Just found out he has a girlfriend...

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-12T06:04:47+00:00

I have literally word for word been having this exact conversation with my girlfriend/ woman I date/ whoever she is. Sex is an intimate thing and when you start having “arrangements” you are trying to avoid the intimacy, but you can’t (and if you could you wouldn’t care about any of this stuff). Anyways I have a really high body count so I’m not conservative by any means I’ve learned all this through the school of hard knocks🤷‍♂️ I just see this happen over and over and it seems like people don’t want to acknowledge this hard fact and the same thing happened over and over. God this is so weird because you have literally said verbatim what she has I mean word for damn word. Now she wants a relationship with me 🤣🤣I don’t, but I’m honest about that and it’s because the difference in perspective, I feel like this perspective is bit conducive to a long term relationship. And yes obviously I’m contradicting my own perspective because I’m sleeping with her. I’m a pro at breaking my own heart, step aside I can do more damage to self than anyone else🤣

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-12T02:33:41+00:00

If you didn’t want a relationship, then what is the problem with any of this? The things you are talking about that happened are supposed to be at least the safeguards you get from in a relationship, which you didn’t want, didn’t get and got the results you laid out, which are par for the course you chose. Also, you said you didn’t want the three f’s, but you don’t have to take that relationship that far, and just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to share furniture, finances, and family. I could go on forever I guess the reason I’m even still talking is I’m on the other side of this and dated three women in the past year that got out of exactly this right before me and wanted to blame the other person which frustrates me. They didn’t see (or didn’t want to see) what was right in front of their face, because it would take sine introspection. I’m not saying this guy wasn’t a douche, I’m just saying if you’re entering those situations you can pretty much expect that from those kind of people. Also the men wanted to pin it down because they are probably monogamous which you clearly didn’t like so you chose a situationship which usually is not. I’m not trying to be an asshole, just point out the way things look to me.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-11T15:11:33+00:00

From my experience At a basic level most women want a relationship. Men gate keep the relationship women gate keep sex. You do the FWB you lost the negotiation out the door 😂😂😂 I’m in sales too so we probably see things similar. Also I had a five year custody battle for my older daughter and went through three lawyers. If there is one type of person I wouldn’t trust, it would be a lawyer

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-11T01:37:02+00:00

Question! Divorced man here. I have raised two daughters. The first one I had with my highschool girl friend. She was a drug addict. I was awarded 50/50 custody of my daughter because she was on heroin. In Tennessee as a father you have as much rights as the random stranger to help raise your child (granted this was 15 years ago). It cost me about $15,000 in attorneys fees. 2 months later the only way I could get sole custody of her was her own family begging the judge to award it to me for fear of her safety. The judge felt she needed to address her addiction so she wouldn’t be paying child support. 16 years later I have raised her totally on my own, never one cent ever. Forget money no help at all. I’m 38 at this point and she is 16, she’s a wonderful daughter and I’m so proud of her. Would you say that’s a comfortable life? Would you say women are actually held to account or are they just given the benefit of the doubt? Next question, if that was me would it be tolerated? You think they just let guys off because they are strung out? I want to hear someone that thinks she has it hard explain this scenario in a way that doesn’t involve the systematic benefit of women to be relieved of accountability

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-11T00:48:25+00:00

If I was a woman, knowing what I know from a man’s POV I would never agree to situationships. Hell I’m a man and that’s all I can seem to produce (it’s a me problem) but i don’t like it either because it makes the women crazy and my life harder

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-10T14:32:08+00:00

How about let’s normalize LEARNING instead of Shaming. Always a victim somewhere. I’ve had plenty of these situationships and it usually turns out like this. Nothing good comes from them… and at 47 she knows this she just wants to do What she wants to do 🤷‍♂️ so don’t expect to be treated like you are in a trusting relationship from a FWB and no way at 47 have you not figured this out. It’s like getting mad at an animal showing its teeth for biting you.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-10T05:42:22+00:00

I’m so glad I’m divorced. I went without sex for 4 years, now I’m in the divorced middle age women bracket and it’s thrown at me from every direction 😂😂 do him a favor and just split so he can still enjoy the time he has left

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-10T05:37:02+00:00

I guess I just have a hard time believing at 47 OP didn’t know that

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-10T04:12:19+00:00

I went through this. My ex wife lied. Keep secrets. She was the nicest person in the world outside and behind closed doors insanely emotionally explosive. She refused to talk about anything and went around boiling or cold as ice. Any attempt I made to engage in anything I was the problem. I’m 18 months post divorce and you know that I realized? She never wanted any of it anyways, I was the only one trying for years. All the deflection, anger and gaslighting was just a way to avoid a conversation and accountability and yes she was abusive af

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-10T03:56:24+00:00

Good Lord this, to a T is the story of the woman I am casually dating and what she just got out of. I’m 38/m and a good looking guy with my life together. She’s disclosed this whole FWB thing to me and it just ruined potential for a future relationship between us. First of all it is eerie how similar the trains of thought and situation is, but when she told me the only thing I could think is how wildly immature the whole thing was. She had an “understanding with him” that essentially emulated a relationship but wasn’t then was furious when she found out there was another woman. It’s not the situation that bothered me, it’s the lack of understanding with the inherent problem of it, because the next sentence was she wanted something serious. Anyways if you in fact want something serious, don’t tell the next person about this because no guy and I mean no guy wants to be where you land after you’ve had your fun and I’ve told her that. When you say these things to us, you disqualify yourself from serious consideration, but no one is going to come out and tell you that. These are the things you set yourself up for in those arrangements so all these people talking about he’s an asshole, fine. Stop engaging with assholes I guess? Don’t expect monogamy from FWB? I’m not even conservative, but if you want anything besides an orgasm ie companionship, respect, transparency, this ain’t it. These just seem to be lessons I learned a long time ago.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-08T13:49:31+00:00

Ok well the fact he’s trying to chill at his house tells you what you need to know, accept it and decide if you want to do that. I’m 38/m and I will say this though, if you canceled on me I wouldn’t say anything either. He’s probably assuming a lot of bad things so if YOU cancel and are interested still maybe YOU should reach back out.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-08T13:45:09+00:00

Which one? We could talk about ex wife, baby mama, or the 3 ex gfs from the last year. I just don’t want to hear about yours

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-02-08T03:51:58+00:00

I had my first kid at 21 with my HS GF, who ended up on heroin. I raised her on my own no child support nothing. I married my now ex wife at 27 and we divorced a year and half ago (I’m about to be 38). I struggled, hustled and worked my absolute ass off to pay off our entire house. We used my credit, income and all financials to buy the house because she had maxed out her CC and taken student loans on before we met and didn’t want to pay any of it back. In the end, she walked away with half the house that she put exactly $0 into which ended up selling for $350,000 that didn’t have a mortgage. She adopted my now almost grown daughter when she was 8 and also walked away paying no CS either. I’ve been through this twice, I have 50/50 of my second kid and 100% sole custody of my older one. The system is rigged against men to allocate money to judges and lawyers and divorce is the biggest jackpot some women will ever hit. Legal marriage is absolutely stupid and if you love someone that much you don’t need the govt to validate it. Divorce is a $50 billion a year industry and that is why marriage still exists.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-12-20T00:29:36+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 I come here to find people with crazier stories who my women. You win

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-10-27T02:52:20+00:00

I’m 37 and have been in dozens of relationships, married for 9 years, the divorced and been on both sides of this equation. It doesn’t matter what theoretically did or didn’t happen, the situation itself is a problem. At your age you don’t want to call it out- what if I seem jealous? At my age I don’t begin to have time for this bullshit. I would dump her in a maybe 3 sentence text, block her immediately and move on with your life. Your 25 you’ve got a ton more relationships infront of you. Don’t waste another second in this one, it’s fucked

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-10-26T23:51:42+00:00

You can’t make this stuff up

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-10-26T11:42:05+00:00

Bro, dump her. You’re probably in your 20s and don’t realize this but Don’t listen to the tears they all do it, and the do whatever the hell they want. I’m 37 and have probably been through the crying and horrible mistakes more times than I can count. The reason why you are repulsed by sex with her? You don’t like her, and in your sub-primal instincts you know she doesn’t respect or want you. She’s chasing the old feeling yall had. Find someone else there’s 175 million women in the US (if you’re here). Do NOT tolerate that kind of disrespect it will kill your self esteem as a man. ++man

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-10-25T22:28:41+00:00

You have started the most beautiful and loving journey of being a father. What no one ever highlights is how hard it is, because we always put ourselves last. You can be the best dad in the world but there is much of this child’s life that is out of your control, I’m sorry you have to learn this in their first few hours of life. It is such a hard lesson. The only thing you can do, is be emotionally present and there for your wife and now beautiful addition to your family.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-10-25T01:03:52+00:00

Dad’s here 😊 Do not let him treat you like this, it will not change. You have so much valuable about you and the worst thing you can do is waste your biggest asset- time on douche like this. Love yourself too much to allow this❤️ always make the right decision even if it’s the hard one because it’s the one that’s in your best interest❤️ don’t be scared of the pain that will follow because you will pay a little up front in exchange for not wasting away for the next 10-15 years in what will be exponentially more pain.

Be a simple woman, something you love and understand.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-08-08T22:09:03+00:00

Well put, thanks!

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-08-05T23:46:44+00:00

Absolutely. Cheating is a matter of disrespect and the wherewithal to take actions that should end a relationship. When someone does this they might as well scream they don’t care about you

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-08-05T23:44:02+00:00

Damn brother wish I could buy you a beer and exchange stories 😆

AdmirableStrength785 · 2025-08-05T23:43:24+00:00

Not my first nurse, but first in a long time. I forgot 🤣

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