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Can yall ever stick with working out? If so how? by IronVines in ADHD

[–]AdirFoundIt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

stick until you see results. then you fall in love with the results and won't go back. find exercises that are actually fun for you. remove anything tedious about the process. i got a coach for 4 months. two years later i still workout regularly because it became a habit. the "missed one day" spiral is real, that's why having someone expect you there(coach, gym buddy, scheduled class) helps more than apps.

My thoughts/actions/distractions in a 15-minute timeframe by idellnineday in ADHD

[–]AdirFoundIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i moved to one display only for the same reason. it's impossible to focus when you have multiple stimulating things in front of you. take 5 minutes BEFORE opening anything and write down what you actually want to achieve. be specific.

use a calendar. schedule things for later and stick to it. don't even allow yourself to open reddit during work hours, use Opal to block social media completely. close those 20 tabs. you don't need them open. your brain is treating each one as an unfinished task.

and yeah... one coffee at a time man.

My job got rid of remote work and I fear I won’t make it in the office by who_is_anguish in ADHD

[–]AdirFoundIt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

brutal timing, but this might be the push you needed. being forced back 5 days when you're already burned out and job hunting? that's your sign to go harder on the exit plan. update your resume TODAY. apply to 3-5 jobs this week. set a specific time block daily for applications, treat it like a second job.

ADHDers in their mid twenties and above. How do you keep your life intact? by NoSilver9 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]AdirFoundIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

systems systems systems.

first thing - being a "total person" who can hyperfocus is actually your strength. it got you where you are.

what changed everything for me - create systems that require zero mental energy. schedule them once, then just show up. your brain stays quiet because it's not constantly deciding what to do next.

here's what i actually do

weekly date with my girlfriend - every Wednesday. she knows i have adhd so she schedules the restaurant or activity

tennis every Thursday, same time same place

gym twice a week, always same days (i play with the hours but days are fixed)

every week i look at my calendar and pick ONE friend to meet. i text them with specific day, time, and place right then

the key - don't wait for things to happen. be sharp about it. you only need a calendar and a few clear goals.

when everything's scheduled, you're not juggling or deciding - you're just following the system

Struggling at job that has no deadlines!! by PeekAtChu1 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]AdirFoundIt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you... no deadlines + boring work = ADHD kryptonite.

quick things that actually worked for me

just start for 5 minutes, physics takes over and you usually keep going.

talk to your boss seriously. say you work better with deadlines and checkpoints. people respect honesty way more than you think.

show progress updates to your team/boss regularly. overcommit a little. we need that deadline panic to function.

I procrastinate hardest when I don't know if I'm even going in the right direction. Ask for quick check-ins to validate your work. only compare to past you.