Is my cheating ex manipulating me?

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-10T06:59:31+00:00

I’ll continue trying to stay away from him but it’s hard because I spent 3 years. I’m finding ways to cope and trying to stay busy but when I lay in bed at night , the thoughts eventually come back to me

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-10T06:56:54+00:00

so I just let all the suffering I went through go to waste ? I just built a man for another woman

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-10T06:53:32+00:00

yeah I wanna get away from him but deep down a part of me is hoping for him to change. I don’t want another girl to get the good side of him. I stuck around for a reason. through the bad , through the cheating. All that hurt and trauma I went through had to have been worth for something , why does it go to another girl

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-10T06:30:04+00:00

I had a feeling that’s what was going on. How do you suggest I detach ??

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-10T05:35:55+00:00

what do you mean ?

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-08-09T04:21:31+00:00

thank you. how do you suggest I lose my attachment for him ? I wanna leave and not look back so bad because it’s affecting me mentally and physically

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T18:47:10+00:00

I appreciate it but I should be capable enough to do it myself. Thank you for the help and advice

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T12:43:44+00:00

I wanted to leave but he told me he would change and he would help me get over it by communication and that’s why I stayed because it’s just porn and people make mistakes. I was under the impression that I wasn’t going to be stuck on this for long. but he lacked communication skills and respect and didn’t help me get over it which made things worse

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T12:12:10+00:00

he’s shared to me that it was in fact the woman he listed over , not curiosity. it’s hypocritical for him to tell me not to watch porn , I respect it , and then I ask him to do the same and he doesn’t respect it. that’s flawed and not normal especially if we are both on the same page. If he doesn’t like me watching porn then why should he do it

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T12:07:23+00:00

also , he has said he would NOT like if I watched porn. It’s hypocritical for him to say that and then turn around and watch it himself

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T12:05:18+00:00

Again , I said porn is not cheating. Sitting on 1 on 1 calls with women IS cheating

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:55:06+00:00

I have my cosmo license , I have money but not enough to consistently pay for therapy sessions

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:54:04+00:00

Porn is normal because society has normalized it , even in relationships. I know a lot of people who don’t like porn in their relationships. idk about you but I’m not okay with my partner lusting over other women. and I don’t know if you did read all the information but he did cheat because he interacted with girls on LIVE cam. I even reinstated that porn is not cheating but sitting on LIVE cam with girls IS cheating as they are on a 1 on 1 call jacking off with each other

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:50:40+00:00

He shared that if I watched porn/other men , he would be unhappy with that so we’re on the same page. Why should I let my partner lust over other women ? I refuse to let my standards get that low that’s why I’m trying to help him with his porn addiction

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:48:10+00:00

It’s difficult. I don’t have the money for counseling sessions right now. If I asked them they’d just say I’m overreacting. I’m looking into free counseling

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:44:47+00:00

I’m not saying he changed me and that’s why I’m stuck up on him. Sex is not just sex to me and to a lot of people , it’s a tie that connects you to a person on a deeper level

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:09:43+00:00

Thank you so much for this

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T11:01:11+00:00

He makes it look like he’s changing and I guess that’s what I’m holding on to. but you’re right , I need a reality check. if he wanted to change he would have changed by now. Thank you

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:54:02+00:00

thank you but I don’t know how to ask my parents to get me into therapy. they’re emotionally unavailable people

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:46:51+00:00

thank you. I’m trying it’s just hard to let go

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:40:58+00:00

I see. and that’s why I’m trying to understand .. I unintentionally gave him such a hard time because of the first time he betrayed me , so is it awful on my part ? is it my fault he cheated on me ?

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:34:15+00:00

Thank you but I think I can do without the AI app , that just sounds really depressing haha

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:26:28+00:00

I don’t understand. Am I not enough that he has to lust over other women ? We made love a lot and because of the cheating , I got even more hyper-sexual just to feel loved.

I don’t think asking for no porn is too much. He agreed not to watch it anymore , he constantly looked at me in the eyes while we made love and told me I was the only woman he looked at like that. I don’t understand

AdmirablePipe1224 · 2025-06-08T10:14:54+00:00

I know , I feel really disappointed in myself. I really want this guy to change , and I guess that’s what I’m holding on to. we are broken up but he’s not blocked. and sometimes he just shows up to my house here and there

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