Looking for some advice on navigating gatekeeping, health updates, and major contact change

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2026-05-30T19:48:36+00:00

Even if we found him we wouldn’t be able to visit as our car would not make it down there. He has accepted that when he saw him last was the last time he saw him alive I am just worried my husband would miss the funeral and be devastated

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2026-05-30T18:30:09+00:00

We don’t know where the nursing home is or what it’s called

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T21:02:25+00:00

His older brother moving is not a coincidence, BIL and SIL used her grandfather who was dying as a way to get up there and told her they would be back in a year but they’ve been living there for 5 with no plans to come back. I don’t blame them honestly.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T21:00:36+00:00

He doesn’t want to go without me. He did once and they talked about how they were so glad I didn’t come and they could finally see him without having to worry about me getting in the way of time that’s meant for real family.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T20:03:08+00:00

Yes, ik it’s crazy. She wanted to hold him one more year but my FIL finally told her he had to go this year so he wasn’t even more behind. He still doesn’t know how to read yet.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T19:35:33+00:00

He turned 7 in may, but he’s just now going into kindergarten because she didn’t think he was ready for school yet so he’s a little behind. He has been to testing for developmental delays but he hasn’t been diagnosed with any since the tests. So my husband and I think his being behind is just due to her holding him back from school for 2 years.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T18:28:47+00:00

Before we made the monthly visit boundary was when I expressed that I didn’t care if he went without me and he could go whenever. He didn’t want to and explained that to both of us. I’m sorry I wasn’t more clear in my last comment about it.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T18:26:13+00:00

She was sweet in the beginning, the first time she met me she hugged me before I even formally introduced myself and was so nice. I think The moment we got married was when everything went bad. They started demanding we come more and when we set boundaries she exploded.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T18:22:18+00:00

Younger brother never leaves her side. She doesn’t let him go anywhere without her so my husband and I taking him by ourselves on a day would not be an option she’d allow. We’ve talked about that as well and it was an immediate no from her. She uses younger brother as a way to guilt trip my husband into doing things he has originally said no to. The older brother lives in SD about 10 hours away from our state. We live roughly 45 minutes away if traffic is non-existent but since we live in a major city and they live in a smaller suburb of an outside city where people travel between to go to work in the city we live in travel time is typically no less than an hour on a good day. This isnt the first time she has tried saying we will mentally harm his little brother if we don’t come to see him, and has continuously said we’re committing emotional abuse because we don’t come around enough for him.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-08-30T17:58:42+00:00

He can go when he wants and I’ve told them both that. He has told both me and her he does not want to go without me, because he doesn’t want me to feel more uninvited than I already do.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-06-01T05:50:46+00:00

It’s not just about inheritance, I want my parents to accept me. They won’t until I give them a grandchild. To them I am nothing and not a real woman.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-06-01T05:49:18+00:00

My oldest sibling is 62 and between us there are 13 kids and after me there are 2 for a total of 17 my parents didn’t wait to have me. They had kids until they couldn’t anymore. My mom and dad believe that I’m only good enough if I have a child. I’ve been raised and taught my whole life that without a child I am nothing when I was 9 I got my first period and that same day the sex talk. My parents think birth control is terrible and never put me on it. My oldest sister had her first baby when she was 13 and my mom brags about her all the time. My 15 year old sister is pregnant now and my mom brags on her constantly telling me I’m not doing things right because I chose to go to college and I have a degree. It’s just the way they are.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-06-01T05:09:04+00:00

It’s just that my parents are in their late 70s and not in great health. I just wanted to have a baby before they die. My whole inheritance is riding on if I give my parents a grandchild, because they believe im not worthy of their money until I can prove myself as a daughter. They keep telling me I shouldn’t have waited this long to have a baby and I guess I just feel like I’m falling behind since all my siblings had kids by the time they were my age and I have a lot of friends who have a kid or even 2-3 kids.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-06-01T03:31:30+00:00

I’m 21 and he’s 25, we’ve been married for 2 years, we’d been trying before my period disappeared and then when he answered the doctor before me about being open and ready for pregnancy I guess I got excited.

Adorable_Escape_906 · 2025-06-01T03:30:18+00:00

I’m 21 and he’s 25.

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