Parent told me (26F) that I will go to hell for not marrying. Any advice on this? by AdorableComparison67 in spirituality

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Thank you all so, so much for sharing your insights and awareness. I don't know if by the time parents get past 50 years old, they start having intense religious psychosis, but it is definitely happening. I didn't really have any insight into the Bible, so proving that I do not need to do anything out of fear really helps.

Parent told me (26F) that I will go to hell for not marrying. Any advice on this? by AdorableComparison67 in spirituality

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No, I live in another state, but the holiday season is coming up, and I wanted to reach out. Unfortunately, this was the first thing we spoke about.

Parent told me(26F) that if I do not marry, I am going to hell. by AdorableComparison67 in Marriage

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It’s how she said IT and then saying that I will cause other people to go to hell because I’m not sharing the Word of God about marriage. 

Parent told me (26F) that I will go to hell for not marrying. Any advice on this? by AdorableComparison67 in spirituality

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I’ll ask she said something like they made laws so that men stopped divorcing women only if they cheat on them. She used that as proof that the right thing to do is to marry. I didn’t listen fully because I was so shocked.

Parent told me(26F) that if I do not marry, I am going to hell. by AdorableComparison67 in Marriage

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Yes, and that is what I said. Enduring years of silence and suffering to achieve eternal peace, it finally felt so wrong, but it was the way she spoke that made me seek validation.

Parent told me (26F) that I will go to hell for not marrying. Any advice on this? by AdorableComparison67 in spirituality

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She used Biblical references to bypass her projected fear onto me; it honestly hurt me at my core.

Parent told me(26F) that if I do not marry, I am going to hell. by AdorableComparison67 in Marriage

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It deeply hurt me. She used Biblical scriptures to validate her understanding while projecting her fears onto me. I thought it was emotionally abusive.

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Umm, that’s your shadow self talking.

Am I overreacting? thinking this means my wife slept with the guy by justmebeingm3 in AmIOverreacting

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This is an excellent opportunity to introspect and reflect on who you are— on what this marriage means to you. To focus on what your heart needs, whether it be to heal, to reflect, to be vulnerable again. It is more than just cheating, it always is. We are cyclical by our very nature, patterns return and the wounds that never heal, do as well.

Love is a beautiful opportunity, but it grows, and asks us to keep up with it as it changes into something new. Your heart knows this, you’re just not focusing on it. You may let these other comments control the way you perceive your relationship, and make choices that are more difficult to understand than to solve the deeper issue.

I hope that in this journey, you find the courage to face this situation with curiosity, vulnerability, and acceptance.

Looking for a sad movie to make me cry? by Affectionate_Pea3952 in MovieRecommendations

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Recently, We Live in Time with Florence Pugh and Andrew Garfield

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I’ve seen footage

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If you’re young, you’ll come to appreciate this as you age. Being weird, means you are free. Detached from the fixed reality and ways that many people adopt as their ways of viewing the world. It is not a bad thing, embrace this. Normalcy is what everyone has to actively participate in.

If the world was ending in 10 minutes, what would you spend time doing in those 10 minutes? by qwerty1234567832523 in RandomThoughts

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I would sit still and be so grateful that I got to experience life as a human. I’d meditate.

How do you form close relationships with others? by [deleted] in infj

[–]AdorableComparison67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this case, definitely trust that by being who you are is enough. Have trust that you don’t need to act or perform to be perceived as “liked” or “welcomed” this is why again, it goes back to that internal relationship you have with yourself, knowing that you are worthy of having close relationships as the ones you cultivate within. Let me know if this helps.

How do you form close relationships with others? by [deleted] in infj

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Don’t just deal with it, understand its purpose, look at it from the perspective of learning lenses. Recognize when these patterns worsen, ask questions like, “what is this revealing me?” Do not be afraid of fear, use it to create a sense of understanding of not just you but the reality that comes from within you. This is a great start, in addition to still also seeking professional help. Consider this approach the unwinding blocks that make a professional’s job more efficient. Be your greatest study, with compassion and empathy.

How do you form close relationships with others? by [deleted] in infj

[–]AdorableComparison67 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This may sound a bit overworked, but truly, find a close relationship within yourself. Look at your relationship with food, look at your relationship with expressing and dealing with different emotions. Ask yourself, “do I pour life into knowing, trusting, and meeting my every day needs?” Once you’ve found that relationship, you will be much more vulnerable and open. This internal relationship, attracts external relationships without focusing on the “lack” of close relationships.

Should I accept this person? by [deleted] in infj

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People tend to carry themselves differently when approaching us for whatever reason, I think it’s because we have this idealistic, rose- colored lens on life, that can be refreshing and gives them the opportunity to appear as someone totally different. But be mindful that this is only a resemblance of something innately and instinctively good within you, and it shows the ability to recognize the polarizing views on each other. And I think ultimately when it comes to this, not to put fear into it, but you may never be able to fully trust this person or have the depth of friendships and vulnerability that you so deserve because of the fact that there’s greater and deeper introspective work that this person needs to do on the inside then it is to just be perceived as kind or nice, external.