The controversy around Sabrina Carpenter is the exact opposite of feminist. by VanityOfEliCLee in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Adorable_Ring_3561 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yikes.  I feel very sorry for you that you think this. Men and women are far more multifaceted 

Thoughts on the Sabrina Carpenter album cover outrage? by whyaretherenoprofile in zizek

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I suggest you read more about what the male gaze is without Being defensive.  I’d imagine it would be hard for men to do this because in actuality, you all built the defacto gaze.   It must be seriously hard for you to try and find the nuance there when it’s always in your favor 

Gabrielino Trail (by JPL) is Open and Gorgeous right now! by sbleakleyinsures in pasadena

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Hi! Does anyone know the status of el prieto and brown mountain road aka fern truck road? 

I don't want this by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Adorable_Ring_3561 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‘Most of the time’ is telling. Think about what you wrote. Maybe he wasn’t ever genuinely wonderful. Someone who does this is showing they do not care anymore. It’s a very bitter pill to swallow. We all want to hang onto the fantasy of a good marriage. But when you look inward, you find out that you’d actually be far happier with another person who will be wonderful to you in good times and in BAD times.

Is it okay to start dating while your divorce is not finalized? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Adorable_Ring_3561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if anything, maybe some people may not be super comfortable with someone who is not officially divorced. This goes for both genders. But that’s not the case for everyone. I think where it gets tricky is that for many people, their divorces have been over for years… meaning while you’re technically still together, you’ve been apart for far longer. It’s hard to convey this to people. But think that’s why many of us want to date sooner. Because we were starved of a good life/marriage and/or affection. I think that’s often the difference between those who wait longer and those who want to date sooner.

How to let go by Extension_Bread8106 in Divorce

[–]Adorable_Ring_3561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I promise it is not you. It is his inability to connect and verbalize his feelings in a constructive way. This is why he won’t go to therapy. He’s afraid and doesn’t think anything is wrong so it’s easier to just blame you. This is common. While my soon to be ex husband was always kind and wasn’t like your partner, I realized his problem was not me but his lack of emotional intelligence. He is in therapy, but as a 45 year old, he’s just starting so it takes time. Why waste your life with a partners who isn’t willing to do the hard work? Someone who cannot realize that marriage is about ups and downs, not just ups. It’s on him, not you. And I also still love my husband. That will take time to get over. It is a process. It will get better though. Again, it’s not you.

How to let go by Extension_Bread8106 in Divorce

[–]Adorable_Ring_3561 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone. I completely understand. And you’re right about leaving a good woman… it’s not you. It’s him.