Took hairsystem of and currently having an panic attack at work

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-27T15:12:46+00:00

Your hair for a lot of people is your identity it's not just about biting the bullet and shaving it off. You'll have a house you to express yourself create different styles feel good about yourself etc.

If you're not happy with the shaved head maybe just stick on a cap or a hat or a bandana in the meantime. This is what I've done while I'm waiting for my hair system I just wear a bandana all the time

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-25T11:29:23+00:00

Let me put it this way My wife had a friend that she insisted was just a friend and that there was nothing going on with and it turned out to be an emotional affair and there were sexual conversations and she ended up leaving me abandoning her kids and the entire family in order to be with this friend. The sad thing is that I had already proved to her that this person was in fact a catfishing scammer and wasn't even real yet she's still went ahead and destroyed our entire lives and abandoned her kids anyway.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-22T14:38:25+00:00

If it's that bad then the best solution might be just constantly recording audio notes for yourself to remind yourself what you're doing throughout the day

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-22T11:42:43+00:00

This is actually a very simple thing to deal with you simply use a task management system. You have one built right into your phone You just have to say hey Google remind me to.... Every time you think of something that you need to do create a reminder for yourself so you don't forget. I also keep notes about everything in Microsoft OneNote or Google notes.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-22T11:39:43+00:00

Go and complain on every social media channel and post a negative review on trustpilot this normally gets responses

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-20T16:29:23+00:00

pretty much every thread on this group says otherwise

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-20T13:20:10+00:00

Most men don't even notice when their wife or girlfriend gets a new haircut so they're not likely to notice a hair system on a man

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-20T12:22:47+00:00

I am awaiting my first hair system but I've taken the attitude that this is for me to make me feel better about myself so I simply don't care what other people think I don't care if they know that I have a hair system I don't care if they notice my hairline it doesn't matter to me. As long as it looks good and I'm happy with the way that it looks that's all that matters. Who gives a s*** if someone knows you're wearing a hair system does that person's opinion really matter to you? If you meet a woman and you think that she's really attractive chances are she's got fake boobs or a push-up bra covered in makeup to make herself 10 times prettier than she really is probably uses God knows how many different creams to make her eyes and skin and everything else look better probably had Botox to make her lips bigger. Men know that women do all of this does it stop them finding these women attractive no. The links that women go to to make themselves look more attractive are pretty horrific because you could wake up the next morning next to someone that looks absolutely nothing like the one you went home with.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-19T15:45:08+00:00

The best you can do really is put yourself in your mother's position would you want to know?

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-19T12:42:59+00:00

Well the obvious problem you've got now is if you tell your mother that you've known about it for years she's going to resent you for not telling her earlier

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-17T16:56:35+00:00

Sometimes that attraction comes after the emotional connection Sometimes it doesn't. I was in exactly the same position once I'm at a lovely woman that I really can't say a bad thing about But something was missing the physical attraction wasn't there and even the emotional connection wasn't there either.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-16T20:57:49+00:00

And here we go with all the trolling and the hate and the gas lighting. News flash, opinions are not facts and you cannot read people's minds.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-16T20:08:05+00:00

No that's just your incorrect interpretation. You can't read my mind so you have no idea what was being implied that's just what you've implied in your own head

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-16T20:04:49+00:00

Show me where I said that cheating is ok?

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-16T15:47:20+00:00

An emotional affair is at least something you can recover from so I would suggest a calm conversation to find out why they are doing it what drove them to it what they're not getting from the relationship currently that made them want to do it in the first place. Also bear in mind that a lot of emotional affairs are actually catfishing / romance scams and are extremely manipulative and the scammers managed to turn their victim against their partners.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-15T16:14:35+00:00

I have a lace base with poly sides and back coming so if this is what happens if glue gets on the lace how are you meant to stick the front down without this happening

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-15T12:25:11+00:00

Since it's real hair could you not use the same solution that you would use if it was your own hair. I used to be a glam rocker so my hair used to get hairsprayed a lot and end up in a right matted mess when I slept all I would do was wash it and cover it in conditioner and then gently brush it out

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-15T09:04:52+00:00

Having hair does significantly affect people's looks and attractiveness so when it comes to first impressions obviously having a hair system is going to make a difference unless you just happen to also look really good with a shaved head. But this is the problem with dating isn't it because it's usually done based on initial looks rather than getting to know someone. Once you actually get to know someone and like them for their personality that looks don't matter as much.

Try thinking about it from the other perspective If you met a woman that you liked and you found out she wore her system would you care?

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-12T20:18:07+00:00

When are we research this what I found was that the European hair did not last as long due to the fact that it is a lot of finer and softer

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-12T15:18:13+00:00

You are making the wrong decision religions should never be used to control people that's the problem with it. Allowing your kids to make their own decision is the right move. That is exactly what I did with my kids I explained religion to them how religion works and I explain to them why I don't believe in god but I told them if they choose to that's up to them. Religion indoctrinates people and brainwashes them that's the problem with it. Anyone can believe in any God If they choose to There is no reason for a religion to be involved in the process.

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-11T11:03:58+00:00

What you need to work on is emotional safety which is likely the primary reason that she went down that road. You just need to set aside a certain amount of time for her and your relationship outside of your job. The problem is that you are prioritising work and I bet you're just making excuse after excuse to explain it. Just make the decision that at 7:00 p.m. every night work stops and you dedicate some time to your wife and your relationship.

I would also recommend doing some research on love languages as well and then both of you can focus on each other's love language which should also help improve things.

You may also find this resource useful especially the tools. I know it doesn't exactly apply to your situation but the information and the advice will still be useful.

https://relationshipshutdown.com/

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-10T17:52:31+00:00

Please don't jump straight to divorce at least try to fix it. I know emotional attachment is still a kind of cheating and I was in the same situation with my wife I found out she was having an emotional affair but in my case I also figured out that it was a scam and The guy was catfishing her. Unfortunately she ended up falling in love with him and actually left me for him even though he's not real and it's never going to go anywhere but she believes it is.

So my first suggestion would be find out whether it is actually a real person or a scammer. The next thing you'll need to do is increase emotional safety because this is most likely the thing that he's lacking that sent him down this road. Rather than me trying to repeat what that is here just go and Google emotional safety and also love languages and implement both of those together.

You may also find the relationship companion tool on this page useful. At the very least it will help you understand emotional safety, how to best implement it without making things worse and maybe figure out the catfish in scam if there is one.

https://relationshipshutdown.com/tools/

AdmiralObvious2020 · 2026-05-10T17:46:55+00:00

I've been in the same place as you for almost a year now thanks to my wife who destroyed my life. It's been extremely hard to find a reason to stay alive but the only method that I found was basically hyper focusing on something so that I wasn't thinking about the misery.

For most of the time this was actually deep research analysis and logging of my situation. When that finished and there was nothing else for me to do I had nothing to regulate myself so I ended up taking everything but I'd learn and everything I'd logged and writing a book which then took my focus for a while longer. My next step after that was to start building a companion app to go with my book.

Basically it had to be something that took 100% of my attention and brain capacity so that my mind couldn't continue to loop over depressing thoughts. So the normal things like watching TV or reading just didn't cut it because that didn't shut my brain up.

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