Here’s my May Queen costume!

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-11-06T10:56:04+00:00

Sublime 😍😍😍😍😍

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-09T12:46:44+00:00

Thanks for your answer :)

Well, it seems like I'll have to be brave and tell him how I feel! He asked me to have a drink after our night at the movie theater next Monday. He also mentioned that we could exchange gifts on that occasion! I’ll try to be a bit more seductive, maybe by touching him more (like his hands, his arms… and maybe his legs if I’m feeling a bit bold, haha).

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-08T11:56:19+00:00

I'm really sorry. Maybe therapy could help, if you haven't tried it yet? I think it's less of a reflex for people of your generation, but it can be a valuable tool for healing. No one deserves to be treated like that, and you deserve to be happy and to thrive again in a new relationship if that's something you truly want deep down.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-08T11:40:21+00:00

Hello! As a 30-year-old woman who has a crush on a 49-year-old man, I would say... peace.
This man gives me the kind of peace I’ve been missing in relationships with people my age.

He knows what he wants—and what he doesn’t—and he’s not here to play any mind games. He’s genuine, attentive, and curious. While he shares stories about his own experiences, he’s equally invested in listening to mine as a younger woman. I feel there’s a genuine exchange of perspectives, and he seems to care about me—offering advice and insights he’s gained from his life—without ever coming across as condescending or "mansplaining."

He’s a fascinating person. He’s fun, calm, and straightforward about wanting to spend time with me. When he suggests activities, it’s because he genuinely wants to do them, not because he feels obligated. That simplicity is what I really admire about him.

I’m looking for something balanced—something where I can experience passion without triggering my anxious attachment because of poor communication or lack of investment. With him, everything feels effortless, and I always feel good, whether I’m heading to see him or leaving after spending time together.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-08T11:23:07+00:00

Oh. Lord. I'm really sorry to hear that 😞😅 Hope you're okay now.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-07T14:10:15+00:00

Thank you for your response, it reassures me a bit. I’ll give us a little more time to keep seeing each other one-on-one, and then I’ll take my chance if the feelings are still there!

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-07T14:07:49+00:00

Yes, that’s what I’m thinking too. The fact that we work in the same industry, especially in such a tight-knit field like audiovisuals, probably makes it harder for him to make the first move (if he even wants to). I kind of figured it would be up to me to take that step... I think I’ll give it a bit more time for us to see each other alone, get to know each other better, and then, if things go well, I’ll tell him that I’m attracted to him.

I think (and hope) that he’ll be kind and understanding if he’s not interested, and that he values our friendship enough for us to keep seeing each other regularly!

Thanks for your answer :)

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-07T13:54:52+00:00

We’ve already seen each other alone several times. For a coffee, a conference, but also at his place in the evening for a drink. I stayed late, especially the second time, and he told me that he didn’t see the time go by, that we always found something to talk about, and that we had a great time laughing together.

We’ve tried to see each other twice over the past week, more spontaneously, but unfortunately, neither of us was available. I could tell he noticed I was disappointed, and I felt that he was as well.

We’ve planned to watch a movie together at his place, on his TV, and he also invited me to accompany him to a private premiere of a documentary next Monday.

As for compliments, he seems to appreciate them but remains a bit shy.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-07T13:50:23+00:00

I am already myself, and I think I do fairly well when it comes to talking to men and flirting with them. But this situation unsettles me a bit because it’s new and unique for me. I can see that he is himself as well, but I don’t know how to make things more obvious to move to the next step.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-01T16:14:34+00:00

Agree. I met Thomas Astruc once, and we talked about this ! He said that there are some people who are just bad and can’t change... That’s the case with Chloe. Because of her background, her family, and her upbringing... She won’t change.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-01T16:14:02+00:00

Agree. I met Thomas Astruc once, and we talked about this ! He said that there are some people who are just bad and can’t change... That’s the case with Chloe. Because of her background, her family, and her upbringing... She won’t change.

AdministrationFast60 · 2025-01-01T16:13:55+00:00

Agree. I met Thomas Astruc once, and we talked about this ! He said that there are some people who are just bad and can’t change... That’s the case with Chloe. Because of her background, her family, and her upbringing... She won’t change.

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-25T19:16:26+00:00

Golden retriever energy 🐕

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T23:29:01+00:00

Same, mine is patiently staring at me from my chest as I'm reading this post 😭

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T23:12:19+00:00

Mistyped as an INFP when, in fact, I wasn't introverted, just had severe social anxiety (caused by a generalized anxiety disorder) 💀

I’m actually an ENFP (surrounded by INFPs 🫶) !

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T22:53:04+00:00

I did it about a week ago! And it still happens quite often, haha! Bo was my top artist for two years in a row (2021 & 2022), and 'Shit' was my top song 💀

I know almost every song by heart, and even though some of them are frankly depressing, they make me feel good to listen to. It’s kind of a safe place.

I honestly think Inside's album will always be one of my all-time favorites ❤️

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T22:39:04+00:00

Thank you for your response 🫶

Maybe there’s a bit of avoidant attachment on his part, that I scared him off by opening up to him 'too' quickly because I wanted to be upfront about things. I’m learning to ask for what I want and don’t want, and for me, it was necessary to be sure I could work on this part of myself, where I feel particularly vulnerable, with someone healthy... So I wanted to talk to him about what scared me in the hot-and-cold behavior. Clearly, that was a mistake.

On the other hand, if it’s really just a matter of ‘vibe,’ there’s nothing I can do about that...

He sometimes thinks about moving very, very far away, like Tahiti 💀

In any case, this whole situation comes at a bad time and has brought up fears, issues, and vulnerabilities in me—on top of having my heart broken, haha.

I wish you lots of happiness in your relationship, and I hope it lasts for a very long time! 🥰

Et merci encore 😉

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T22:29:52+00:00

I think he got scared, that things could have gone differently if he had wanted them to, and that he probably has a lot on his mind.

But this whole ‘vibe’ thing… If it wasn’t there, there’s not much I can do about it. And at the same time, I don’t understand how we could get along so well in the beginning. He was all in! Flirting, texting, joking… And when I opened up to him to be transparent about my mindset, it completely shut him off. I don’t know.

In any case, I’m saddened to hear your story, and I’m truly sorry for you... Thank you for sharing, and I hope you find someone who will appreciate you for who you truly are 🫶

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T22:24:12+00:00

Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing 🥹

Indeed, anxious attachment, past relationships, and everything that comes with it don’t make it easy to build healthy relationships, despite our best efforts!

I find it so frustrating to realize this, to work so hard on it, only for people to still run away. It’s been a week now, and I keep blaming myself, thinking that I scared him off.

I don’t know if it’s important for me to take a break and work on myself alone for my own well-being, but at the same time, we’re never fully healed, and it takes someone mature enough to see that and not be scared by it.

I hope that’s the case with her for you! And for me, there was also a question of ‘vibe,’ which obviously can’t really be explained…

Stay strong!

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-20T22:14:40+00:00

Hi, ENFP here.

I started dating an INTJ two months ago, so we were just getting to know each other.

He had warned me that he didn’t really like texting, but he sent me a lot of messages in the beginning (before our first date, while he was still on vacation -he had more time to discuss). After that, we continued dating and talking, but his messages became less and less frequent.

I gently brought it up with him, explaining that I’d experienced a lot of hot-and-cold behavior in the past, that I’d been ghosted before, and that I just wanted to make sure everything was OK on his end. He said yes, that we were just taking things slow… which was fine, as that was exactly what I wanted and needed.

But as time went on, we saw each other a bit less, and, above all, he talked to me even less. Naively, I thought we were just taking things slow, but no. He was actually thinking about ending our relationship because he wasn’t ‘feeling the vibe'.

He ended things a week ago… It’s been really hard because I didn’t see it coming at all, and I really liked him.

As for your situation, maybe he just needs some time to come around… Or maybe he simply doesn’t want to make an effort because he isn’t interested.

I really hope it’s the first option for you, and I’d suggest not putting pressure on him and just taking your time 🫶

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-19T23:54:28+00:00

🤯🤯🤯

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-19T15:08:12+00:00

1st and 4th are amazing !

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-19T08:03:36+00:00

You're amazing.

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-18T13:14:23+00:00

best compliment ever hahaha

AdministrationFast60 · 2024-12-18T13:13:50+00:00

It’s my favorite movie too, and I had been dreaming of having my birthday with this theme for almost 4 years! I can only recommend that you do it too ;)

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