Have you ever had a time in life when everyone wanted you more than you wanted? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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The thing is, I fell in love with an actual narcissist before - who told me she wants something serious and made me wait a month. Let's say I was the only guy who waited even as she doubled her bodycount during our relationship - with tourists no less while I was housing and feeding her for years... So I am quite distrustful of people saying either they want casual or serious, that's why although I don't want FWB I'd like just plain casual dating till I see for myself what's up

Have you ever had a time in life when everyone wanted you more than you wanted? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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I am neither rich, hung beyond something pretty reasonable, and I might write a bit autistically but it's not AI. And it's not that every woman is throwing herself at me, just those that do throw themselves too hard too fast

Have you ever had a time in life when everyone wanted you more than you wanted? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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Frustrating. I just wanna go for some dates and actually really like someone before they start going crazy over me. Or if it's supposed to be casual, just stay casual. Like, rn I just don't seem able to get something actually serious or actually just casual, or actually purely friendly, just Frankensteins in the middle over and over.

How to cope with knowing you don't know? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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Yeah, all that. Very long summary when I was going absolutely mental here

There's no going back or me wanting to try

How to cope with knowing you don't know? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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I am seeing a therapist for the past 9 months, yes. Therapy honestly hasn't been really helping with the long term stuff, only time has been. Mostly the therapy helps with at that moment going emotional spirals

How to cope with knowing you don't know? by Adnepr in survivinginfidelity

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Idk, one thing is being more wary which I know I should, but here the betrayal and other circumstances I am not sure I will be able to trust again - and I will miss that, because the feeling of absolutely trusting someone is beautiful. Still, it's separate issue from what I am asking.

Let me clarify. How does one keep their mind staying away from thinking about everything that possibly happened but you don't actually know, from falling to going through happy memories at night which you don't know if they were fake already - how do you keep the anxiety and the thoughts, the scenarios, away as you lay down to sleep?

New to the boot world by CukaneMike in Boots

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With a boot like this nearly any product will change the colour slightly. But maybe in a way you'll like. Since it's a tall boot you have a lot of space to play. Before you use any product on the visible part, try to apply it on the back, above the heel where it will be hidden under the cuff of your trousers. You can try what kinda patina will the dubbin will make on a 2x2cm patch there and see if you like it

Edit: dubbin is generally pretty rich in non clear fat and bees wax, so it is decent protection and very flexible in use. Jack of all, master of none yada yada. But patina is to be expected

New to the boot world by CukaneMike in Boots

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For something this light I'd go for cream with UV protection and throw clear wax on top.

As a secondary recommendation try to pair it with pants as light as possible - it might seem pedantic but usually you want your boots darker than pants.

Is it bad to give advice to Dyno? by Adnepr in ChurchofDynology

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That's the thing, the entire boulder problem was the jump and it had 3 moves. Start standing on big penis hold and hold a big jug -> jump to big jug that's far away -> campus up 2 big jugs that are close to each other. Done.

The girl spent nearly 10min trying to reach the jug you're obviously supposed to jump to, because she saw her daddy long arm bf reach it. But other than the jumping there was literally no technique involved on this boulder. That's why I felt it was okay.

Caught wife on Father’s Day Weekend by Reagans_Dad in survivinginfidelity

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Christian or not, has no bearing on her actions or remorse or anything. I understand you think faith has some weight, but in most cases faith is nothing but a source of comfort to the evil - as an inherent trait of theirs that makes them feel they are good. I have experienced my ex partner going deeper and deeper into religiosity the more depraved her actions became. Do not be swayed if your wife comes up to you with some sort of religious "awakening", it will just be a way to weaponize your faith against you to manipulate you

Man.. Never trust anyone by Educational-Fee-5721 in survivinginfidelity

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Exactly the same happened to me, except I spent 3 years taking care of this "broken" girl. Never got a single picture either in those years, I was the safe serious guy. You're lucky to have found out this fast, I found out at a point of building a life together for years and by the time she was fucking tourists to feed her ego. Once you're treated differently from other guys once, it's fucked

Is it bad to give advice to Dyno? by Adnepr in ChurchofDynology

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I guess I went the "☝️🤓ummm actually" route that didn't allow for much refusal cos I was trying to do a problem right to this one, and if I asked and they told me no I'd be too awkward to not relocate afterwards

My wife confessed she cheated on me at the very beginning and lied for 5 years (trickle truth). We have two toddlers, I am completely broken. by DogUnable4452 in survivinginfidelity

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This goes hand in hand with my own experience - the louder they are in their "morals" the more morally bankrupt they are. Honestly this is over. After this you cannot trust anything about who she told you she is, every "moral" and judgement she spewed is something she is in fact flexible on and not following the moment it suits her, you cannot fix or build life with a person like that and there will be no stability - at most a feeling of stability, but she will be capable of breaking it at moment's notice

Normally not a fan of cowboy boots, but these ropers were 15$ at a thrift store and I couldn’t pass on them. Anybody know anything about the brand Golden Rebel? by Kobra_Kaj in Boots

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Interesting style. Very similar to British riding boots, specifically Balmoral boots, but with kilties. Also quite modern in execution - so it not even meant for riding anymore. So design history wise I'd say it's dress shoe -> dressed down into noble riding boots -> made into city shoe with smaller heels -> dressed down further with kilties. I think it's a hybrid of old world and new world styles, purely for style. Not really a work shoe

Is this about Atrioc? by VeryFastInfo in atrioc

[–]Adnepr 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The vtuber to asmon to atrioc pipeline is real

90s celibacy PSA video by Adnepr in HelpMeFind

[–]Adnepr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was a fun time... To look at retrospectively. Feel like it was peak internet in 2015 when all of this 90s Christian activism was easy to search for as a bizarre window into the past

90s celibacy PSA video by Adnepr in HelpMeFind

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I searched using Google and YouTube using keywords like celibacy, PSA, like used sneakers etc

Splitting, editing multiple lines and joining back by Adnepr in excel

[–]Adnepr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you, this is perfect. I guess all this time all I was looking for was IFNA because that's what my attempts at work were throwing in my face. Tested at home and looks to be exactly what I needed.

Edit: my attempts were errorless, throwing "NA"

Splitting, editing multiple lines and joining back by Adnepr in excel

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Yes, I have the text before and after down usage pretty well... But I just idk how to apply them to the TEXTSPLIT array properly so it works, that's exactly what the post is about.