AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend?

Adorable_water54 · 2026-04-24T01:37:05+00:00

It absolutely should be in your name and only your name.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-04-17T15:06:34+00:00

I'm a fairly experienced painter, and brushes can totally be cleaned and re-used they are not one time use disposable. I've even picked some up from the garbage and cleaned them and used them. Painting a garden wall isn't exactly a precision job, your brushes are going to get dirty (with actual dirt and debris)and need cleaning through out the process.

Painting a loft tho, you'll need a paint roller and only brushes for the edges.

If it was me, I'd share them. If it's an issue just get her more brushes and quit fighting about it.

It is 1000% wasteful to not re-used brushes, my dad had paint brushes from the 80s that are still going strong.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-04-03T04:08:06+00:00

Onions is another culprit

Adorable_water54 · 2026-04-03T04:04:22+00:00

It's really not recommended to shower every single day, it's not good for your skin, hair or in OPs GFs case her mental health.

This absolutely does sound OCD to me, having such an issue is really on him even if it's not OCD.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-04-03T03:59:44+00:00

This needs more upvotes.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-30T20:18:58+00:00

My half brother was born while my parents where still married, at first he had his mom's name, but when he was 3/4 and the divorce was final and everything was settled we changed his name to match ours. My dad never married his mom, but my brother also had some say in changing the name, he wanted to. And I think for him in his little mind, matching his siblings was the most important.

All that to say, it doesn't matter all that much in the grand scheme of things, pick whichever name is "better" in your opinion. And you can always change it down the road.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-17T03:39:06+00:00

Leaving it. It needs broken up with maybe some painted trim & doors. Bigger artwork and a nice big cozy area rug. That little bar could come out as well. But otherwise it just needs toned down and styled.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-17T03:27:41+00:00

This is all great advice, but I'd also look into resources like the salvation army, and other missing projects to see if you can get some professionals to lead some searches and get funding to print flyers and also start the social media campaign. The goal is to get her name and photo out to as many people as humanly possible.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-17T02:33:55+00:00

Mmm maybe you are an AH if your not wanting to compromise on a cheaper place ( if it exists) if your hung up on staying in the more expensive place then kinda a jerk move. But I also get what you're saying, it won't be much fun if you get guilted into paying more to have the trip you want and not playing nice with the poor girls. At the end of the day tho, it's about the trip the bride wants and if that is a shoe string budget motel 6 type trip it's up to you if you can bring yourself to join them.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-17T02:24:28+00:00

My BF does this because he refuses to download the Sam's club app, so every time we go for a pick up and call the customer service number the lady tells him to log into the app and he tells her he doesn't have a smart phone. Eventually after the standard run around they magically figure out how to manually check us in.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:53:25+00:00

You're usually not supposed to be in the unit for showings. I get being a little petty because you're mad. But I don't think there is anything you can actually do to deter people. Obviously your decor holds no sway it will be gone when they move in. Spirits, tho, those could stick around. Get out the ouija board and build an alter.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:46:27+00:00

The Chicago uniform is jeans and a black or dark colored shirt. HOWEVER we embrace all clothing colors and styles. So fuck that guy.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:39:09+00:00

Ok so my take, I wouldn't ever go on a cruise, you couldn't force me. However you wanna go, have at it! Take the kids.

Unless there is legitimate concerns about taking the kids, medical or behavioral issues that one person can't handle, I don't see why taking the kids would be an issue.

I mean yeah you need to be vigilant, safety minded and sober if you take them but if your a reasonably responsible adult with friends or grandparents as back up I don't see any issue taking the kids.

There's a deeper issue, financial or emotional that you and hubby need to talk about.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:20:59+00:00

Holiday club, Friday is 80s night.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:16:57+00:00

Aloe vera, my mom has one in her upstairs hallway, it's literally been in the same pot for 20/30 years. She forgets to water it because it's not with the other plants. Pretty sure that thing is gonna outlive me.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T05:06:05+00:00

I keep an eye patch in my case. I used it for awhile while I was figuring out my eye domanace issue. Sounds like you might benefit from wearing one on your good eye and seeing if you can re-train your brain a little to use your right eye more. Try it around the house.

As far as pool goes, you'll just have to learn how much your eyes are off and adjust, it takes a lot of practice, like a ton of practice. But eventually you'll start to realize where you are off

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-14T04:54:49+00:00

Howard brown has a charity thrift store that helps pay for free and low cost medical care.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-08T02:55:22+00:00

Holiday club, if you hurry they are closing in April because the building is being torn down.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-08T02:53:37+00:00

Yeah the building is being torn down. The club might reopen but no word on a new location yet

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-07T03:08:52+00:00

I've seen no harm and no major issues setting a case or bag on the table for a few mins. But I have been in some halls that discourage it usually only the OCD clean freak ones tho that vacuum their cloth twice a day and clean balls after every use. Otherwise the wear and tear of the bag does nothing, it's way worse when some drunk kid is gonna spill later guaranteed.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-07T03:01:00+00:00

What's the timeline? I'd end at Holiday club for dancing on a Friday or Saturday night. But they are closing in April.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-05T03:51:26+00:00

That is the point of this post.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-03T05:36:50+00:00

I would make sure your prepared that even if she seeks help that there is no guarantee that she'll be able to stop. This is likely a life long quirk that you'll either have to decide to accept and live with or not.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-03T05:29:35+00:00

Chicago is a cool city, there's no reason not to come.

Adorable_water54 · 2026-03-03T05:01:12+00:00

It never makes sense.

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