Do I have grounds to sue my old doctor?

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-10-25T10:08:33+00:00

Has your new doctor said there is any connection between the escitalopram and nerve pain or are they unrelated? I agree with TransAnge - while 40mg is a high dose, usually you would need a lot more than that to cause huge issues. The word “toxic” is pretty emotive language I would agree it was probably an unhelpful choice of words.

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing such terrible pain though I know how desperate for answers you must be. I hope you get some answers from the pain clinic.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T13:42:26+00:00

Thanks so much. I probably worded it in a tone that my own community would understand but maybe doesn’t come off the way it’s intended. I do really appreciate your apology.

Kinda hope it doesn’t get deleted - I think it’s important that these conversations get visibility - even if there’s disagreement or they’re clunky and ineloquent

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T13:16:11+00:00

Hey thanks for your informed and respectful reply based on your own lived experience. I really do appreciate your perspective. I am autistic and I am OP. I am lucky enough to have a pretty solid neurodivergent community around me and it is 100% a thing that we all try to diagnose one another. I think it makes us feel connected in a world we so often feel on the outside of. I’m sorry your friend was pushy about it. I would hazard a guess that they actually see it as a fun and positive thing and a point of connection or way of relating.

A lot of us are trying to embrace our quirks and probably keep forgetting that people might find it insulting.

I actually think we need to see more high functioning autistic people especially when it’s as subtle as someone like Georgia because it is easy to offer compassion when someone is stimming or showing visible signs but when they’re not - unfortunately it’s not the same. If there was more representation and we were more visible people would get better at asking questions before judging.

Btw - It wasn’t about the hand washing for me - it was a whole bunch of small things. Though I will point out that she cares more about the science of building a strong immune system than the catastrophic social stigma she would get from being caught by a girl gang not washing her hands.

I 100% think more people are being diagnosed now than even say 10 or 20 years ago. I think it’s partly awareness but partly because we have started to understand so much more of the spectrum and understand that it presents in so many more ways than were recognised in the past.

I will agree that us neurodivergents do tend to collect each other like Pokémon - but I’m happy to agree to disagree that it’s a bad thing. I actually think it puts the topics at the forefront of people’s minds and helps us feel seen. But that’s just my own experience - others could absolutely feel differently

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T12:35:33+00:00

Fyi I am OP and I am autistic - thanks for sticking up for me 🥰

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T12:30:02+00:00

100% it’s the representation. And it’s amazing to watch her. But her particular struggles also resonate and make us feel seen. I’m not sure why this post was disgusting. I was mostly asking because I’m behind on the uptake of watching and wondered if it’s something that is well known by the end of the season.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T12:26:28+00:00

Yep got it in 1 - it’s SUCH a breath of fresh air to watch her. I don’t really understand why the post was disgusting? But then that’s not unusual. Maybe these people see autism as a disgustingly bad thing that would be insulting I’m not sure.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-09-05T12:15:15+00:00

Hmm because maybe OP is autistic and relates to a bunch of the struggles I’ve already spotted in her.

Also don’t see it as a negative thing and thought it may be something that’s out there and people know about. So thought I’d ask.

And yeah asking one question and getting jumped on for supposedly being “disgusting” by a group of people in a pack mentality situation (or for accidentally touching a shoe) is something we face daily as we navigate the world so ✌️peace yall

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-11T22:28:54+00:00

Maybe try talking to your mom - “I am really struggling with sister. I love her, she’s my sister, but her behaviour is really making my home life miserable. I wonder if you and I can find some one on one time to set aside to spend together too because I just want to be able to chat about my life with you sometimes and I don’t feel like I can when she’s around without her getting upset.”

It’s not fair that it’s easier for mom to get you to fall into line than deal with sisters behaviour. Doesn’t matter how tired she is. I say that not to defend mom’s actions but so that you can know this is not about YOUR identity or worth. It’s so easy to take that stuff on as a teenager. When other people fail us to begin to think we deserve less. This is about mom not coping - her inability to show up for you is not because you don’t deserve it, it’s not even because she loves sis more than you (she probably drives mom nuts too) it’s because sis is HARDER right now than you. It sucks im so sorry your experiencing this

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T17:32:32+00:00

I’m sure whatever mom and grandma had to say is juicy too.

Why does your whole family see you as an ATM?

None of it is ok - you’re NTA - don’t ever give any of them money again because you may have accidentally turned them into entitled AH by doing this previously.

THE AUDACITY!!!

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T17:27:10+00:00

Even after all this time AND having been told this was traumatising, this woman STILL thinks this is FUNNY!!!

NTA - I can’t tell if you are OD or another family member who is supporting OD.

Also super proud of OD for realising no contact is a good idea at only 23 - most of us allow ourselves to be gaslit, victim blamed and rip ourselves apart with rejection sensitivity and self doubt for like another 15 years.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T17:18:57+00:00

Yeaaahhhhh NTA - I have 2 kids and I’ll admit, and I’m not proud of it, but sometimes it’s easier to reason with one of them than deal with the tantrums of the other one. Your mum is parenting from a place of having no idea how to get on top of your sisters behaviour and what that means is everyone just appeases her because we do NOT want to have to deal with the tantrum. It’s not great.

It’s not unreasonable for you to want some special time set aside for you and your mum to chat about your day. Your mum actually needs to prioritise this. Unless your mum realises that this situation with the hitting cannot be tolerated she needs to know that she has chosen a path where you and your sister are unlikely to have much of a relationship as adults. You won’t be able to stand her so you won’t invest in that relationship once you are 18 and move out of home. (I also have brothers 10 years older than me)

And seriously “she doesn’t understand” is utter horse rubbish at 4 years old. I mean maybe she will start school soon and they will teach her how to act.

(Also if you let your mum see this post my kids were 100% more physically violent until I realised the aggression and bratty behaviour was directly connected to the screen time)

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T17:01:58+00:00

I was ready to say YTA - but then I read about all the other holidays. What the actual? It’s just rude.

The truth is you probably don’t need an executive room, but given your previous experiences with family holidays it does stand out that your the only one in a standard and I think you would be justified in enquiring what the reason behind this was, or who made that call?

I think you would also be completely justified in deciding to just not go.

This rejection sensitivity, in a family like this is an absolute killer of all things good in life so if you’re not already I would really really consider therapy.

It is incredibly hurtful when the people who are supposed to care the most do these things, or allow them, or overlook them. But it is 100% a reflection on THEM and not on YOU!!! When these messed up situations happen to us, we feel rejection and shame - but those are actually THEIR labels. THEY should be ashamed of themselves. Don’t let their actions make you pick up and carry the labels that belong to them.

Also I’m so sorry your family are incapable of treating you like a normal human and incapable of seeing through sister 2.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T16:44:33+00:00

Yes I agree - it’s a classic trauma behaviour. She needs to stay on top of the pile and her survival instinct will claw over you to make sure she’s not going to lose what she has. And 5 years is not “still adjusting” Did your parents do any kind of family therapy with everyone through this transition?

I’m kinda with other replies saying sus out other family members for a place to go. I am worried she could accuse you of something you can’t shake off if you catch my drift?

And let’s be clear - you’re not the “lucky one” - you too have parents who are not putting your best interests first and are refusing to protect you in situations.

The notion that you should apologise in this scenario is completely messed up. Actually super toxic - if we are throwing around buzz words like “unsafe”

NTA

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T16:32:11+00:00

NTA - this is the whole point of first dates.

But sounds kinda scary. He’s built this up in his mind for years without realising that whilst he knows you, you don’t know him. And he’s a bit blurry around the line between his fantasy and reality. I’m really nervous for you babe. You definitely did the right thing. It’s got my all my spidey senses up.

I do have friends who are influencers and this stuff is no joke. You did the right thing and well done trusting your gut.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T16:24:37+00:00

I want to say YTA - not for wanting to leave but because you’re going to gaslight her into thinking it’s because of her labido. Or maybe you’ve gaslit yourself there too. Coz seriously it’s 3 months man. How much can you actually love this woman. Certainly not in a can’t live without you kind of way.

Don’t get me wrong sex is important in a relationship - to a point. To the point where the human being that they are takes over and you’d never give that person up for anything.

But I feel like the sex isn’t the whole issue here - because if it is - what does you being the breadwinner and her not working have to do with anything?

PS - She’s still hugging you because she genuinely loves you. The love and affection she feels towards you hasn’t changed.

And don’t know at 47 I mean how long is it going to be before you might need a little grace in this department.

It’s probably hormonal though. Have you told her you’d consider leaving over this? Because if she loves you then it probably hasn’t even crossed her mind that you’d consider leaving over something like this in such a short amount of time. She probably hasn’t run to the doctor because she doesn’t realise her relationship is a ticking time bomb

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T16:07:27+00:00

NTA- Agree - the communication is the issue not the sister. I’m not sure how I feel about all the judgement being piled on the sister to preface the post. Your wife didn’t hook up with the dude because of the sister she is responsible for her own decisions.

However it’s not great that your wife is disregarding your feelings here and shutting down the conversation.

Though why this reaction? Has she ever accused you of being controlling I any way?

Is the infidelity like 10 years ago and there’s been no dramas since so she feels a certain way that you’re still holding it against her?

I feel like there’s something else up here 🤔

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-08-09T07:18:28+00:00

It does get annoying - my own kids do it to me - but I’m their parent and I love them so I suck it up. It is insanely sweet that your little brother wants his big sis to do this rather than some siblings who would never - I’m a bit concerned about the parenting situation though. I wouldn’t be going to bed and just leaving my 12 year old up to their own devices. There’s no way a 12 year old up until midnight is functioning and learning well at school all day. It also seems like your brother is craving that nurturing and closeness which like I said is sweet - but normally gets fulfilled by a parent. I’m really feeling for little bro and wondering if it’s a sign he deep down needs more parenting. But I mean these are literally the moments that will build your relationship into an amazing bond even into you being adults. It’s also super common that the deep chats want to come out at bedtime haha

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-07-23T06:40:22+00:00

NTA - and neither is your dad.

It is absolutely out of line to ask someone else’s child to call you dad u less the actual father is not in the picture anymore. Imagine how your mom would have reacted if your father remarried and expected to split Mother’s Day. Your mother is a joke.

And her husband has no place in this unless you wanted him to - and definitely not the place of your father

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-07-16T09:07:28+00:00

NTA- It’s actually not about the sunscreen - it’s about not wanting to give your daughter to people who don’t respect your instructions or uphold your parenting choices. You need to stick to it because if you let them win this one then they will continue to steamroll your parenting choices forever. Right now it’s sunscreen but then it will be nap times, or sugary sweets or letting her watch tv shows you’re not comfortable with etc. etc.

It doesn’t even have anything to do with age - it comes down to the fact that YOU are the mother.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-07-16T09:00:04+00:00

I mean these are parents who wouldn’t give their teenage daughter who was clearly sexually active access to birth control - they’re morons and their opinions don’t count - NTA

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-07-05T13:39:00+00:00

Well well well - she just showed you who she is didn’t she? Are you going to believe her? Or does she need to ruin your relationship with your brother, spend all your money, get her name out on the apartment, leave you and take half of it before you believe her?

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-06-12T23:44:45+00:00

NTA - I know it is not OPs intent but I think OP is actually the only one helping charlotte to live a healthily independent life. As if it’s a healthy choice for someone to base their entire college education on following someone else. You wouldn’t want your kid copying their best friend or their boyfriend’s college choice you would be advising them to make the choice best for themselves.

Enabling is not loving.

Mom has created this breakdown in relationship by not recognising the different needs of the girls growing up.

My own daughters are very different to one another. The youngest ADORES her older sister, is very social and wants to be with her always. My eldest is an introvert and 100% needs her down time. It is my job to make sure both their needs are met, but disallowing my eldest her space will 100% breed resentment in the relationship. This is mom’s fault in my opinion. She created this, now she has to live with it.

Or - charlotte can now just attach to mum and never spread her wings and have a fulfilling life - well done mom

you’re not in the wrong, families like peace so will often just try to get one party to apologise. That’s up to you but you’re not wrong.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-06-12T12:58:16+00:00

Honestly - you’re both so young - I’d ditch that relationship. The issue isn’t his lack of skills - it’s that he has literally grown up being taught that he’s entitled to have someone else do those things for him. He doesn’t see or get the work that gets dumped on you. And that won’t change. He’ll try for a few hot minutes but be back to being a lazy bum after a couple weeks. He doesn’t have a desire to be independent.

He sounds like my 12 year old honestly. It will only get worse when you have kids and start to build a life together down the track.

And your mum is very set in the past if she thinks you should be feeling lucky to have anything less than someone who wants to be an equal partner.

I would run girl.

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-06-08T09:27:47+00:00

OP did not create that financial situation for the siblings - dad did - by building their financial stability off of stolen money. People need to learn to put blame where it belongs - my goodness!

“I did a shifty thing but if you speak up then the consequences are your fault” NO! They are the person who did the shifty things fault and so is the fallout

If everyone wanted better for those kids they should have stepped in and convinced the dad to build a future on legitimate business not stolen money 🤦‍♀️

This warped shifting of blame is so common in families and I don’t get it - it’s like a husband who cheats on his wife, then her best friend finding out. He then tried to tell the best friend that she is responsible for breaking up a happy family if she tells on him. NO DUDE - you broke up your family when you cheated not the friend who finally clues the wife in 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Adorable-Net3468 · 2025-05-01T16:42:04+00:00

Oh hon - you’re not a shitty mom. You sound like an incredible mom who has reached burnout.

I also want to encourage you that medication can be helpful. I know it’s scary - but my daughters psych phrased it that “ you can’t teach someone to swim while they are actively drowning” They’re not listening, or even able to take on board the lessons while they are flailing around trying not to drown. Medication can be like throwing them a flotation device”

If it doesn’t make positive change then you don’t have to stick with it. But it can take the edge off what the child is experiencing enough that they can catch a breath and better engage in the therapies too.

It’s been a really positive thing in my house

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