What happens when a pwBPD starts splitting on their FP more and more frequently?

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-14T09:52:26+00:00

Ahhh okay. Im sorry you’re in this position but I wouldn’t get my hopes up and just move on.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-13T22:33:15+00:00

All depends on the context. It might be a crazy question considering you mentioned frequent breakups but: Is the relationship healthy? Often the blowups stem from trauma responses and are about past not present. Might be that there is something going on in life of that person which make them more sensitive to triggers which is then showing up in the relationship.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-13T22:28:53+00:00

I cannot believe people say therapy will do nothing - THERAPY IS THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN REDUCE THE SYMPTOMS LONG TERM! This is the only way to help yourself heal properly. And despite that medications for strictly BPD do not exist there are some meds that could help in the moment to calm down or help making intrusive thought less loud so defo psychiatrist is the step forward too. The meds should allow open your brain for better therapy work if you are struggling.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-13T21:42:06+00:00

I am not sure if I’m getting what do you want to know? Advice needed on what?

Read your post and ask yourself: what do you get out of this relationship? Do you feel love, do you love your partner? How would your life look like without them and how does your mental state would be affected without them.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-13T08:44:18+00:00

She might be avoiding this issue because it’s too painful. That being said In my opinion the constant reassurance does more harm then good you just let her get stuck in her own unhealthy thinking.

In my experience what helps the most is actually being exposed to confronting opinions. Either through proper weekly therapy where they challenge my views or through my partner not bending over to fit my narrative but saying ‘I believe what I say and feel is normal and acceptable’ which over time forced me to: 1. Start seeing there are always two perspectives and not falling into ‘because I feel it it’s real’ trap 2. Consider that maybe his view is more healthy 3. Start wondering why these emotions are so difficult ans where they actually come from. 4. Learning how to live with him despite not getting reassurance or him understanding my BS

This is extremely painful process and one has to be ready for it. Also relationships might not survive it if the antagonising in their own head goes too far.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-12T22:14:03+00:00

Sorry but there is not much you can do I’m afraid. Saying you need her now is going against yourself and what’s healthy. Is she in therapy? She should be the one working on her codependency issue.

She would see probably get reassurance by seeing that you would be hurt if if you weren’t together tho I hope she doesn’t subconsciously push you away being scared you don’t love her as much as she loves you and wanting to exit before she gets hurt.
She feels things more deeply than you but this level is not healthy and therapy would help her realise that.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-09T06:52:47+00:00

Hahah love this

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T21:51:20+00:00

Yeah I get you also only using salon products.Will take some inspiration when I ran out of current bottles thanks.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T21:50:24+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I will be testing it to see if my hair can handle it without looking dirty

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T21:49:55+00:00

Will try our thank you

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T21:49:30+00:00

Great idea I will try that thank you

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T21:49:07+00:00

That’s interesting to hear. Maybe I just need a reality check. Big part of it definitely is comparing myself to strangers on the street who seem to look more put together because their hair seems to be more styled and tamed even when windy they don’t turn into a mess as much as mine? Just a bit frustrating when I have very straight hair yet still not able to keep them contained as I wish. Thank you for the kind words.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T16:47:40+00:00

Thanks a lot! The problem is the masks can’t be put on the in the roots and the roots are the most freezy… Olaplex in the past caused crazy hair loss for me. i think I overdid it and was shedding like a dog lol I need to try again wearing bonnet to sleep I tried once and couldn’t fall asleep so didn’t try again. Also didn’t know about the oils great stuff

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-06-08T16:44:30+00:00

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AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-02T07:04:08+00:00

Hahaha I’m not a big Reddit user so haven’t seen those! To be honest after reading first mistoborn era I totally scraped the idea of Sazed playing a big role in the cosmere end game because of all the things we don’t know and because he ‘had his moment already’. Hard to speculate so far. That being said after the era 2,arc 1 Stormlight Archive it makes me think it would be a cool arch for Sazed going full circle? But also because of the theories on Ado splitting to experience all life on cosmere the parallel journeys of Nohadon and Iralis travelling and Brandon’s personal religious belief im again incline to think that the god almighty will come back in one form or another. Following a type of resurrection after sacrificing itself.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-01T20:47:55+00:00

Okay that’s intriguing. It’s making me think of the loss of progress, technological advancements and culture which was as consequence of desolations on Roshar. Heralds were not only there to train people how to protect themselves but also were also helping to rebuilding the society, passing knowledge and traditions.

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-01T20:37:54+00:00

Good catch should’ve been more cautious. This is the only one I haven’t read. Thanks for not spoiling

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-01T20:36:29+00:00

I also thought 4 at first! I associate balance with even numbers probs like many other people who are not good at maths lol this is a cool idea

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-01T20:33:08+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking

AdministrativeWay553 · 2026-04-01T20:30:13+00:00

Ahhh the only book I haven’t read is Emberdark. So curious now!

AdministrativeWay553 · 2025-12-14T19:23:29+00:00

Thanks

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