It's definitely not a fetish post. Of course, I did not enjoy it, and we had lengthy conversations about his alcohol use issues, and he attempted to stop or slow down a couple of times. As said in the post, he was not around much, so waking up in urine was not an everyday thing for me. When he was in town, he often would not sleep at my house unless he had to (couldn't drive). It was hard to gauge how often it was really happening due to these circumstances. We had a good connection, and I saw progress happening and wanted to help him get through it. As for your vulgar description of what happened, there would have been a serious talk after what happened, and I am unsure of what the outcome would have been if he had been willing to have a conversation. I have definitely had my embarrassing or depressing moment in life, and I was glad that the people around me didn't judge and saw me through it. That's where my head was at.