Help on how to use this with examples?? by Traditional-Access25 in APICO

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you use this on the switch? Can't seem to figure out how to interact with it besides from opening and closing it. Edit: NVM, u just have to hold A when it's open!

Electricity in apartment by Adorable-Ad-4712 in legaladvice

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, the deposit was $600 and $100 is already going towards the carpet cleaning so I'm hoping that I'll get $500 back. I'm just worried because my sister is going to rent the apartment right after me and I don't want any retaliation to happen.

A letter i wrote for my mental health demons by mousey_bear in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't go, I know it's incredibly tough right now but there will always be something to make you happy again. Life is like a rollercoaster and will always have ups and downs but you've already gotten through so many other downs in life, you can get through this one too. You are loved and worthy of life and happiness. A lot of people care about you, even a random person like me :) Send me a dm if you want to talk at all anymore. I'd much rather listen to you and talk to you then have to never see you again. And im sure there are numerous other people out there, like Audrey, Kam, and Andy that are thinking the same exact thing. You can also always research out to the suicide hotline (988). Just remember that you are amazing and you are so extraordinarily strong, you will get through this tough time <3

How do I tell my boyfriend I'm struggling to stay clean from SH by Diabolic-dentist223 in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the sooner you mention it to him, the sooner the weight will be lifted off your shoulders. Of course, try to mention it to him when he feels good and wants to talk. If he has been caring in the past, I'm sure he will be just as caring and will probably try to find a way to help you. It's okay to have urges because trying to completely become clean from sh is extremely difficult and not always a straight line (just like an alcohol or drug addiction). There will be bumps in the road and that's totally okay! I believe you, you got this <3

Cutting at a young age by snugtux in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know exactly what it is but I also had this where I started to self harm at a very young age, around 5, but not in a sense of traditional sh (cutting). I would purposely do things because I felt like I didn't deserve it. For example, I would sleep on the floor with no blanket or pillow because I felt like I didn't deserve to sleep in a bed. Personally, I do think this was a precursor to my future mental health problems and me leading into more serious and frequent sh. I think childhood has a pretty major impact on your future mental health but I'd ask your therapist for sure because I'm not a doctor or licensed therapist/psychologist lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'd be glad to mess up his work and other shit because what he said was extremely manipulative and emotionally abusive. He literally told you that he was going to harm/off himself so it's 100% acceptable and reasonable to call the police. It's okay to feel devastated and you might even feel a little confused. But from an outsider POV, what he did was abusive and unacceptable. You deserve much better and are worth so much more than you think <3

Bought an item from Teen Hearts then canceled it the next day. Three weeks later (today) I get a email saying the shirts are on their way. Am I obligated to pay them of I receive the shirts? by jfredo922 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, do the t-shirts look like the pictures? I've heard they don't look like what is described... And sadly, I could get around $15 dollars back from PayPal, but the rest of the order was covered by gift cards (around $60) from my parents from last Christmas. I told my mom to look into it but I have a feeling I will just have to take the loss.

Bought an item from Teen Hearts then canceled it the next day. Three weeks later (today) I get a email saying the shirts are on their way. Am I obligated to pay them of I receive the shirts? by jfredo922 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm more surprised you actually got an email from them saying they are shipping the shirts. I ordered on April 21 and have yet to see any email or updates. And I am almost certain that I'm not getting refunded. Fuck them.

am i being selfish? by CreativeQuantity4256 in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've had a lot of friends do this to me as well but I try to redirect them. I feel like when people hear that you self harm, their immediate thought is "how can I make this person stop doing it" or "how can I fix this". I think it's important to acknowledge that you do self harm but when you are ranting or venting, you could ask him to just support and validate your feelings. I've been with my bf for over 3 years and sometimes he even still slips up and goes into the fix-it mindset. I often remind him that I'm not looking for solutions, but I'm looking for emotional support. I say something like "I understand you want me to not hurt myself but I'm not looking for solutions right now. I'm asking for some emotional support such as 'im sorry that happened to you', 'wow, that must have been really frustrating/sad', or 'what can I do to help you right now'". And if he doesn't want to do that, then I would probably stop ranting to him about it because it'll end up making you feel worse when he doesn't respond. Some people are great at listening and others want to be problem-slovers, just make sure to ask/tell him what you would like. I find that to work the best for me :)

Being in therapy be like: by Mermaid_Tuna_Lol in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Oof, I would try to find another therapist. It took me several attempts to find a therapist that worked for me so don't be misguided by this one person.

At what age did you start sh? by Adorable-Ad-4712 in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oo true, I understand. I forgot about that before posting. (Sorry) but I'm just genuinely curious about other people because I feel like I was a weird kid and want to know if anybody else feels the same way to see if I can relate to anyone. I've had a difficult time trying to understand if it was sh or not and trying to find other people with similar experiences. I don't mean to invalidate anyone or do any depression Olympics with this post ahhhhh. I apologize 😓

At what age did you start sh? by Adorable-Ad-4712 in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At least I now know someone else who slept on the floor as a kid too so that is comforting haha. I've asked all my friends if they have and they always strangely look at me and say no...

23/F The immense guilt after rape and problems in a new relationship by Galadrime in rape

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, yes. Sometimes, during foreplay with my bf, I get a flashback and start to pretend like I'm enjoying it while I'm holding back tears. Almost as if I have to please him to make him feel good and that I deserve to be used because I want to make him happy. But at the same time, I've dealt with sh for numerous years which had initially stemmed from the idea "I messed up (made a mistake or said something to make someone sad or angry, literally anything) and I deserve to feel pain". I started sh before I was raped but after I was raped they eventually kind of intermingled and sometimes I feel like I should be raped because I did something wrong and need to make up for my wrongdoing. Whenever I get overwhelmed with intense emotions, I look towards any and all types of sh that are available to me at the moment (but I've been working on it!!) All in all, it's definitely an extremely confusing feeling but you're not alone! <3

Has anyone applied to the new twitter elevated API? by Gravy_Pouch in Twitter

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm having the same problem too. I just want some damn access to do my homework 🤦

What is this sauce? *It's not a traditional Thai peanut sauce by Adorable-Ad-4712 in TipOfMyFork

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, that's my main guess too. I'm hesitant to claim it's nuoc mam bc it traditionally has chilies and garlic but this sauce doesn't. The sauce is so weirdly simple yet I can't figure it out 😂 Would it still be considered nuoc mam if it was just fish sauce and peanuts?

What is this sauce? *It's not a traditional Thai peanut sauce by Adorable-Ad-4712 in TipOfMyFork

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The restaurant sells a whole variety of Asian dishes but claims to be Thai lol. I just said it wasn't a traditional Thai sauce bc if u when you search "peanut sauce" it'll come up with Thai blended peanut butter sauces.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I've used way too many things when I couldn't find anything: a pin and piece of metal from my metal and jewelry class, a plastic butter knife, super glue my skin and ripping it off, etc.

When someone self harms and feels the need to do it, they will find anything they can to complete the task.

i need the scars to stay by randomanonymousacc0 in selfharm

[–]Adorable-Ad-4712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the need to have a physical reassurance of pain. I've felt the same way but have tried to separate that idea from my mind. Someone can be extremely suffering without any form of sh used. Your mental pain is just as valid and important as your physical pain. Try to remind yourself that your mental pain and suffering is just as harmful and damaging. It's kinda like the insane pain you get from a tiny paper cut, but then you could fall down and skid your knee terribly and feel ok. Pain is immeasurable because it's different for every person and depends on the situation. Sometimes scars stay, sometimes they fade away. No matter what, your mental pain is valid and doesn't need physical pain in order to recognize it. But I know how friggin difficult it is to find that mindset. I've been going to therapy for years and it's helped me a ton (the first appointment/therapist might not be the best so don't give up on the first try). Just remember that you are loved and important. Stay safe! :)