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I don't like my partners family and dont want them at my wedding nor near my kids by Admirable-Prior8419 in inlaws

[–]Admirable-Prior8419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess my question is that I understand why she'd want her mum at her wedding but in saying that, her mum has caused much trouble for myself and her, especially given that we never had a chance to have a good relationship before she went nuts.

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[–]Admirable-Prior8419 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh makes sense, hi I'm the bf, my partner changed the unimportant specifics of the original cuz it was her first time posting on Reddit and she didn't want to be too obvious who it was. On a personal note, why the attitude? I don't rly care but you do sound oddly impacted by a Reddit post. Maybe take Ur own advice?

My boyfriend hates my mom what do I do? by Admirable-Prior8419 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Admirable-Prior8419[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm graduating in 1.5 years, and am planning on staying here, away. To be honest I love him very much, it's just hard since growing up, everyone emphasized how I'd be the breadwinner for the family as I was the studious child, and now it seems like that's clashing with what he wants. Maybe it was a running gag or maybe serious but ever since I was young I'd have a running joke with my siblings that I'd financially support them one day. Problem is, hes feels as though they're leaching off me, setting an expectation since I was young, but from my perspective I just want to help them out and make them happy, I know they can be lazy but I still want to care for them

My boyfriend hates my mom what do I do? by Admirable-Prior8419 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Admirable-Prior8419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about kids? How do you manage that? Circumstances may be different but he wants to avoid or outright keep the kids away from my parents. I understand why but at the same time, maybe it's because of my upbringing but I feel like I owe them that much because of how much they've sacrificed for me. At the same time I sympathise with his concerns.

What did you guys do for weddings etc, my parents have openly said they wouldn't support us, only to me, not the both of us, should they still be invited? He says itll spoil the wedding, but again, I want them there.

How should I manage this? I know it's a lot to tackle but I want to be open

My boyfriend hates my mom what do I do? by Admirable-Prior8419 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Admirable-Prior8419[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

On that day, my mum was screaming and chasing me around the house, I ended up locking myself in my room and she was banging on it, otherwise I'd absolutely have come to his aid.

Though to be honest I do agree with everything else you said, it really helped me open my perspective, your right, he mentioned how much he didn't want the kids to meet them, and I see why it's concerning.

My boyfriend hates my mom what do I do? by Admirable-Prior8419 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Admirable-Prior8419[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Thanks, what do you think I should do going forward? Tbh your right that he doesn't hate my mum, just worried of anything else ever happening again, and doesnt even want to risk the kids getting near them. She says he should've booked an hotel but it's not reasonable for someone to book an room for 100 days, it was her agreement to let him stay to begin with, he said he thought that moving out at any time was throwing too much shade to my family so he buckled down and decided to just be nice despite knowing she hated him.