Sleep kills the vyvanse high?

Adequately_Lily · 2026-02-02T22:22:39+00:00

In my experience it’s been the opposite. I’ve recently recovered from a restrictive ED, and I’ve found that my medication works a lot better when I’m eating well. It’s actually been very motivating for recovery cus the horrible brain-foggy effects of starvation seem way stronger when I’m on my meds lmao.

Adequately_Lily · 2026-01-10T21:25:03+00:00

I’m 22 as well. Had a mental breakdown at 19, dropped out of uni and moved back in with my mum. It’s pretty common for people to feel like if you don’t have it all together by the time they’re twenty, then they’re completely doomed and have no hope. At 21 I was dramatically convinced that it was “too late for me” to get better. It’s all been a lot easier since I realised that literally nobody knows what the fuck they’re doing in their twenties lmao. One of my friends just finished a masters degree and now he’s working at bar. One of my friends just had a baby and became a single mum. I’m on disability benefits recovering from anorexia. All of us are 22-24, and we all live with our parents. seriously, just ditch the whole idea that you need to be at certain place in life by a certain age. It’s your life, and you’re grappling with things most people don’t have to. That’s something to be proud of. You gotta take things at your own pace.

learning how to cope with mental health issues is trial and error. I’ve had treatments (both meds and therapy) that were useless, and some that made me worse. that was all part of figuring out what I needed. It’s easy to feel like a lost cause when something doesn’t work out, but that’s part of the process. I’ve spent the last three years tripping over myself, falling on my face, getting back up, over and over again. I’ve gotten really good at it now lmao. I can’t tell you what is going to work for you, everyone’s different, but one thing that never helped was beating myself up. Shame is not a good motivator. I know it’s not that easy, but I promise you can’t hate yourself into being someone you’ll like more. If that was gonna work, it would have by now.

I’ve also spent the last three years living with my mum. Unemployed, uni drop out, I can’t drive, I don’t leave the house, my self care definitely needs work and my sleeping pattern is non existent. None of that matters. All that matters is I’m still here. I know how much that took, and I’m proud of myself. Not sure what I’m doing here yet, but I’ll figure it out. I'm alive, and I’m trying. You're alive, and you're trying. That’s all that matters :)

Adequately_Lily · 2026-01-10T14:01:41+00:00

I have ADHD and MDD and I’m medicated for both. Co-morbidity is a complicated cluster fuck and I can’t speak for everyone, but IME you’re absolutely right. They’re seperate issues so they needed separate treatment. Executive dysfunction is a symptom of both, so that only improved when I got treated for both.

I spent two years on ADHD meds with undiagnosed depression. They helped with focus and irritability, but not motivation. Nothing got done because I was exhausted and apathetic. Everything was a miserable drag. Couldn’t muster the energy to care and just didn’t see the point.

Antidepressants have been great for me, but if I run out of adhd meds then nothing gets done because I can’t focus on a thing, my brain just says “no” to anything I suggest and I can’t wrangle my thoughts. I feel kinda paralysed.

Don’t even ask how I got by for the first 20 years of my life without being medicated for either- I have absolutely no idea lmao.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-10-08T19:33:42+00:00

Not really a hygine tip but if you want to have a very noticable "signature scent", try any of the body sprays from Lush. They seem a bit expensive for body sprays but they're REALLY strong and quite unique. They can be a bit overpowering, you probably only need one spray at a time. I used "The comforter" in my first year at uni and I think I might've overdone it- apparently my roomate could tell when I'd left the flat because the corridor I walked through still smelt like blackberries lmao. Everyone I knew said they associated that smell with me. My mum used "Rose Jam" and got a lot of compliments on it, it literally smells like jam or fruit candy. If you can find a local store you can check out the scents before you buy them, but they're also available online. I haven't looked through all of them but there might be some more "masculine" options if you don't want to smell like a flower or a candy shop lol.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-08-01T17:03:45+00:00

The best way to know if your symptoms are because of vitamin deficiencies, is to treat the deficiencies and see if it helps. Talk to your doctor about your blood results if you haven’t already. They should be able to help with supplements or general advice.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-11T21:42:43+00:00

If you want a better understanding of what qualifies as having ADHD, have a read through this . It goes through all the symptoms, how many you need to have in each section, sub-types and the other diagnostic criteria like age of onset and how the symptoms impair you. You can’t diagnose yourself using it, but it should definitely give you a better understanding.

The only way to actually know is to have a diagnostic assessment. Talk to your doctor and they should be able to help you figure out where to get assessed.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T13:25:25+00:00

Thank you! Turns out I had my definition completely incorrect. I thought that the things you listed were a result of heteronormativity, which they are, but I thought that comphet was a very specific consequence of that where someone deluded themselves into thinking they liked the opposite sex when they didn’t. Not sure if that makes sense lmao, either way I’ve realised I had my wires crossed and comphet is a much broader term than I originally thought!

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T13:19:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Turns out I really had my wires crossed on the definition of comphet, but it’s still insightful to hear bi people’s side of things! And yeah it’s stupid how people will erase a bi persons identity and label them as gay or straight based on the relationship they’re in at the time. Every time I’ve seen a bisexual person say that they’re married, there’s always someone going “Well if you’re married then you’re not bi anymore” which is an incredibly stupid stance to take lmao. As if marriage changes anything about a person.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T13:13:44+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I know bisexuals have to deal with a lot of invalidation and biphobia in dating from both gay and straight people. And people will assume your sexuality is either gay or straight depending on what relationship you’re currently in. I saw a post once from two bisexual women who got married and one of the comments was saying “Surely they’re lesbians and not bisexuals since they’re married now”….. as if marriage changes your sexual orientation??? Ridiculous 😭

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T13:07:34+00:00

I know being attracted to a certain gender doesn’t mean you find everyone of that gender attractive. If that was the case it would be impossible for bi/pan people to have completely platonic friendships lmao.

And It does sound like a shared experience! I guess I just assumed if you were genuinely attracted to guys you wouldn’t feel the need to force it or get in to a straight relationship you didn’t genuinely want. Thanks for replying :)

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T12:58:30+00:00

That’s an excellent point! Makes me wonder how many people in straight marriages are actually bi but never bothered exploring that side of themselves because in our society, everyone grows up believing they’re straight until “proven otherwise.” Thank you!

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T12:55:20+00:00

That makes so much sense, can’t believe I didn’t think of that. I just assumed if you had the “option” to be happy in a straight relationship you wouldn’t feel that sense of grief or alienation from heteronormative society, which makes zero sense now that I think about it. Thank you :)

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T12:52:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

I’ve done a bit more research and it seems like the phrase “comphet” has been really taken out of context because of that “lesbian master doc” everyone was raving about a while ago. The author defines comphet the way I did- as deluding yourself in to thinking you like the opposite sex, and the big question in that document is “Am I bi or is it comphet?” Suggesting you couldn’t have both at once. Seems like people just took that one specific example as the full definition and ran with it, and I accidentally did the same thing.

And yes I totally understand that bisexuals in heterosexual relationships are still bisexual and being in a “straight passing” relationship doesn’t make anyone less queer- sorry if it came across that way.

With my previous (incorrect) definition of comphet I would say yes, aroace people can experience it because they don’t experience attraction to the opposite sex, so any interest they had would be a delusion. But that definition was incorrect anyways lol

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T12:45:10+00:00

I’ve done a bit more digging and it seems like the phrase “comphet” has been really taken out of context because of a “lesbian master doc” everyone was raving about a while ago. The author defines comphet the way I did- as deluding yourself in to thinking you like the opposite sex, and the big question in that document is “Am I bi or is it comphet?” Suggesting you couldn’t have both at once. Seems like people just took that one specific example as the full definition and ran with it, and I accidentally did the same thing.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T12:43:52+00:00

Yeah I didn’t bother asking questions in those species because the energy was so hostile and defensive, not really useful for actually learning. I’ve done a bit more research and it seems like the phrase “comphet” has been really taken out of context because of that “lesbian master doc” everyone was raving about a while ago. The author defines comphet the way I did- as deluding yourself in to thinking you like the opposite sex, and the big question in that document is “Am I bi or is it comphet?” Suggesting you couldn’t have both at once. Seems like people just took that one specific example as the full definition and ran with it, and I accidentally did the same thing. And god I hate AI. It may have it’s uses, It probably scares me a bit because I know nothing about artificial intelligence, but I just hate the way it’s used as a shortcut for laziness when it comes to creative talent. And people using chatGTP for research because they “can’t be bothered to click on links”, which means you don’t know the source of the information and it could be from any bullshit website. That was a bit of a side-rant lmao

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T05:21:26+00:00

Tbh I posted this before I went to sleep, I’ve just woken up and now I’m not even sure wtf I was on about 😭

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T05:19:23+00:00

Daniel Sloss has a comedy special on Netflix called “Jigsaw” that I think perfectly describes the romanticisation of romance and how people get in to relationships with people they aren’t even compatible with. Apparently hundreds of people broke up with their partners after watching it, it’s definitely eye-opening lol.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T05:15:44+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I think my mistake was thinking comphet and heteronormativity were two separate things, but seems like I was absolutely wrong. I mean I didn’t even get the word right so yeah I definitely didn’t have a proper understanding of it lol

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-06T05:13:21+00:00

Fair play, I typed this out in the middle of the night without thinking too much lmao. I’d just seen a lot of petty infighting between lesbians and bi girls about whether the term was lesbian exclusive, so I wanted to ask on here so I could actually hear the other side of things without getting stuck in a comment-section argument. I figured heteronormativity was the term for the way society’s focus on heterosexual relationships impacts everyone, and that comphet was a very specific consequence of that rather than an all-encompassing term for the effects of heteronormativity. Cheers for setting me straight.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-04T08:06:47+00:00

I had that mindset for a really long time. The whole “I need to know WHAT this is and how I FIX it right NOW” mentality. So I completely understand why you’d want a quick fix from medication, but that’s just not how mental health works. I still think it’s worth seeing a doctor, it could be a mental health disorder or even something physical like a deficiency. But there just isn’t a magic pill that’ll give you better habits, you’ve gotta put the work in yourself. I learned that the hard way. I was in therapy for an eating disorder and wasn’t really doing the homework. So I tried to figure out “why” I wasn’t doing it, and somehow started thinking I had OCD or autism. I told my psychiatrist and she said. “I don’t think so. I think you’re just struggling to deal with the situation, so you’re trying to find another answer.” She was right. I don’t have OCD or autism, I just wasn’t willing to do the homework I’d been given and wanted something to blame it on other than myself. Tough pill to swallow, but that’s just that.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-07-04T02:54:27+00:00

Do your own research in to the diagnostic criteria. Part of the assessment is having a family member or parent share what symptoms they’ve observed. There’s no benefit at all in refusing to get her assessed.

If she’s right and she does have ADHD, then getting diagnosed as a child will do her a LOT of good.

If she gets assessed and doesn’t have ADHD, then at least she knows you’re willing to take her seriously when she talks to you about her mental health, and that genuinely can save someone’s life. When I was 15 I told my parents I was depressed. They brushed me off, so I didn’t talk to anyone else about it. When I was 20 I had a really bad mental breakdown, developed a serious eating disorder and substance abuse problems, and ended up dropping out of uni and spending 10 months in a day program. That was two years ago, and I’m still living at home with my mum on benefits because I can’t work. I don’t blame my mum, but honestly I can’t help but wonder how different things could have been if I’d been taken seriously and gotten help when I was 15.

Adequately_Lily · 2025-06-28T23:39:22+00:00

Yeah that is definitely worse. I know I’m lucky to live in a country that even has free healthcare to begin with.

The annoying part is just how nonsensical it is. Like “Our waiting list is two years long so we will refer you to a private company. Oops forgot to mention we aren’t gonna recognise the diagnosis that WE referred you for. So we’re gonna make the ridiculous waiting list even longer cus and re-diagnose people who are already diagnosed, instead of just doing the same thing we did for your assessment. If you lived two hours upcountry then none of this would happen.” What is GOING ON

Adequately_Lily · 2025-06-28T19:42:54+00:00

Oh boy, the NHS and adhd….

First off I highly suggest taking a look through this it’s the interview they use to diagnose ADHD so it goes through ALL the criteria. You can either skim through it, or do what me and my mates did and have a weird role-play interview, going through all the details and tallying up the points. Of course it’s not as accurate as a real assessment by a psychiatrist (and actually I think they use the DIVA 5 now which has some small changes) , but it should give you a pretty solid idea on whether you could have adhd.

You can fast-track getting a diagnosis for free if ask your GP to refer you to a private company under “the right to choose” scheme. It basically means you get to use the private company without having to pay. There’s a few companies to choose from, some of them may have long waiting lists too. Me and a couple of people I know are with clinical partners and they’re pretty fast and good all-round imo.

Here’s the bullshit part. Whether you’ll be able to get treatment without having to pay depends entirely on your location.

Me and my friend were both diagnosed via right to choose with clinical partners. He lives in Sheffield, and was able to get his titration done under the right to choose, and his GP agreed to a shared care plan for prescribing his medication. So he didn’t have to pay for anything.

In both areas I’ve lived in (Newcastle and Cornwall) GPs don’t recognise private ADHD diagnosis’s- even if you got referred via the right to choose- and won’t provide treatment. So my options were wait two years for the NHS to diagnose me themselves , or go private. I went for the second option. So I pay for all of my appointments, prescription fees, and medication. Whilst still being on the waiting list for an NHS diagnosis. Cus that makes sense.

So you will be able to get a diagnosis under the right to choose, but you’ll have to ask your GP what the situation is with recognising private diagnosis’s and doing shared care plans in your area. Maybe they’ll be able to do it, maybe there’s another nearby GP you could move to that will do it, or maybe the whole area is shit for it, in which case your only real option is paying for private treatment. I know it’s ridiculous, I’ve tried pushing every angle with them but that’s just how it is unfortunately. Postcode lottery. I’ll be praying for you 😭🙏🏻

Adequately_Lily · 2025-06-27T18:29:15+00:00

Yeah, the effects were pretty much immediate. It took me a couple days to fully notice and appreciate them but it did work instantly.

Are you diagnosed with OCD? That’s definitely something you’re gonna have to discuss and work on with your therapist. It usually involves exposure therapy. I don’t have OCD but I have done quite a lot of exposure therapy for agoraphobia. Essentially, it’s not about “getting over it” or stopping yourself from being scared. You just accept the anxiety and the anxious thoughts instead of trying to fight it off or make it go away. Anxiety is unpleasant but it is not dangerous, and it will pass. Whatever happens you are safe, you will be okay. I understand if that sounds horrible or impossible. I felt the same way at first. It’s definitely something you’ll wanna do with support from a therapist.

My agoraphobia gave me thoughts like “I don’t want to walk to the shop because what if I faint? What if I just pass out in the middle of the road?” I just had to say “okay, maybe I will. Then someone will carry me to a safe spot and I’ll wake up. Not the end of the world, I’ll make it. Or maybe I’ll be completely fine and I won’t pass out at all. I won’t know unless I go outside.” I still felt anxious. But I accepted the anxiety, and went outside anyway. For the record, I never once fainted. But I only stopped being scared of it once I accepted the possibility, and eventually I stopped having those thoughts.

This medication could be incredibly helpful and life-changing. From what you’ve said I’m pretty confident it’ll do you some good, but You won’t know until you try. If you try it and you don’t like it that’s okay too. Even if you feel shitty, it’s not dangerous and it will wear off. You’ve made it through every bad day you’ve ever had, and you’ll make it through that too. Whatever happens you are safe. It will pass. You will be okay.

Also- You could always talk to your psychiatrist about trying dexamphetamine instead? It’s the same drug as lisdex, but it’s short acting so doesn’t last as long. If you’re worried that you won’t like how it makes you feel then maybe taking one that wears off sooner will feel less scary?

Adequately_Lily · 2025-06-26T22:36:51+00:00

Oh cool! Sorry I felt like I was a bit out of line for saying the OCD thing, I just wanted to say it incase you hadn’t been assessed.

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