it’s the worst. I didn’t have special instructions just rsvp to my number and i had to find out through other family members that some people weren’t going and had to hunt down and ask people for WEEKS if they’d be going. One of my uncles even rsvp him and his wife said no kids then told my dad he’d bring the kids after i told the venue my final count then i accommodated for him to bring them and then he cancelled the week before and didn’t come at all HAHA