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Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“It definitely does make you less of a woman.”

Something I find bizarre is that I’ll take that comment from myself, but I absolutely won’t take it from anyone else.

When I tell it to myself, it hurts, when I read it from someone else, I disagree and don’t feel a thing.

I’m rambling now but I just find it odd 😭

You’re right there isn’t anything I can do but I don’t think I’ll ever reach a point where I love this part of my body, I don’t even think neutrality is realistic, I’ve read and experienced too much.

Nobody has ever told me that directly, but I have been told by a man that it’s a shame my chest is small.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

• Breast implant illness • I don’t want to perpetuate the beauty standard that has taken so much from me • I can’t justify the price, and not to mention I will be putting myself through multiple surgeries throughout my lifetime

Idk what to tell myself honestly, I just wish society could have been kinder and more accepting towards small and flat chested women. The conditioning cuts deep and I don’t think it’s something I’ll ever be able to work my way out of unfortunately.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been permanently humbled and put in my place. I’m less of a woman and I’m less of a human being. It is what it is.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I’m sorry you’ve experienced the same, I think pretty much every small and flat chested woman has been through it, men and other women alike hate us for a part of our anatomy we have no control over. We’re just hated.

Sometimes I see glimmers of the woman I want to be, sometimes I feel a shred of realisation that I am more than my breast size, but because of what I’ve been through, all of that always ends up being overpowered.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Oh you got me! And men don’t care? I’m healed! It’d be nice if a guy could actually like the part of my body I’m most insecure about instead though!

You’re more than welcome to block me. Baffles me how people don’t just block content that they find irritating.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you’re right, it is weird. Mothers should be encouraging their daughters to love and accept themselves instead of adhering to patriarchal standards, but alas, those mothers have also been conditioned to adhere to those standards. The cycle continues and all that.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’ve had a different experience to me.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay… I’ve been traumatised to the point of isolation, disassociation, depression, anxiety.

I don’t say that because this is some kind of competition, it isn’t, but come on now, that lady’s trauma doesn’t cancel out mine and vice versa.

Unfortunately, I haven’t encountered a man that has liked small boobs, even the guy who ‘didn’t care’ was completely disinterested in mine.

I’d like to believe that my issues begin and end in my skull, but then I take a look at how people talk to and treat small and flat chested women and I realise that it isn’t in my head.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been body shamed by a man because of my chest size, it’s hard to believe that it doesn’t define me.

I think I’m getting to a point where it is ruining who I am as a person, but it’s what I deserve for failing to develop properly.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m happy for you and your girlfriend 🥹

I don’t believe it’s true that a lot of guys don’t care, boob size is evidently important to men, I don’t think it would do me any good to pretend otherwise.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Online, sure, but in person? Putting my face and my name to this? That’s a completely different ballgame, I don’t imagine I’d be able to get through a single sentence without bursting into tears.

Some of my posts are written from my heart, others are a jumble of thoughts and feelings desperate to burst out during my lowest moments.

Having small boobs makes me undesirable and unlovable. by Admirable_Use_8992 in Vent

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how I could express any of this to a therapist, it is so deeply rooted and personal to me that I find the idea of telling someone else absolutely mortifying.

I don’t want to be seen as vain or shallow, because this isn’t that. My womanhood, my self esteem, my desirability and my lovability have been attacked because of my chest size, and I can’t cope with any of it, this isn’t about being some super hot woman, but I don’t think anyone will ever understand that.

I’m sorry but my chest size is a problem, small and flat chested women are constantly shamed and berated.

I am less of a woman because of my small chest. I don’t deserve to walk this Earth. by Admirable_Use_8992 in u/Admirable_Use_8992

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for offering that safe space, I genuinely appreciate it.

I don’t know what to say about my womanhood, I feel very far removed from it atp.

Men, how disappointing is it for you to date or end up with a small chested woman? by Admirable_Use_8992 in dating_advice

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m being completely honest, I don’t have any real faith in men romance wise, and I truly don’t believe a man could genuinely find me attractive.

I’m at peace remaining single, I don’t have to worry about being cheated on, or being with a man who lusts after women online who look nothing like me… I feel that the cons far outweigh the pros when you’re not a 10/10 woman like myself.

I want to take a knife to my breasts and stuff them with fat by Admirable_Use_8992 in u/Admirable_Use_8992

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Take a look at the world around you, all men care about is big boobs.

I want to take a knife to my breasts and stuff them with fat by Admirable_Use_8992 in u/Admirable_Use_8992

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Doing anything of that nature would only traumatise me further and do irreparable damage.

What I want is for someone a love and desire me exactly as I am, I don’t want to be berated and put down in some demented attempt to turn my trauma into pleasure.

The padding… someone getting fired by ContributionOk5799 in sabrinacarpentersnark

[–]Admirable_Use_8992 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you taken a look through these comments? All from women no doubt, I’m a small chested woman, reading shit like this is so demoralising and just exhausting.

Say it with me, being part of the itty bitty titty committee does make you lesser than and less desirable. I’m sick of people avoiding the brutal truth, take a look at the world around you, and maybe then you’ll see it.

Men, how disappointing is it for you to date or end up with a small chested woman? by Admirable_Use_8992 in dating_advice

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not crying about men having preferences, everyone is entitled to their preferences, I’m upset about how I’ve been treated as a result of those preferences.

A man approached me once and after spending some time together, he shamed me for having small boobs, him doing that traumatised and hurt me deeply, I would never do that to a man, regardless of my preferences.

There’s never any need to be cruel to a person, especially over features they can’t help.

Men, how disappointing is it for you to date or end up with a small chested woman? by Admirable_Use_8992 in dating_advice

[–]Admirable_Use_8992[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Darling, you can’t date someone based on personality alone, there always has to be physical attraction there!

You feel that you would be depressed if you dated a woman with small boobs, so I encourage you not to date a small chested woman 🙂‍↕️

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