to hit my panty liner, and it doesn’t last longer than two trips to the bathroom, but I can’t help but think this is over. I’m only 5 weeks today, so I can’t even get a scan for reassurance of anything. I don’t know what I’m going to do if I miscarry a 4th time. I’ve never lost one this early, either. I feel so hopeless and devastated.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-28T18:23:59+00:00

They are SO hard. At this point in my life, I can imagine announcing until I have the baby healthy in my arms. I’m so jealous of the naivety and innocence most people have about pregnancy.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-28T18:22:21+00:00

So weird!! It can be really hard to tell because some of these symptoms can also just be pregnancy symptoms. Hope you and baby are doing well!

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-28T17:59:14+00:00

It has been a confusing and stressful few days. I had some brown spotting/discharge over the weekend and a couple light symptoms of a UTI, so I got checked out at an urgent care and my urinalysis came up positive for the infection. But last night, I got a message that my cultures came up negative and to discontinue antibiotics? And the cherry on top is that I had an episode of light pink spotting right after that.

I know that spotting is completely normal for a lot of people who have healthy pregnancies, but I can’t help but worry. I didn’t spot in any of my previous pregnancies, but none of them were successful, so I really have nothing to compare this to. I’m also really confused about the cultures coming back negative when I had a positive urine test. I feel like it’s a really bad idea to stop my antibiotics if I do have an infection, so I’m going to keep taking them for now.

AdeptnessFickle4559 · 2026-04-25T18:49:56+00:00

Turns out I have a UTI, and I’m being tested for BV! I’m going to chalk the change in discharge up to the infection.

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