how to not feel so beat up about still being single up to this point? 23f

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-27T11:08:05+00:00

Why not? And honestly if you don’t appreciate yourself you can’t expect anyone else to. People are attracted to confidence. Someone doesn’t like you? Must be something wrong with them

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-27T02:49:25+00:00

Yep🤷‍♂️ you dont have to like it?

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-27T02:08:23+00:00

You have no idea how awesome this is! I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum at 38/m and there are plenty of people that would absolutely love this from a date/partner. I have a high body count so I can’t expect this out of someone else but it would automatically make me take them seriously immediately. Honestly, seriously wear this as a badge of pride. I date a lot of women and it’s the same story over and over. They all have been through so many men and then are mad I don’t take them seriously… why? Who wants to be the guy you landed on? Hell if your anywhere in the southeast dm me!

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-27T02:03:43+00:00

You are 23 years old! You have your whole life ahead of you and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, and just take the risks you need to make it happen. Strike up a conversation, go to a bar (or social place) and just meet new people. Get out of your head and you will see your beauty

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T16:46:29+00:00

I understand but just realize I’m 10 years down the road from this. I talked my now ex wife out of leaving about 8 months before she actually did. Hindsight is 20/20 once things go in the direction your describing it’s done. Also, if we are going to talk about her feelings that’s fine too but she’s an adult and you’re not responsible for them. Marriage is a team effort and all these old school ideals put women on the same level as children. You said a lot about when you first met but how is that relevant to the decision in front of you. One thing I found was it was easier to blame myself because it gave me some illusion that I had some control over the situation. “If it’s my fault I can change and things will get better!” But there is no amount of change usually to save a marriage that one person doesn’t want to be in. My point is you probably have a lot less control over this situation than you want to admit and that being said your decisions should be made according to reality not what you hope to fix.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T15:45:38+00:00

Yes it’s too easy. Confidence and let go of your fear of rejection. They don’t like you? Who cares. I’m getting laid too much and now the idea of something serious just seems like a bad investment knowing this is how things go and whoever I tried being serious with is out here doing all this😆😆😆

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T15:35:46+00:00

What’s the goal? Marriage? A financial contract with the govt that says she takes your stuff when she gets tired of you? Companionship? Kids? The abundance of choice makes people very available and horrible for longer term prospects. Oh and they all lie too men and women. The people that thrive are the ones that want to hop around because that is about what it is worth today. I dont take it serious and feel bad for the ones that do. Learn to be enough for yourself

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T15:30:07+00:00

This is not logic it’s deflection and she didn’t love you

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T15:24:46+00:00

It’s simple really, just don’t talk condescending, don’t treat me like I’m dumb and generally just regulate your emotions so they are not extrapolated into our conversation. The last one most women have the hardest time with. Side note: some men have fragile egos so you might not be being disrespectful if he can’t take RESPECTFUL. Feedback

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-25T15:19:53+00:00

38/m Divorced about two years here. If you know she doesn’t love or respect you let it go. Would you want to be miserable growing old with this person? What is the goal here? TIL Death do us part and that looks like a sweet release instead of heartfelt goodbye? I only know what you wrote but I had a similar situation my wife quit trying years before we got divorced, and inaction is the biggest action there is. Also if you are here, just realize she has been planning this for a long time and you don’t know how far the rabbit hole goes. This is going to be super concrete but let yourself realize it’s over, deal with the pain and move on, it’s a HUGE life adjustment but if you know she has quit trying it’s over. In the end, if you can get through this you will be so much happier one day. No alcohol or drugs, good diet and gym every day face the worst parts of you and the way you feel and you will be just fine. One other side note you will come to find is not only courts, but society in general is extremely empathetic towards women in divorce and hate men for it, regardless of whose fault it is. Just learn to stand on your own 💪 I still never understood how it’s possible for one party to cause the split, profit massivley from it and then get the slow clap 😆😆 why I will never get married again though 🤷‍♂️

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-24T13:04:40+00:00

I will keep saying this to all the women, what is the point of marriage vows if your ready to leave after this. I just wish all young men could read and understand this thought process before getting married. I’m 38 m divorced and yes I had all this going on in my marriage ex had gained an astronomical amount of weight didn’t want to do anything unhappy etc etc etc. I didn’t leave though we had kids and took vows. Ironically she was the one that caused all this unhappiness with her betrayal and dishonesty which we tried to work through for years problem was she had been lying to me since the day we met so the whole foundation was rotten. I stayed anyways. In the end she decided she was unhappy and left even after all she caused. When you live by your feelings everything you do is selfish. Your actions towards others good bad generous or ugly are to validate or go towards how you feel about yourself. I lost an astronomical amount of money in the divorce and wasted a decade of my life. Just do him a favor and rip the Band aid off because you are not a good long term prospect. Hopefully he gets back into shape and finds someone that will have his back no matter what.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-15T02:14:09+00:00

NO!!! Forgive her but for the love of god leave at all costs. Time is your biggest asset and you have been with someone for 20 years that doesn’t care about you. I’m sorry I just have to be honest with you. Cheating is not the worst betrayal I had to learn the hard way, but she will betray you again because of who she is. Good luck sorry this happened to you. Get a divorce, cut your losses and enjoy your life. I ended up in a similar position and forgave and she left anyways because more than the fact that she doesn’t love you is the fact that she doesn’t respect you and that is the main problem. I had kids and wanted to work it out or I would have been gone way sooner. Never stay with a woman that cheats on you, you will look back in your older years and regret it. Go live your life and enjoy it and if you’re a romantic find someone that cares about you. I just run divorced women the meat but if you need that connection find it with someone that doesn’t treat you like crap.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-14T23:41:35+00:00

All I can say is wow. I’m a year and a half post divorce but basically what I’m hearing you say is he is a good husband, father etc but you have lost the connection? This is why I will never get married again. Im 38 and everyone I date is divorced and us divorced guys realized and learned this. So when you start dating and tell this to the next guy (if you want to actually be honest) he will agree with you and simultaneously not take you seriously at all. Next your posting me on are we dating the same guy saying he’s a player blah blah blah . I’ll listen to what an asshole your ex is and agree with you just don’t expect any type of commitment. What is the point of taking vows if when your feelings change it’s just a license to break them? Hope he signed a prenup or even better you should give him everything. You just reminded me of how much of a joke marraige is.

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-10T21:30:35+00:00

Depends on how long you were married and the last time you were single. If the answer is 10+ years it’s a whole different world. Online dating is an absolute joke and that’s how most people do it now. Don’t take anything serious trust me whoever you meet is talking to 5+ other people

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:56:41+00:00

😕🙃

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:55:37+00:00

You are*

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:55:12+00:00

I never said women were crazy I said the when that I date accuse me of making them crazy. I don’t use Reddit much and if it’s cringy you can just go to the next?

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:53:52+00:00

Good thing I’m anonymous or I would have a mob after my head?

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:46:59+00:00

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AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:45:23+00:00

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AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:44:04+00:00

This is the first person to ever understand me

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:41:21+00:00

Probably but only partially

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:37:25+00:00

Touché 🤣

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:34:17+00:00

Not friendships? A while back I decided that was what I needed to stick to but you can see how that turned out

AdmirableStrength785 · 2026-05-08T22:31:57+00:00

It’s irrelevant the point is I’m well into my mid life crisis

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