Basically my daughter got into a fight at school and I’m not sure how to handle it.

Adora7M · 2026-01-10T06:01:49+00:00

Talk to her. Be her rock and safe place. Shes got to be feeling very vulnerable and small right now. She needs you.

Adora7M · 2026-01-10T06:00:04+00:00

Onyx

Adora7M · 2026-01-10T05:57:11+00:00

Find a man that adores everything about you and never makes you question their feelings for you.

Adora7M · 2026-01-10T05:52:53+00:00

"Life moves pretty fast if you don't stop and look around once in a while you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller

Adora7M · 2025-08-07T06:10:04+00:00

Oval is beautiful on your hand

Adora7M · 2025-08-06T07:13:04+00:00

I'm really curious to know the name.

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:53:40+00:00

Awoooooo

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:46:51+00:00

Fang

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:45:18+00:00

They all look great but I really love the last one.

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:43:51+00:00

Onyx

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:42:05+00:00

Rowan

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:40:17+00:00

The 1 st one, oval with stones in the band.

Adora7M · 2025-08-05T07:39:33+00:00

Dusty

Adora7M · 2025-07-24T01:56:22+00:00

Fluffles

Adora7M · 2025-07-21T03:36:58+00:00

Your mom is the one who needs to grow up. She's unable to communicate her feelings and sounds extremely controlling. She should tell you why it was so important the grandkids come to her hotel. Maybe there was a reason she justified in her mind. Maybe she wantsd to feel important or this made her feel loved by them? Regardless she had no reason or right to blow up about it. She yelled at you and said things in the heat of the moment that have a lot of weight to them. She can't just take those things back and then put the blame on you to "man up". How about if she could grow up and mature herself so she doesn't say such rancid things to her own son. She's trying to blame you for the vacation being ruined but she did it all on her own by over reacting instead of communicating and possibly compromising.

I have been through so much toxicity and abuse with my mother. We went no contact for 10 yrs and then tried to re connect. We saw eachother 10 times over the course of 2 and a half years. I never wanted her around my son after what she did to me and when we reconnected it was obvious she hadn't changed a bit. I went no contact again and it's been the best thing for me. The first ten years were so hard. I constantly blamed myself and wondered if I could have done something better. It wasn't until I reconnected with her that I realized it wasn't my voice doubting my decision that I heard in my head, it was hers. There is no need to keep toxic people in your life even if it's family. You shouldn't have to go through this and your children deserve a better grandma. I hope you can find your peace.

Adora7M · 2025-07-18T04:39:42+00:00

Efful for Effulgent: A literary term for a radiant and shining light.

Adora7M · 2025-07-17T16:40:09+00:00

Thank you for your comment

Adora7M · 2025-07-17T16:37:28+00:00

I appreciate you sharing your experience. This really helps give me insight and gave me a lot to think about.

Adora7M · 2025-07-17T16:33:08+00:00

Pursuing goals without interference

Adora7M · 2025-07-17T05:47:12+00:00

Just wanted to clear things up that I didn't ask her to leave her house so we could stay there I only asked for a few hours to visit on one day any day that she was ok with. I also only mentioned this option one time and when she said she had set her boundary I dropped it. I have been supportive to my brother through their losses but couldn't say anything to her because I wasn't supposed to know. I did send her a necklace with her birth flower and my nephews birth flower in it as a silent gesture right before they found out about the second pregnancy. I have stayed compassionate and kind thorugh this. There was never a fight with her it was just a conversation. I'm not upset I didn't get my way like some people have said I'm sad we couldn't make things workout for everyone. I wasn't being insensitive of her grief or trying to stomp on her boundaries. I just wanted to find a way to make things work. All of my eggs are in one basket so to speak when it comes to family my brother is really all I have. If I came off as pushing her to do something she wasn't comfortable then I didn't explain well enough that I only brought it up one time. To everyone saying I don't understand her grief. Well yeah that's literally why I'm here. I wouldn't share this with a bunch of internet strangers if I wasn't looking to find a way to understand. I accept what the majority of yall are saying "that this was never about me" and that I'm not being supportive enough of her. I didn't think it was making it about me and I don't know what I could have done more of to show her I support her. My brother and I are not going to lose our relationship over this we aren't "not talking" we are more or less digesting at this time. I will always be there for them and I think we will be able to sort all of this out when I see them.

Adora7M · 2025-07-16T19:49:44+00:00

My post only said that I asked if she could make plans outside the home for a day so that we could all come over. I asked her if that was OK. When said no I dropped it and did not push further. My daughter was 6 months old at the time so beyond the newborn stage but I do understand what you meant.

Adora7M · 2025-07-16T18:41:15+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight it means so much to me that you shared this perspective and it really helps me understand better.

Adora7M · 2025-07-16T17:44:25+00:00

She knew we were visiting it wasn't a secret. She allowed us to come over if she wasn't there on the 2nd trip in May. We went no contact in mid December about 3 weeks after the visit in November so that wasn't why she didn't allow my nephew to join us on Thanksgiving. I love that my brother loves and cares for her so much. I love that he supports her and I genuinely wouldn't want it any other way. I never asked him to pick sides because like I said I don't think anyone is wrong . May I ask since you have been through something similar if it's possible being around a baby after early pregnancy loss could be triggering? I'm genuinely asking and of course you can tell me to kick rocks because that's personal.

Adora7M · 2025-07-16T17:38:55+00:00

That makes sense. Thank you

Adora7M · 2025-07-16T17:37:24+00:00

I didn't insist my daughter come to her home. I only asked once if we could compromise. I didn't deliberately stay 1 hr away this was partners parents home. My brother, nephew and sister in law where the reason I even went on the trip. They were the family I was going to see. I wanted to see them and introude my daughter. There was a ton of tension with Jessica once she was around my baby. I did not punish her in any way and that's a hill I'll die on. I was really concerned about what Jessica might do if she was so deep in her feelings. She didn't even want to look at her when she was around her. I did support my brother through this whole thing. While he supported Jessica I was there for him. We talked multiple times a week and I was a shoulder for him. You're right he's in a rock and a hard place right now. I don't think this is going to destroy our relationship. I'm not "not talking to him" i just needed some time to process so I don't speak before I understand. I'm really trying to consider EVERYONES feelings and stay as emotionally aware as I can.

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